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My 13 year old child is soiling all the time

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Hi everybody my 13 year old boy is soiling his pants all the time and sometimes soils his pants 4 times a day he goes to the gastric doctor for it and is on multiple different medicines for it but getting no where fast

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laurendyer90

Put him in pampers size 8 if he is slim enough or drynites or a nappy from molicare called Molicare slip maxi pe backed which keep in the smells very well!

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Dogpurple12 in reply to laurendyer90

I will think about it he has soiled his pants today and it was a lot

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Dogpurple12 in reply to Dogpurple12

Would I send him to school with it on

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laurendyer90 in reply to Dogpurple12

Yes and arrange someone to change him!

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Dogpurple12 in reply to laurendyer90

I changed him earlier on and he has done it again

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Robinia

Sounds like he needs a full disimpaction. This can take a month plus at that age. I would contact the Eric helpline for advice and watch the Poo Nurses video about disimpaction online.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to Robinia

Done disimpactions multiple times

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Robinia in reply to Dogpurple12

Yes us too. Keep having to do them again and again. It’s only successful when you get to rusty brown water

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PinkSciFi

I’ve got a 13 year old with the same problems. He does a toilet sit before school which does pretty much prevent accidents at school, but he still has daily accidents at home - wetting and soiling and often multiple times a day.

We are currently doing a disimpaction with senna and sodium docusate (as he hates movicol, laxido etc) and it’s been difficult but after a week we think we are seeing signs of his gut being emptier.

We’ve found the movicol mummies Facebook group helpful as well as the poo nurses video someone else has mentioned.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to PinkSciFi

He soils at school all the time

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PinkSciFi in reply to Dogpurple12

That must be really tough for him. I hope school are supportive.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to PinkSciFi

Does he wear nappies for it

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PinkSciFi in reply to Dogpurple12

No, but for a while he did have a bag of spare clothes in matron's office just in case.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to PinkSciFi

Do you think my son needs nappies has he has soiled twice today

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PinkSciFi in reply to Dogpurple12

You can buy pads, which would be more discreet than nappies if you are thinking of going down that route. We’ve never used them though, so I can’t advise further - sorry.

Might be worth starting a new post on here to see what others advise if this is something you want help with. I understand a range of brands are available and expect some would be more suited to deal with soiling than others...

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StellaA

You could try something like drynites or the incontinence pants from aldis, they would contai any soiling but he could still use the toilet normally, rather than being stuck in a nappy.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

He soiled once yesterday but no improvement because he has soiled three times today. We haven't decided yet if we will get the pads or nappies

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

How long has he had issues with soiling?Is he cleaning up after himself? If he is, putting him in nappies is probably a step in the wrong direction.

Unless he's having wetting issues aswell.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

He has soiled since he was 4 and a half sometimes he cleans up but I have to remember him all the time as he will sit in it all day and all night and yes he wets himself all the time aswell

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Dogpurple12 in reply to Dogpurple12

Also he wets the bed Should he wear nappies at night

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

Yes, definitely, I have no idea how you have coped with changing clothes and bedding for 9 years.I will send you a link to what I buy for my 11 year old granddaughter.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

It's not letting me message you

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

Strange, Can you read the message, and do the website links work?

If you can't reply in the chat you can always just answer my questions here?

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

Yes I can see and read the messages

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Dogpurple12 in reply to Dogpurple12

No I can't write in a box and then send

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Dogpurple12

I will reply to your questions on this page

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

Yes, please answer them, I'm dyeing to know.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

When he started soiling at 4.5 years old that's when he went to school he didn't come out of nappies until 6 years old

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

Did you keep giving him nappies at night after that?

Why did you stop with the nappies because he doesn't seem to be toilet trained if he is still wetting and soiling to the extent you say he is.

I would recommend going back to nappies for a while and starting over again with a toileting plan.

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Dogpurple12

He has soiled 4 times in his pants today so far

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

That sounds horrible for both of yous.

I hope you can get this sorted out soon.

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Dogpurple12

No messages is not working

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Dogpurple12

He was taking out of nappies at 6 years old because he stopped soiling and then he started soiling at 8 for 2 months and that was OK and then at 11 for 1 year and again at 13

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Dogpurple12

He was in nappies till 10 at night time and then he stopped and then he started again at 13 and it is once a week usually he wets the bed

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

Did his bedwetting and soiling both start again around the same time?

Have you bought him any nappies or pads yet?

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

Yes his bed wetting and soiling started about the same time and no I haven't bought anything yet

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StellaA

Hi how are you doing?

Have you seen much improvement in your son, have you tried anything new with him?

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

No not tried anything still no improvement

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Yaleamanda

When did you last disimpact, did he reach full disimpaction i.e. rusty water looking poo? How quickly did you reduce the doses down until you found a suitable maintenance dose. What is he currently taking to help him go? Do you encourage regular toilet sits. have you been referred to the continence team? Sorry for all the questions, but there is so much you can do to help.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to Yaleamanda

Hi we started last disimacting him when you messaged and that's us just finished yesterday he had 14 sachets for 2 days and still was soiling and not going to the toilet so it was put up to 16 and then he went and then down to 8, and then to 4 and back to his normal 2 sachets as you will see he takes two sachets a day. He has soiled his pants 1 time all ready today.Would you recommend that he wears nappies or pull ups

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Yaleamanda in reply to Dogpurple12

It doesnt sound like you have disimpacted properly or completely. You need to stay on the maximum dose until you reach rusty water looking poo, then stay there for 3 consecutive days before you start reducing the doses down very slowly i.e. one sachet every three days until you reach a suitable maintenance dose that produces type 4 stools on the Bristol Stool Chart.

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StellaA

Sorry if I'm being a pest and checking in all the time, but I really hope you're getting somewhere close to sorting out his soiling issues.Having a teenager who wees the bed is one thing but it must be traumatic for him pooing his pants.

I really hope you can get some real help for him it must be so difficult having to deal with.

Wish all the best for the two of you Xx.

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

Still soiling

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StellaA in reply to Dogpurple12

Is he managing it independently?

Cleaning up, getting changed into clean undies, washing his soiled ones, etc?

How has he been getting in at school, is he doing ok academically?

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Dogpurple12 in reply to StellaA

Sometimes he independently will clean up sometimes I have to keep nagging him To clean up. One time I had to carry him to the toilet and change him like a baby as he wouldn't go and change. He does wash the soiled pants on an occasional basis but only when I notice he has done it sometimes he will just sneak them into the washing basket full of poo. Yesterday was a good day as he kept his self clean all day

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Dogpurple12 in reply to Dogpurple12

Not such a good day today he pooped his pants at school but at least he went to the school nurse to get changed into clean pants and when he came home he went straight to the toilet as he pooped his pants in the car and it was stinking he done something before I had to say something to him

Hey, if he still soils and wets himself I’d recommend getting him pull ups during the day and if they don’t work, might be best he wears nappies and see if his school will get someone to keep checking him for accidents and changing him when he’s had a accidentHope this helps

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Dogpurple12 in reply to

Hi he is in nappies now

Hi, how are you both doing? Have you seen any improvement in your son?

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Anonymousteenboy

Hopefully he is doing better now!

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