Hi everyone. Just after some advice. In April I met with a consultant at St Mary's to discuss FET after an early miscarriage after ICSI and was told I needed to have a laparoscopy before requesting treatment again. During the process of ICSI they had seen a shadow on scans and at egg retrieval they found fluid which they drained. The day after egg retrieval I had a scan and the fluid had not returned so I was allowed to have an embryo put back. The consultant said because they found the fluid they needed to investigate to give me the best chance of success with the FET. During the laparoscopy if they find more fluid they will have to remove or clamp my tube.
I had my pre op on Wednesday and found out I'm having the laparoscopy on Monday (which was a shock as I had been told I'd have to wait months). I met with the surgeon (who said he didn't have any of my notes) and he advised me not to have it done and to just wait and see what happened with the fluid. He said he didn't think the fluid would be there again so I should wait for my next egg retrieval and if the fluid is there again then I should have my eggs frozen and have the laparocapy (even though I kept explaining that I wouldn't be having egg retrieval because I have a frozen embryo). And then he started talking about the risks involved in the laparoscopy as if this alone should be a reason I shouldn't have it done.
I'm just really confused. I'm already really worried and scared about having the laparoscopy and now I don't know if it's the right decision. I feel like I should listen to the first consultant and just have it done but the second consultant has really confused me. And I'm really scared about what they might find. Any advice?
Nothing has been straightforward on this journey, I've just completely lost hope that anything will go right. And I've lost hope that we will ever achieve our dream x