My nearly 5 year old adopted son has an FASD diagnosis. He is at reception at school and copes well. Showing progress in learning. he is falling behind his peers quite a lot but he is definitely makes progress. He struggles mainly at the moment with transitions and choices and then we get the defiant/shutting down behaviour and he gets very angry. He goes through stages of specific things he cannot cope with and gets locked into a behaviour with them until we 'crack' it. Eg at the moment he does not like to look at the school menu board for the day and if ANY other child looks at it on the way to the main door he cannot cope with it and screams and shouts at them and has a total meltdown! My question is - all his behaviours are always worse with me and my husband and he is always better for teachers/key workers/dinners time staff etc. is this 'masking' and then we get it all?! Makes me a little paranoid that he can control it for others and make me think of attachment issues due to the fact we adopted him or do any of you experience this with your child with FASD? I'd be really grateful of your responses.