Tablets and injections

[Verso]

Since my prostate removal in January 2019, I have had no erection. I have tried both Viagra and Cialis as well as some injections, all this has had no effect. I considered implants, but my medical aid does not pay for it and I cant afford it either. I am now just like a sister sleeping next to my wife who is 14 years younger than me. In 2020, I wanted to take my life in order to free my wife from enziety. I went to see psychologists who made me to think about my son and daughter who are presently aged 13 and 9 respectively. The problem of being not able to sexually satisfy my wife is haunting me everyday. I am blaming me for going to see the psychologists, I would be history today.

[dadzone43]

Two men in our support group have implants and are happy with them. One is straight and the other gay.Injections will often work when pills will not.

Do you know that your wife has anxiety or are you supposing?

What does she say?

There are more ways that a hard penis to satisfy a partner.

[Lmee]

Have you tried a vacuum device and was your surgery nerve sparing it can take up to 2 years for your erections to come back peripheral nerves do regrow it takes time

[Graciecat1]

it took about 3 years to gets erections but there painful now . Had some indigestion and stuffy head problems with Cialis . I’m off it now. Sometimes I wake up in mornings with erection but still can’t keep erect . Painful from years without erections and nurse said scar tissue formed . Nurse said for me to get penis pump to stretch penis and get back on Cialis. Haven’t decided what to do.

[LeeLiam]

I use trimix injection. It opens the arteries for blood to flow in even with damaged nerves. Then I use a device called the Eddy by Giddy. It is a ring that closes the dorsal veins to keep the blood in. Neither works without the other. Now I get as hard as a teenager.

[man0]

I'd echo that last sentence from  dadzone43 : "There are more ways than a hard penis to satisfy a partner."

I had surgery almost 15 months ago - a couple months after surgery, my wife and I tried our 1st "encounter": failure of course. I was devastated; my wife tried to put up a brave front, discounting (I think) the extent of her disappointment. But right then I came to this conclusion: just because I couldn't "cross the finish line" any more just now didn't mean that both of us couldn't. On our next attempt a few days later, I took matters into my own hands (literally, in fact) and learned to my surprise, because alas we'd had a relatively simplistic sex life previously, that I could through other stimulation apparently bring her to some astonishing sexual fulfillment. On one relaxed Saturday afternoon, I helped her climax 4 times - gosh, I honestly don't even remember doing that when we were newlyweds. And we're both in late 60's.

I suspect this might only work for a man who has a deep love for his wife, but fortunately for me that's true. Plus, I found that this "success", in my case at least, also helped *partially* (not completely of course) mitigate that "loss of manhood" feeling accompanying the surgery, knowing I could still do this.

And in the meantime, our continued attempts seem to be encouraging the nerve healing. After the 15 months, I'm starting to see some activity "down there" when we're together, and since I've heard it can take as long as 2 or even 3 years to get usable erections back, I still have hope and am going to keep trying.