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I desperately want to be a mum


After being diagnosed with severe endometriosis and cysts on my ovaries I know that my fertility is low. I have always dreamt of being a mum and my partner and I are even prepared to start a family soon in my early 20's as I'm scared if I wait too long my fertility will continue to decrease. Has anyone been through this same dialema? I don't want to rush things I have just heard how difficult endo can make being a mum and it's the one thing I want more than anything but I do not know what situation the endo will be in 10 years time :/

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Hi there

I have been in a similar situation and going through it now still.

I was finally diagnosed with endo when I was 18 and at the time was told to think about children sooner rather then later, however at the time my bf and I decided that we were not ready for this, he is 9 years older then me but we decided that we needed to be in the right situation to think about bringing a child into our lives.

However we got married last year and were trying for a baby as soon as we got married, we have been trying for a year with no luck at the moment. We have now been referred to the fertility clinic and are awaiting appointments etc. The only thing that comforts me is that I have age on my side, so have many years to try, as do you.

It is really a difficult decision but you have to do what you and your partner think is right and try to stay positive!!

I wish you all the luck in the world and hope things get better for you, know that you are not alone, there can often be lots of things to try when you are ttc so stay positive.

Wishing you all the best

Bex xx

points94 in reply to BexC

Thank you so much for responding, your story has made me feel reassured. I wish you and your husband all the best and hope you become a mum soon :) xx

Hi I have endometriosis myself and am struggling at the moment getting my pain under control. I am also a fertility nurse and know this story only too well. Our fertility specialist consultant is giving a talk on endo and fertility on thurs evening at our hospital. I am going to put a link on the hospital website on Friday and the Facebook page it's The Spire Regency Women's Health Services. I am adamant to make a difference to women suffering with endo :-) I hope this might help some of you. Xxxx

Hi hope your feeling okay. I'm going through the exact same with my boyfriend. We have decided that we now want to start trying for a baby! Today is not a good day as I have come on and the pain is awful but this is also terrible news because it means I am not pregnant. I know it can take a while but I am getting impatient. Hopefully it will work out quicker for you! Xxx

points94 in reply to BeckyyHopee

Thanks Becky, may I ask how old you are? I am in a dialema as I'm only 20 although my boyfriend is nearly 27 I cannot make up my mind if it is the right time to start trying or not? I am so worried about my fertility decreasing over time but if I did start trying now it may even take years and years to concieve xx

I am 20 and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for 5 years and have had lots of appointment with doctors. We have been told that because I am young I will never be more fertile than I am now even with my endo. We will try until I mentally cannot handle it anymore.that is what we have agreed. Its not an easy decision to make. My boyfriend is very supportive and wants this just as much as me which is good! Does your partner want to start trying too? Xx

points94 in reply to BeckyyHopee

It is so nice that your boyfriend wants the same as you and is supportive! :) me and my partner have discussed it and although I know it is not what he ideally wants right now he has been seeking advice from friends who have children and has also been looking in to houses suitable to raise a child in which surprised me as I thought he would not want it at all! We have only been together 2 years and had plans to move to South Africa but now we have both agreed that will not happen as I will not be able to pay for health care out there. It sounds like you have a very stable relationship and I really hope things work out for you and you are blessed with a baby soon! :) xxx

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