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BFN- off to do some 'normal things'

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The clinic said I could test a day early as my period had started. It's a BFN as I knew it would be. Thank you all for your support on my previous post, I feel much better than I did on Weds, and even this wedding seems much more bearable now I can have a drink! I'm also going to have some caffeinated tea, maybe some soft boiled eggs, and perhaps find some heavy lifting to do... just because I can!

Not sure what we will do next, will wait to make a decision until we have our follow up with the consultant, but for now I'm just looking forward to how much more normal I'm going to feel once these drugs are out of my system. Oh the joy of not inserting a pessary this morning! Every cloud has a silver lining...

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Xxx

So sorry to hear this, look after yourself and enjoy your drink x

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Georgina78

So sorry to hear this Lizzie but glad you're seeing the positives. Take time to give your mind & body a rest and like you say, do all the forbidden things during treatment! I hope you enjoy the wedding & get a plan in place when you're ready xx

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7AVA

Even though you were expecting it, I'm very sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself today xxx

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Aga_R

I'm so sorry, sending hugs xx

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WeeMrsH

Oh my lovely I am sorry. This process sucks big time. Sounds like you have a good approach thought out. Lots of love xx

So sorry Lizzie, you are very brave xxxx

Sorry to hear this, hope you feel better soon and enjoy having a tipple at the wedding xxx

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CountryCat

So sorry Lizzie :(

Admire your resolve and perspective on things and hope you have a weekend of treating yourself ahead.

Take care xx

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Lucylu_88

Aww Lizzie, I'm so sorry. You're being very brave.

Lots of love and strength to you.

xx

Got through breakfast with the pregnant couple... hoping they're done with telling us what an awful time she's having with the morning sickness (they really are, I do feel sorry for her, she's lost 2 1/2 stone) so we can talk about other things for the rest of the day.

Roll on the bar opening...

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emu2016 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

Opens at 11am surely?! x

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to emu2016

It's actually 24 hour for hotel residents I've just realised... but having not drunk in months I'd probably better wait a little while or I might be a sobbing mess during the wedding breakfast...

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emu2016 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

good plan! But then... make it a double! x

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to emu2016

Ha ha ha! I'm thinking whisky with a champagne chaser...

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

PS the caffeinated tea was lovely. Just lovely! I've definitely missed caffeine more than alcohol!

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emu2016 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

That's what Mr Emu says to me! "If this doesn't work I reckon you'll be heading straight for a full fat coffee before the gin!"

Your post this morning gave us lots to talk about for how we'll approach on Thursday if it doesn't work. We thought we were being a bit silly having a positive outlook and agreeing normal things to do like drinking coffee. But now we don't feel so foolish for preparing for the worst xx

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emu2016

Chuffing hell. :( big love x

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WeeMrsH

You are so incredibly strong Lizzie, I couldn't do what you are doing today- a wedding and with a pregnant lady. You are so brave and made of steel hon!! Make the most of that bar!! 😉 xxx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to WeeMrsH

Aw thanks love. I'm not yet sure I can do it but I'm gonna give it a go!

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_Rose_

look after yourself and take care of you xxx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to _Rose_

Thank you my dear x

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robbie03

Sorry to hear this, am in awe of how you are dealing with it! Such strength! Enjoy the wedding and all the things you haven't been able to do! Thinking of you xxx

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Amanda86

So sorry Lizzie! It's the hardest journey isn't it ☹️ Take care and enjoy that drink xxx

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Rosalietea

That sounds like a great plan! Well done for finding at least a little positive. Enjoy a huge glass of something lovely 😊 will be thinking of you and we will all be here if you need us xxxx

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bibi_16

Enjoy urself honey..xxx

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liz1985

Hi Honey...

So sorry to hear this! Take care of yourself love...enjoy normality and i wish you every luck in the world whatever you decide to do in the future xxxx

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hannahi

Sorry to hear this xxx

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Cinderella5

Sorry to hear this Lizzielizzielizzie ! Good that you are looking at the positives and it is nice when you get off all the drugs and just feel normal!! Enjoy! Sending big hugs!xx

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Tugsgirl

I'm sorry about your bfn. Go enjoy yourself for a while and take some much needed time out. xx

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_MrsC

So sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you. Big hug. x

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tiger-cub

So sorry Hun. Hope u feel better soon

But get urself a drink. U definitely deserve it

Xx

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