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My worst fear. Pregnant, but already loosing. Results only 15.9. They want to retest next week to ensure the levels are dropping and I'll miscarry. They've told me to continue with the pessaries which just seems cruel, but apparently I should. When I asked why, is there a chance the baby will survive I was told it's unlikely. I'm beyond devastated. Another tiny one to add to our loses. No more money to try again. Heartbroken other half.

I'm so sorry to give you all this news, I truly hoped for happiness and some news of miracles to pass to you.

Xxxxx x

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Sad_panda

I'm so sorry to hear this. All the best to you both.

Oooh God I'm so so sorry :( really hoped everything would work out for you both. Hoping and praying you get a little miracle.

I've been waiting and hoping all day to hear how you got on. I don't know what to say to you. I'm so sorry to read your message. You don't deserve this. Forgive my useless reply. All my love & thoughts to you both, X.

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It's not useless hun, it's heartfelt and that's more than I've had from some friends already. Xxxxxx

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WeeMrsH

I am so sad for you hon, I've been looking out all day for your result. I don't know what to say. Thinking of you xx

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Piglet123

I'm so so sorry. I really feel for you. Lots and lots of love. Xx

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BabyHope

I am so so sorry. Just can't imagine your feelings at the moment. Big hugs to you xx

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Cinderella5

Just wanted to say Im so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you!

So sorry to hear your news, really feel sorry for you both.

Sending you hugs xx

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Hope2016

I am really sorry you to hear this. Even though mine didn't work I wished yours did. So devastated for both of us. But don't give up, you still have hope..!! I have no words to express my self, completely dried out of tears too.. Already experiencing AF with unbelievable pain. Lots of love sending your way..XX

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I had pain within a few hours, slight dark blood, now brown when I wipe. Just seems cruel being pronged. I'm so sorry to you also, I hope you're able to use some pain management at the moment Xxxxxx

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Cpea

Your in my thoughts Hun, take care xx

Thinking of you 💗

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emu2016

Big hugs xx

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pm27

I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish I could say something that could help you at this awful time. I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you.

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Tlove

So sorry parentsofangels, was hoping this would be your time. Look after yourself. x

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Hollibob

Sending you hugs at this sad time..I'm sorry...it's so hard and cruel to go through x

Oh Hun I feel so deveasted for you. I was really hoping you would get your happy ending, I cannot believe this. I'm so so so sorry. Can they run anymore tests to find the cause of these miscarriage? I wish I had some words that would make you feel better. My thoughts are with you at this sad time. You know where I am if you need to talk 💕 x x x

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I had lots of tests after Annabelle died, I don't know. There's no more money for tests or treatment 😢

I am so sorry 😢 Devastating news for you, I don't know what to say xx

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Hannah143

Ah sweetheart, I'm so sorry to read that, I was thinking of you and your hubby today and wondering how you got on, this is just devastating and I'm so sorry for you guys. Sending you big hugs and take comfort in each other's arms, be kind to yourself in these tough times xx

Hello dear,

I am sorry to read this but, do not loose hope. Kindly go on your knees and start praying to God. Ask God to keep your child safe. Tell God exactly how you are feeling. I am a strong believer that prayer changes everything. I will start praying for you as well.

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Do you know if this lady is religious? If not then, and as someone who has been through a similar loss I can tell you that this is not helpful. If you believe that prayer changes everything and some deity has power over the outcome of her pregnancies then you must believe your God is choosing for her babies to die. You can't have it both ways.

Maybe next time just say that your sorry for what she is suffering.

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Thank you for offering to pray for me that's very kind and I understand the gesture, however maybe better to not offer religious advice without knowing the persons religious and medical background. Trust me when I tell you no one in this world have ever prayed harder than I did for my Annabelle to survive, I prayed everyday of treatment, when we lost her twin. and every 121 days of her short life and everyday after we lost her, for her to be comforted and her poor daddy to not feel so ripped apart as I did. I don't for one second believe God kills my babies, but I don't believe he can save them all either. Again, everyday of this treatment I prayed, I even asked Annabelle to watch over our little bean. Every single day, as did her daddy. 6 babies now. It's a lot. I've prayed for them all. I've done a lot of praying. Burying your child changes you in a way I pray most of you will never understand. And it changes your views on everything.

I'm not angered by your words, I've had a lot worse said to me over the years, but I can't not reply either. Because, you don't know me nor my beliefs, so maybe your words were inappropriate no matter how well meant.

Hello dear,

I am truely sorry. It was never my intention to upset you at all. I will never do that. Once again I am very very sorry.

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Lamb82

I'm so sorry and Devestated for you. Sending you love and hugs. Xx

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Kat9lives

So sorry to hear this, can't imagine the pain you're going through. Sending you lots of hugs and be kind to yourself xx

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blondietrying

I am just so sad for you. The pain you are going through must be unbearable. There is nothing i can say to ease your pain, I know. You don't deserve this, it is so so unfair. You will be in my thoughts, sending you love and hugs x

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Hopeful1982

I'm sorry to hear this x

Nothing I say will make you feel better. Be good to one and other xx

I had everything crossed for you, what can I say - I'm so sorry. The whole journey is hard, whatever stage each of us women get too and it feels so unfair at times, only us women going through that journey know that.

Take good care of yourself.

I'm here anyway if you need a chat xx

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Parentsofangels

I would just like to thank those of you who have taken the time to think of us and pass on such kind words and thoughts. It really does mean a great deal to us at this time.

Xxxxxx

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Madcatlady55

We are all here for you both. Nothing can take away the pain, but perhaps it can be softened just a little by knowing you are thought of and cared for. Take care of yourselves xx

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littleR

So very sorry to hear this parentsofangels, my heart goes out to you, gentle hugs to you, stay strong lovely lady x

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jamjar5060

So sorry for your loss. Everyone here has some understanding of what your going through but I appreciate not completely. Sending hugs to you and hubby at this very very sad time xxx

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