Ill all of last year, also going through fertility, finally had lap in December 2016, stayed in hospital overnight, very ill, back to work after two weeks and i'm getting shit from my manager.
I spoke to occ health last week and advised it is a fine line between the equality act which I am aware of, but said he understands I am struggling but would make recommendations for flexibility and told me to take it easy.
Bit of background about my job...I work with the elderly as a housing officer, I'm the person who makes referrals to other services to stop them from becoming ill, going into hospital, homes etc. I also attend to emergencies throughout the day and night. For instance yesterday I gave someone CPR for over an hour, sadly they passed away. I was then expected to travel all over the city for meetings and then was called out at midnight for a faller and had to wait 3 hours for an ambulance.
I was pulled into a level 1 sickness meeting yesterday. My manager was very rude, and actually down right disrespectful and I'm seriously thinking of making a grievance complaint.
She stated she received the occ health recommendations and 'he says it comes under the DDA, but I highly doubt it'. His recommendations were to increase my sickness days by 50%, but she said im close to this, and im lucky she took into account my hospital admission and operation recovery so I am still under.
She said I don't know what reasonable adjustments you can see in your eyes happening?! I can only recommend that you cut your hours and I'll take some of your work away from you. I told her that this wouldn't help as my flare ups are on my repeated cycle, so I don't when they could happen and they could fall on a weekend. She said I had to choose I was either in or I was out!!
She said 'all this just for a stomach cramp'. I went through my symptoms and told her I struggle to walk, or leave the toilet. I am at risk to my tenants in the event of an emergency. Hoping that she would maybe say I could stay in one place on my bad days and do my paperwork but she said 'it's the job' and you have to get on with it.
I totally understand it's a business, and I'm just a number. But surely it would cost more to hire and train someone else. I'm a good worker, I hit all my deadlines even when I'm off sick I come back and do my work, and others. I've hit all my targets and then some, I take any extra work and love my job (apart from the midnight calls)
I am struggling with what to do for the best, she basically told me I should look for another job yesterday. Which is disgusting?! She should be supporting me, she completely billeted me and I felt like walking out. She said that she couldn't favour in me just because I had a period, and I should get over it.
So her attitude, disrespect and lack of knowledge is one thing, and the fact that she completely favours other staff and their sickness levels comes into play here. I don't want to start a war. I just want to work, I want her to realise that it's not just a bloody period! I can't describe what I'm like on my bad days, but I guess everyone here will understand!?
My reasonable adjustment is that she takes that into consideration, enables me to have flexi time on my days, work in the office doing files and paperwork until I am ready to go out into the community again. Is this reasonable?
Does anyone have any advice? Or anyone I can speak to about this to understand my rights?
I feel like I am being pushed out the door.