Hi folks, very new on here and appreciate a bit of advice as very stressed and upset. Dh and I have been ttc for over a year. Im 34 he is 38. We went privately for tests and I have a very low amh of 0.68 and Dh sperm count is 2million. Our consultant was very blunt and said that it was unlikely that icsi would work as the stimulating drugs would not work with my amh that low. He recommended we go straight to Egg donation. Also said he couldn't guarantee nhs would fund a cycle as they like success stories.
We have had a letter to say we are being triaged for nhs list, but I am afraid that we will spend months getting to the top of the list to then be refused treatment due to amh, or that my egg quantity will decline further. As we havnt been through a long journey with ivf, I'm finding it very hard to come to terms with egg donation as my only option.
We can't afford to fund a round of ivf/icsi and donar, do we wait and take a risk on nhs or do we accept our fate and go straight to donar. Anyone in the same boat? We are so stressed over this and still a little bit in shock.
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Hi there. I am in a kind of similar situation. I was told my egg count was low have never been told my amh tho. We spent 2 years on the waiting list in which time I am sure my egg count decreased. I only got 1 egg which did fertilise but pregnancy test was negative 😐 not sure if I regret waiting for nhs at least i tried my own egg.
we're now going for donor eggs I want a baby so badly and feel this is our only chance. It is so tough isnt it xx
Two years is a really great ng wait, I'm not sure we could wait that long, but using my own egg first would definitly be a preference. Are you considering donor here or abroad? We are looking at Spain at the moment.
Def abroad success rate is higher and better deals. Haven't definitely decided on the clinic but possibly Greece. If you can raise the money I would probably avoid the nhs. Luckily I have recently been given inheritance money xx
Go with what you're heart tells you to do I did egg share and donated half my eggs I have a baby girl and so does the lady I donated to your baby will be perfect no matter how they are produced if you're heart says don't wait go with the donor it was the best thing I ever did giving half my eggs to help a lady get her baby good luck xxxxx
We are in a similar boat, it's such a shock after shock isn't it. I thought it was enough of a shock hearing my AMH was 2.3, which took me a good couple of weeks to get over. Then I got a new shock at my final consultation that my FSH is 22.5 which means I'm unlikely to respond in any way to Ivf drugs. (NHS cut off is 10 and They say even 13+ won't respond!). That was my worst and final shock and you just have to find in in yourself to stay strong, it's awful. I too have been told egg donation is my only real option.
Do you know what your FSH is? It gives a good idea of how you will respond to Ivf trying with your own eggs. You're only 34 so chances are they will be good enough quality still, even though you may be running low! (I'm 32). My chart shows good bbt rise after ovulation And I show ovulation on OPKs, do you have this?
My sister has offered to be my donor, but she is trying for her own baby and doesn't know her own fertility yet, plus since they don't have one yet we don't know if she will be allowed to donate.
However, we are weighing it all up, and I genuinely can't face not having at least one go with my own eggs. We are looking at private, which we will have to fund. I'm not even looking into abroad, which I know is great for some people, I just don't want to add any more stress into it win travel etc. We have decided to take part in sperm donation as this means our private Ivf will be free, you just pay for the drugs. And my NHS consultant at the fertility clinic did offer me a glimmer of hope for the drugs, whilst they can't fund them, he did say I could ask my individual gp surgery to fund them. He said that will be entirely down to my surgery to decide but I'm hoping since I've been a patient there for 28 years they will be open to this!
It's so stressful isn't it and you have to stay strong and positive. I have acupuncture and take medicine 3 times a day from a western medical herbalist. My acupuncturist now is suggesting I see a Chinese herbalist for their fertility herbs as she is sure I still have a natural chance too!
We have an appointment 5th October with private Ivf clinic.
Stay strong and please don't be too disheartened yet xxxx
Do all private clinics offer free IVF with sperm donation? I'm 44 (nearly 45-gulp!!) -our IVF failed as there were no eggs & im desperate for one more try b4 we consider egg donation as I feel I got short changed! I think if they'd got an egg but said it was rubbish quality I probably could move yo the next stage easier. Obviously the cost is an issue tho as it's such a big gamble with my age.my partner is only 32 & sperm is great so I wonder whether this is something we could do?x
Ahhh bless, totally understand you wanting another go... You may as well as it may work and if not at least you can move on knowing you can sort of close that door knowing you tried!
I have no idea if they all do, but this is with Care Fertility and from recommendations thy seem to have very good success rates. I'm probably using their Manchester branch but they Are all over the uk, so you should have one near to you wherever you are based I think! The main thing is that the man must be under 41 and in good health so you should be fine! My husband was 40 in August so we need to move on and fast!
Have a look at them as its a £3000 saving! Some people feel funny about donating, but we figure we are likely to need lots of help and maybe an egg donor, so it makes sense that we help others where we can.
Thank u for replying so quickly. I'll look in to that care fertility-not heard of them b4. Yeah not sure how the boyfriend would feel about it but will chat to him about it today! Will let u know xxx
We had 2 rounds of ICSI with my eggs and 2 BFNs. Our consultant said we could have one more go with my eggs or use DE. I was 42 at the time and my AMH was deemed good for over 40. After lots of heartache we decided to use DE. The Donor Conception website was very helpful and answered my questions abour bonding with any resultant baby/babies. We had to change clinics due to waiting lists, we stayed in the UK. We were matched very quickly, we were self funded so went with egg sharing scheme. Unfortunately we only got 2 embryos out of 6 eggs, 3 were deemed mature. Sadly for us we got another BFN. Using DE does work for some ladies on here and the chances of success are better. We've ceased treatment now.
Hey, I was thinking of you as I wrote my last post due to amh - it's a lot to retune so have a look of you can - my amh really went up and I thought it's worth a try for you?xx
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