I'm seeking some advice/ experience from those who are further down the line than I am. I had a Laproscopy 2 months ago and despite numerous phone calls to my hospital I have received nadda from them... The advice is around post-sex discomfort but I'll explain my story below as it may help shape advice.
I've recovered well, besides a first very painful period (it's usually just painful) and then a bout of thrush and some weird discharge. I found out after the lap that I have endo on one of the ligaments connecting my uterus and back together, and a retroverted uterus (I've since done a lot of Google-ing of the medical terms in my discharge notes - which was about 3 sentences long). To be honest, it doesn't give much away and I've mainly been reading info online, but it doesn't do much for a leave of mind!!
I guess to back pedal, A brief history, around 2 years ago I went to the doctors after I started experiencing painful sex to the point where I really could not handle much intimacy. My partner and I have now been together around 4 years, he was my first sexual partner too and has been so, so supportive throughout the past few years!
After repeatedly going to the docs, I finally got a referral (after trying difference pills and pretty much no sex life). My first experience was not great, after several excruciatingly painful internal exams and not much progress I was still at a loss until I moved house and got a new consultant - who was AMAZING - we quickly started moving towards a lap but first I had to tackle vaginismus. The past few years have been really tough, I'm only in my mid-twenties, was a year or so out of uni, in a great relationship but these gyno problems hung over me and I really struggled to talk to friends about them. Once I finally did, my friends were so supportive and I've found reading forums like this extremely useful!
After the lap, I've since been cleared from psychosexual counselling for the vaginismus and healed from the lap (with some pretty decent scars!). We're beginning to get a sex life back, which is really nice and it's great to have some level of intimacy again. I believe having the coil put in has helped tremendously with most of the internal dryness and sex drive in general. All in all, some good steps forward
This is the part I'd love some advice on - after sex my tummy is so uncomfortable for days I'll have a stabbing pain in my lower abdomen, an achy back and bloated tummy. I've been taking painkillers and ibroprohen when the pain is too much (which is daily at the moment) but it has started to really affect my concentration at work. However, I dont really want to be taking painkillers frequently (I enjoy a glass of vino every now and again!)..... I have a microwaveable bear which I use at night or at home which has varying success. Does anyone have any tips or tricks to help with the after pain?
Thanks for any advice, I know it's asking a lot but, since I haven't had any follow up letters or appointments with my consultant (it's a new one, my old one left) and have no idea when it'll be, if ever at this rate, I'm terrified of going back to a relationship with low intimacy and vaginismus, we've only just got it back!