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Can't take anymore!!! Really don't know what else we can do to get pregnant.

Don't think I can manage another round of IvF.

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NDE1987 profile image
NDE1987

Hi hun im really sorry it's a negative. Sending hugs your way xx

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Cino

Hi Boothy. I am sorry that it didn't work out. I understand the anguish. Perhaps you need to take some time out and have a break before considering your options. You may want to try again. We have been down the same road, it is truly tough, but hang in there. I am not sure how many times you have tried. We tried 4 times, all unsuccessful, and now are considering the difficult choice of egg donation and adoption. If you are determined you will get your family one way or another. Try and remain positive and take some time out for yourself. Thinking of you.

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boothy1883 in reply to Cino

Thank you. I'm so sorry to hear you've had 4 unsuccessful tries it really is unfair at times. This was our third try after having a 9month break after our failed FET last December. We are considering adoption as I just don't think I could do another FET- we do have 2 good eggs frozen.

Good luck to you and I wish you all the best with the avenue you choose to go down. xx

So sorry to hear this, I'm still getting over mine from last week it's just so heartbreaking. Having to work up the strength to do it again not to mention the money. I really feel for you . Do you have frozen Ones to try or are you back to the start like me. It's so hard isn't it. I'm waiting for my apointment to discuss how things went. Wish there was something they could do to ensure better success rate with IVF . I get the feeling we never find out exactly what causes the BFN as there's so many things it could be but I guess il see what they say. Hugs to you and I hope we both get through it and get what what we want in the end xx

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boothy1883 in reply to

I'm so sorry to hear about yours last week, it really is tough. Yes we do have 2 frozen but during our FET last year only 1 thawed out of 3, the others deteriorated straight away and I just don't think I have the strength right now to face those 2 not thawing at all.

Good luck to you with your next try. I really hope we both get that BfP we all deserve. Xxx

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katya38

Really sorry to hear this. How many times have you been through it? It's such a cruel process. Hope you get lots of tlc to get through it take care xx

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boothy1883 in reply to katya38

Thank you. This is our third try and we do have 2 frozen. Just going take some time off work and have some me time now I think xx

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dexter21

Xxxx

Big hugs xxx

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Robinhood134

Sending you strength, hang on in there! X

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Jaky76

I'm so sorry to read this.it really is just so hard to cope with I know, but you are allowed to grieve for what could of be..take some time, not having the answers why it didn't work and for others it did drive you insane..but then you get a feeling if you have strength for more. My third round of IVF I was lucky to get pregnant with twins, but at my scan no heartbeats, after all I had gone through I lay there and said I can't do this again...but within minutes something deep in me knew I could and wanted to..my forth round is next month...but we are all different and hope you heal and able to think which way to go..sending big hugs to you xxx

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boothy1883 in reply to Jaky76

I'm so sorry to hear that, I can't even imagine how you got through that. Good luck for your next round, I'll have my fingers crossed you get your BFP xx

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Jaky76 in reply to boothy1883

Thanks...glad to hear you have not got to face work and can have some you time..you've no decisions to make right now so take time you need to think about your frozen eggs and future plans..thinking of you..big hugs xxx

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Fatooli28

Real sorry Hun, wish it were a different result. Please don't give up πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’‹πŸ‘«β€οΈοΈ

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anna0908

Am so sorry. It's so painful. Especially when there are no answers to what went wrong. Hugs to you xxx

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Sam101

Very sorry to hear your sad news. Each time it happens it gets harder i found as you try to keel positive that this might the one. We have had 6 failures so far which have been a combination of fresh and frozen embryos. i know myself after our last transfer i thought we were lucky and it had worked but sadly we had bad news. I honestly felt like i couldnt take anymore but over time i have come to the point where we have our last frozen embryo left and i think we may as well as this could be our lucky one. If it doesnt work we are going to be going through adoption. It breaks my heart when i hear of others being pregnant and we have been trying so hard. I hope with support and plenty of tlc you will start healing and get the positivity to carry on. Take care xx

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Sloobs30

So gutting, bigs hugs and love xx

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Rosalietea

So sorry your news wasn't better. It is such an awful process with such a roller coaster of emotions. I'm 3 weeks down the line from my BFN on our second round. Both cycles were fresh. none suitable for freezing either time despite managing to get 8 fertilise. We had always expected to do a 3rd cycle but I know what you mean about questioning your strength to go again. To be honest I think that's normal but others are right, there is time to keep thinking about it and change your mind several times over. I think the important thing is being kind to yourself and do what you want when you want and feel in control of something. I'm still not back at work which is really hard for me but I work with children and especially new borns at this time of year and I just know I'm not ready emotionally to cope with that yet. You'll know when the time is right to make a final decision. Sending hugs and wishing you well on your journey for the future xxx

