My endo and fibroids surgery is in 3 weeks from today, and I am very scared. I am crying a lot at little things no doubt because of this underlying fear and have tried to access the central London support group. However, when I responded to the email that was addressed "Hi Ladies" saying that I don't identify as a lady. I identify as: femme, gender queer, womxn... Any of those. Anyway, I responded stating not all people who get endometriosis on their uterus are ladies. I never heard anything back. This was months ago. I tried joining the central London endometriosis Facebook group over the weekend, and my request no longer says pending and I have been denied access. So, a TERF is (I had to look this up myself a few months ago even though I lecture in feminist and queer theory at some of the top uni's in London... the young people and their acronyms, ammiright?) a TERF is a trans-exclusionary radical feminist. And what an accurate term here. As a queer gender queer you might imagine that I have been excluded from many things in my life, I usually take it on the chin and walk away. But I have never felt so excluded as I have when I am trying to access support for a health condition that we are all going though, are all frightened of, have all had experiences mis-diagnosis and the consequences of the severe lack of funding in women's, womxn's, and feminine non-binary health (all non-binary health, but in this case we are talking about the symbolically femme bits). I got the info for this website and these support groups from the NHS website. If I am not welcome to access this support because I am not a lady, this group has no business outreaching on the NHS website or as a support group in general. So, I am exhausted, the Zoladex is doing me in, I have another jab tomorrow and surgery in 3 weeks. Where does this uterus-having gender queer turn?