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Daughter reaching puberty


My adoptive daughter is showing signs of pre pubescent. I haven't discussed the changes her body will undergo in the coming years as I have not felt that she is able to handle the information without blurting it out at inappropriate moments. Are there any FASD leaflets on the subject that I can use to get her acquainted with the idea?



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Yes, but start by talking to her very simply about she is growing up, her body is getting ready for when she is an adult and that includes her body getting ready so it is able to have babies when is he grows, if she chooses or is able to.

Don't worry about the blurting out, but maybe begin by saying to her that this is something she can only talk to you about. It is private and she can talk to you when you are alone. She might drag you out of a room full of people to talk to you!!!


Thank you very much, that is all very helpful. Are there are booklets the trust can recommend?


I have spoken to Julia Brown, one of our CEOs and she said that most of what is available is very school-centric and aimed at teachers and lesson plans; some of the other material is too explicit. She is therefore part way through drawing up a series of leaflets and the first one on periods will be out later this month. However, in the meantime she said ensure your daughter is drinking plenty; often an issue with girls 10-14, they do not take in enough fluid, which can exacerbate some problems. Watch out for an fainting or dizzy spells or epileptic type fits / vacant episodes; very common in pre-puberty/as puberty onsets. No need to expect it in every FASD affected girl, nor worry unduly but if it occurs more than a couple of times, see your GP.

Once periods start consider a vitamin B supplement.

Finally be aware she will forget to change her pads so you will have to remind her. Depending on her age / ability consider either writing down for her when in school, or have a watch alarm, or tell a named adult in school and get them to remind her / take her to bathroom. And, keep a diary yourself so you will be watching out each month for its arrival. Hope this helps.


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