Worried mum

[Worried-parent]

Hi I'm a worried working mum. I think my son have dyslexia he will be year 6 this September and will be having Kent test. He is struggling when we do revision and during the mock test he failed in math and verbal reasoning. I noticed this when he was year 4. I did discuss to my husband that I wanted him to be tested but he declined because he doesn't want his boy's confidence to be affected.

[MarySI]

That was exactly like me!!!!

I was soo bad at maths i would get 1out of 20 in my mental maths test and me and verbal reasoning were enemies! And my teachers never picked up anything until I was in y10 and even then I didn't get any help or support. I know that no parent wants their child to have a learning disability but sometimes having that diagnosis will help him get the right help and support that he needs to improve and I know from experience that the right help will help him get far.😁😁

[Worried-parent in reply to MarySI]

Thank you MarySI. He can do simple mental math but with solving problem he is very slow. Do I have to take this issue to his teacher? I am not from this country originally. Although my husband is English but he doesn't know about these things. I want him to be diagnosed but my husband is still in denial or maybe Something to do with the stigma. I have difficulty in explaining it to my husband? Can I still be able to ask for assessment without my husband knowing it or does it needs both parents consent?

[MarySI in reply to Worried-parent]

You can also speak to a gp of psychiatrist. I don't think you need both parents consent so it will be fine if you go without your husband knowing. There is alot of stigma with dyslexia and it hurts to know that people see it as something that dumb people have and that you can't be smart and be dyslexic.

I hope it works out for your son😊😊

[Worried-parent in reply to MarySI]

It hurts me too. Weather my son is dyslexic or not I will still try to share it to my husband & friends that this is not something to be ashamed of. Every individual is unique and needs to be respected. Thank you so much.

[Giosang in reply to Worried-parent]

Wish I could take away all the worrying and fear that parents go through, but I can't. All I can say is the more you know the more you'll see that dyslexia isn't the end of the world and many, many dyslexics go on to live wonderfully creative lives. Mark my words.

[Giosang in reply to Worried-parent]

Best to be open with your husband on this. Is he reading these messages? I don't think you need both parent's consent, but in the end you'll all have to work together to support your child properly.

[MarySI]

It's my pleasure!!!!

[cundiamor]

Yes get him tested. There's no shame to being dyslexic. Some of the world's important inventors, businesses people and engineers were dyslexic. You, your husband and son need to identify his learning style and then be implemented at school. Secondary School his full of academic assessments (GCSE's). It's important that reasonable adjustments are identified early on.

dyslexicadvantage.org/ This site is very useful.

[Worried-parent in reply to cundiamor]

Thank you very much.

[Giosang]

Follow your instincts. Talk to the special needs teachers at your school or your GP. Your husband is quite right about confidence, but if your son has dyslexia, or any sort of special needs, and it's not properly supported, his confidence will be damaged so much more! Do it now. Don't delay.

[Worried-parent in reply to Giosang]

Thanks x

[Giosang in reply to Worried-parent]

You're very welcome. Fear of the unknown is the worse thing. Go find out!! This is a great site. Visit it with your husband if possible: dyslexicadvantage.org/

[austinsmrs]

My son was in year 5 when we had him tested for dyslexia. We had a private educational psychologist assess him and the report was sent to the school to the senco to implement extra help. Due to the results of the report we decided the only way forward was to get him into a specialist school. he is year 9 now and fulfilling his potential and has a great self esteem which was all but gone in mainstream. He is on track to succeed in gaining good gcse grades. Talk to ur husband look at netmums and other social media and realise u r not alone and help is out there. Ur son may not have the degree of affliction my son had with dyslexia so help that can be offered at school may make all the difference. High school is full on so u want him sorted before then for sure even if it's for his self esteem which I'm guessing if he is dyslexic is pretty rock bottom. Look at ipsea web site and other website look at Maple Hayes dyslexic school in Lichfield they have pages of advice. Ur husband has his head in the sand if he doesn't want his confidence affected failing exams eats away at kids when everyone else is passing. Until you have him assessed u don't know how bad things r so my advice is get him assessed and then make a joint decision on what happens next. Good luck

[Worried-parent in reply to austinsmrs]

Thank you x

[UaLiathain]

I ran across the article I thought might be helpful.

theguardian.com/lifeandstyl...

[Cupcake1617]

Getting tested and diagnosed (at 27) actually gave me the confidence to say yes I am 'different' and yes I do need a little longer for various tasks but this is why ..... I hope you get some answers and support soon xx