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boothy1883 in reply to Rosalietea

I'm so sorry to hear of your BFN, once you've been through it once you try to prepare yourself for the worst but it gets no easier. I'm in a similar situation work wise- I'm the assistant head teacher at a SEN school and just don't feel like I can be strong for the children at the moment. Sending you big hugs for the future xxx

Oh hon I'm so sorry, it's devastating to go through so so much for nothing. Sending you a massive hugπŸ’™

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Tugsgirl

Very sorry for your news 😞

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tinamon3

I am so sorry hun... It's going to be our 4 round and I have almost lost all hope.. I support you will all of my heart! And wish you the best. xx

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boothy1883 in reply to tinamon3

Stay strong and positive, this will be the round for you. Wishing you all the luck xx

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tinamon3 in reply to boothy1883

Thanks hun!! You too, stay positive!xx

Fingers crossed!

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emzlou25

Oh hun am so so sorry for this sad newz..how many embryos did u have transfered back..have u gotten a BFP anytime in ur treatmen so u no its possible 2 give u hope??? Xx

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boothy1883 in reply to emzlou25

Thank you. We only had the 1 transferred as it was top grade. Never gotten a BfP yet and I was on numerous different medication this time to support my body and embryo which is probably why I'm feeling less positive at the moment. Xx

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emzlou25 in reply to boothy1883

Reason i asked is when ever id have transfer done using 1 top grade day 5 i always got BFN's.. but yet got BFP soon as i transfered with 2 top grade day 5s just wondering if it would help u..as no it never worked for me with only transfering 1 even tho the embryo was always top grade day 5..so mayby look into tryin 2 transfered dont give up ur dream xxx

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boothy1883 in reply to emzlou25

Thank you I won't do. Xxx

Hi! boothy1883, Am so sorry, keep strong and give yourself some time to absorbed things. i had three failed transfer last year and i honestly thought that that was the end, i thought that i could not go through IVF again. Thanks to this site, close friends and family, i had to keep strong. After taking a year off to travel and enjoy life, i am now ready to start again, in a much more open and positive way. I feel that i am in a better place because i am no longer pressuring myself, i will do my best hoping for a positive but if it does not work i know it still going to be okay. I have my husband beside me more than ever and family who cares and praying for us. So the point i was making is you have given IVF a good shot hun, take a little time off away from it, you may feel different in trying again. i have been also reading up on ways how to train my mind on thinking positive, and the importance of how your mind works. You will be okay whatever the outcome. Wishing you the best of luck and hugs. hope.

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boothy1883 in reply to

Thank you. It sounds like you are in a good place right now and your right in everything you say about positivity and having people who care about you. Good luck with your next round xx

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MommaBear16

So sorry to read this boothy x x x

City74 profile image
City74

Really sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself xx

Marylyn profile image
Marylyn

Booths ask your GP to check your vitamin D & Vitamin B12 ,folate,iron levels as a fertility awareness teacher I had a success pregnancy of a client who had tried for 4 yrs with IVF & hormones no luck .She was B12 deficient supplimented with methyl b12 spray for 4months & bingo she achieved the baby she longed for.

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boothy1883 in reply to Marylyn

Thanks for your reply and advice. I had numerous blood tests after my 2 failed cycles last year and tested positive for MTHFR. I've been on higher dose folic acid and B12 supplements 3x day since February along with Clexane injections to thin my blood but still no success. I'm really not sure if there's any further tests they can do. X

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Marylyn

Are you taking sublinqual methyl b12 also methyl folate is recommended as folic acid is synthetic & if you are MTHFR the body cannot utilise it as we have a methylation disorder.Check dr Ben Lynchs website on lineal so b12awareness.org for lifesaving facts.

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boothy1883 in reply to Marylyn

yes I am, both were prescribed by my fertility clinic. I'll take a look at the website, thank you

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Marylyn

Drs are not aware that high homocysteine levels cause blood clots.heart attacks ,strokes at an early age & it's the low vitamin b12 that causes high homocysteine levels .Ask your dr to check vitamin d as both of us are MTHFR A1298c & our D levels were both low .

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MrsTM13

Sorry to hear your news. Take some time away from trying and have a think again in 2017 what you want to do. X

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