Counseling

[susanlucy]

Hi is there anyone out there the same as me had two failed attempts of ivf and now just a mess emotional crying at work and feeling like I don't want to go to work panic attacks. Want to start adoption but so down

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Yes yes and yes I was back in November after a hellish EC with no anaesthetic when everything got to me all at once and I had a full blown panic attack and vomited in surgery!!!

It does get better, I paid to see a psychologist, which was an hour to vent all my feelings to someone I didn't care what they thought.

Then I met with the vicar who married me and prayed. We prayed and I felt the weight literally lifted from my shoulders.

Before then if cried constantly for 3 days and thought I'd never get out of the black hole Ivf put me in.

People get help on many different ways, for me, I couldn't do this without knowing God is with me.

I also have a superb group of girls who are they for me.

Whatever you believe you need, do it. There is no shame in feelings. One of the admin here said the stress if Ivf is comparable to those suffering from cancer or AIDS. Think how much it is and be kind to yourself honey.

You are going through a really difficult thing, harder than you've ever done and probably the hardest you will ever do.

You can do this and you will get through it.

Sending you a massive hug and prayers

Keep in touch xx.

PS

If you are serious about adopting, go for it!!!

[pm27]

I've had 3 failed attempts at ICSI and this can often get me down. I'm not sure adoption is for us, although I am going to find the it some basic information about it.

I've also had panic attacks (not related to infertility treatment) and a couple of bouts of depression/anxiety.

I've found that counselling has helped as well as having a good support network. My work were aware of what I was going through and I have a couple of confidants at work too. Have you got a sympathetic boss or colleagues you could confide in?

Perhaps your clinic or GP could advise about counselling. There is often a long wait on the NHS. There are accredited infertility counsellors out there.

Failed treatment is like a bereavement so take time to grieve.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi susanlucy. I do hope that you can get some support through a counsellor. Your GP should be able to sort this out for you, as you will be able to speak to someone "neutral". It's never easy after suffering so many disappointments, but in time you will feel stronger. You will be able to look into adoption then, where you will get more support. Just be kind to yourself for now, and let's hope that you are soon able to cope better. Diane