Next appointment - with the nurse for choosing my donor, info on medication and scans and insemination dates to be discussed!!

9 months ago, I started looking into this journey and now, next week the big appointment with the nurse. I'm so scared but excited too!!

I really don't know how I am going to cope with a baby on my own but I will give it a good try!

I wished there was someone special in my life to hold my hand when things got difficult but sadly life isn't always like that. I always wanted the partner, nice home, family, good job, holidays etc but none of it came true but on a positive note - it may do one day. I only have until April to have my treatment and if I don't do it I will always wonder, what if x

[E81hopefull]

Just wanted to say goodluck and I'm happy your finally on ur way I know its exciting and scary especially as u say u don't have someone special at the moment in ur life but I'm sure u will be absolutely fine xx

[Hidden in reply to E81hopefull]

Thank you - I've not been very lucky on the man front but as the consultant said 'everything else can wait but this can't'!

Let me know how you get on x

[E81hopefull in reply to Hidden]

I will, and at least ur on ur way now, a man can always come along later which means u can fully concentrate on having ur baby xx

[Hidden in reply to E81hopefull]

Your right and also there won't be the added pressure to find someone who is going to treat me right (us). It's going to have to take a special kind of man for me to trust someone again after the lot I've had!! x

[Maria-Louisa]

Good luck! You will find the strength and helps to have family and friends you can talk to. Can I ask why you have to do it before April?

X

[Hidden in reply to Maria-Louisa]

I don't have a lot of friends or family though Maria but I'm sure I will find the strength when it comes to it!

April - that's the cut off for my age, I will be too old after my next birthday :o( but on a positive, at least I know I need to do it now!! x

[Sarah112]

You can absolutely do this on your own. Just remember, some people who appear to have it all on the surface, are usually not as happy as you might imagine. I think you are amazing making this decision - good for you I say. Yes it will be hard work and sometimes you'll feel alone, but whoever or whatever we have in our lives, we can all feel alone from time to time.

I too did not have the conventional 'meet a guy, get married, have children' either, I met my partner quite late in life, and I would get really annoyed when you hear in the media about women wanting to build a career before having children. Well, for some women, it's about not meeting the right person, or things not working out as you would have liked.

I wish you the best of luck, take one day at a time - seek support in friends and family and on this forum too. You can totally do this!

xx

[Hidden in reply to Sarah112]

Thanks Sarah for your wise words.

I will be thinking of what you said 'You can do it' when I'm sitting in the waiting room next Wednesday waiting to see the nurse! x

[Jojostayinghopeful]

Good luck to you! I think your already strong for just going through this emotional roller coaster on your own! X hope all goes well x x

[Hidden in reply to Jojostayinghopeful]

That's exactly what it is - a roller coaster of emotions, one day I am all right and feeling positive and the next I'm a bundle of nerves! Thank you x

[Hidden]

Girl power Good for you, I hope it all works out for you. We are all here to help and support xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much x

[Hopeful1982]

Hello Distinction72,

Good luck with your treatment. I hope everything works out for you! We're all here if you need any help during the process. It is exciting and scary but I'm sure you will do just fine!

Take care x

[Hidden in reply to Hopeful1982]

Thank you - that means a lot x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Distinction72. Just to add my best wishes too - and remember that just the two of you will be a perfect little family. Diane

[Hidden in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane

I've never had a family of my own so that's got to be exciting x