Hi and welcome to the forum. I was in the same situation as you last August when I received my diagnosis. I had a lap to remove a large fibroid and then all the endo was seen. My surgeon didn't even touch it as it is literally everywhere. I'm really glad he didn't and referred me onto a specialist centre who will now excise the endometriosis.
In terms of relief from the pain I think you should go back to your doctors and discuss this with them and see what pain killers they can prescribe. Their are many different types and if you do a search on this forum for pain killers you will find lots of other posts about this. When I was being discharged from hospital after my first lap last august I requested stronger pain killers and was given mefenamic acid which I only take when in excruciating pain and they are really useful.
The fake meneopause you refer to is taking a gnrh drug. I started taking a version of this drug called prostap last week. The drug stops the production of oestrogen so that the oestrogen is not feeding the endometriosis. You really need to research this and ask many questions before beginning as their are many side effects although all women are different and don't have the same experience. This website might be of use endometriosis.org/treatment... the endometriosis UK website also has lots of information that you will find useful and there are many posts on here already from women taking these drugs so do a search for gnrh, prostap, lupron, decapeptyl, they are all gnrh drugs.
Be hopeful about your future, I have spoken to a number of women personally who have had quite bad endo but been able to go on and have children, one women naturally conceived twice which surprised her doctors.
One thing I always now do before any appointments with my consultant or doctor is write down a long list of questions and points I want to discuss and want answers to. I can't recommend this enough as it means that I leave feeling more informed. I would really recommend you do this for your next appointment.
All the best