Secondary infertility

[Kimmy79]

I have secondary infertility and am really struggling. Anyone else? I feel so alone and my emotions are all over the place x

[Hidden]

Hi Kimmy79

You aren't alone - we are in the same situation. I know exactly how you feel....

Feel free to pm me if you want to chat x

[Hidden]

I'm in the same boat it's so upsetting and hard as my first grows and all her friends mummy's having babies. She asks me where her brother or sister is 😭 We've done over a year of fertility treatment with one failed IVF. Hoping to do it again in Easter. Scared it won't work again. But not ready to accept we won't have any more either. I totally feel your pain. It's heartbreaking that Our bodies won't do what we want.

[Kimmy79 in reply to Hidden]

It is so heartbreaking 💔 I feel sad, guilty and so many other emotions.

Mine is the same as he grows and has pretend brothers 😢

You are so brave to be trying ivf again, I really hope it works out for you xx

[Hidden in reply to Kimmy79]

It's is hard and I feel like everyone around me probably thinks "well count yourself lucky you even have one" it's like secondary infertility is taboo and no one can really be sad about it.

It's been over two yrs trying and clomid, femara and 1 IVF. Been diagnosed with pcos at start of IVF and now in metformin before starting IVF again. I wish it could be simple! I totally took for granted how "easy" it was first time

[Shamrock16]

Hi Kimmy79 - I'm in the same boat. Have just got my period again, I think that's about 20 cycles but have lost count. It's a very lonely journey, apart from my husband I can't talk to anyone about it. I have a weekend of children's birthday parties, friends new babies and questions about "are we thinking about number 2" coming up! 😩

Have you had any investigations? Sending love. X

[Kimmy79 in reply to Shamrock16]

It's so difficult isn't it. My little boy is 5 and pretends he has a little brother like his friends do family and a couple of close friends know but I feel like I go on at them.

I have been seeing consultant for 2 years. I had polyps on my womb then 9 cycles of clomid. My body just won't ovulate on it's own 😢Was going to try ivf but had to make the heartbreaking decision this week not too. We just don't have that kind of money. I hate that it comes down to that 😢

Have you had investigations?

xx

[Shamrock16 in reply to Kimmy79]

Oh bless you, that is so heartbreaking. It's an impossible situation to be in, on the one hand you're so thankful for your first child but so devastated that you can't have another, and that it's not your choice. Sending a big virtual hug, you are not alone.

I had a scan and we underwent initial investigations a year ago. Both my partner and I appeared normal but I subsequently discovered that I had autoimmune thyroid disease, my periods were heavy and getting closer together and my horomones were all out of whack among many other symptoms. My thyroid is now normal (I feel fantastic after years of not but not really realising) but still nothing on the pregnancy front.

I try to do mindfulness and find it helps me stay centred on the here and now and not the 'what ifs'. But it's a very difficult thing to let go of, I'll feel like I'll never be able to go through the last few days of my cycle without getting really hopeful then really gutted. And I am tired of putting on a big front to all the well-meaning people who ask when I'm going to have another one - think I'll just snap someday soon!! 😳