Loving an alcoholic

[AzulMaria]

Hi everyone, I'm new here but I would like some advise and help to understand something.

I've never had problems with alcohol but my fiance is. He already was before I met him, so I was aware of what I was getting into. Or I thought I was. He accept that he has a problem and already went to rehab before me. He always says that he wants to stop, but everytime he start something like counselling ou aa meetings, he gives up after a couple of weeks.

The thing is that I dont know how to deal with this. I know that the decision to look for help is 100% his, and there is no much what I can do. But I would like to know what I can do. In the beginning I use to fight with him, then I start to bargain with him, now I just ignore. But nothing makes he goes after help. He says he wants to stop, he feels really bad after a night of drinking, but he doesn't do anything! Is there a way to advise him in a way that he listen to me and doesn't feel attacked or judged?

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Hi I'm so sorry about this if he genuinely wants to stop he can but sounds like he not string enough and us addicted I had a bit of a problem with binge drinking when was upset but I had a wake up call and could have killed me If you look my post up how to drink more but less but sounds like he may have addicted personality I don't, I'm really concerned about you and your partner does he change towards you when he's drunk xx

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Hi again I've just had to read through your post again as I'm tired you need to tell him about me my liver count had gone high and I didn't drink regular it was last lock down ask him to get his bloods checked we don't realise how much damage were doing and get him to have something else try the non alcohol stuff mix it with alcohol to wean him off his body will miss the sugar so get something sweet it takes time for the brain to adjust and once enough times gone he won't be bothered I don't know what else to say right now but I'll get back to you tomorror take care big hugs to you 💛xxx

[Isinatra in reply to Hidden]

I’m a recovering alcoholic since 2003. My experience with AA saved my life. Al-anon may save yours. It has helped thousands cope with a loved one with alcoholism. Best to you.❤️🏄‍♀️

[Isinatra in reply to Isinatra]

P.S. sorry, Curly, I was responding to Azul. (You would think by now I could figure that out)

[Hidden in reply to Isinatra]

Thank you I'm ok now I went to AA stopped drinking few months have a few now n then I just don't keep much in incase best wishes 🤗😊

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I just started reading a book because like you l am searching for answers. The title is The Lois Wilson Story a biography of the Cofounder of Al-Anon by William G. Borchert. He was a friend of hers and in my opinion a very good writer. I hope you can find a copy... l borrowed mine from the library. There is also a movie by the same name and l asked my librarian to track down a copy for me... l look forward to watching it. Best Wishes on your Journey.