Dear all. I know a lot of you are likely to be adoptive parents of little ones whose mothers behaviour duing pregnancy has left them with potentially life long parents. My circumstsances are a little different. I drank heavily during the first 10 weeks of pregnancy not knowing I was pregnant. I am so scared and feel so guilty I can barely cope but trying to keep it together for my beautiful 3 week old baby. Although I always wanted to be a mother I never in a million years I imagined I could be in this situation, I would never have deliberately put my baby at risk. At the moment there are no signs that anyhting is wrong..he is very hard work and we have had some feeding difficulties but I dont think these are related at this stage, just getting used to things and trying to get into a routine etc but obviouslky it could be some time before we know if there are any real problems. I would be grateful to know if anyone else is or has been in similar circumstances and also adoptive parents, what your views are, Thanks