Just wondering what people think about me sending a birthday card to my recent ex.
As everyone will know i split up with my ex about a month ago, and this time last week i went to get my things from his. I gave him a few things back he give me as it was too painful to see them or throw them away and he was so annoyed and gutted and said he took back everything he said to me that night and he has not messaged me back when i replied to him to explain that it was too painful etc.
His birthday is coming up at the start of May so another month will have passed by then.
I dont feel like I should ignore his birthday really. You know, i dont want to be petty and immature and it doesnt feel quite right not to do anything.
Just before we split up he said "least you wont have to get anything for my birthday"...he was very into things being fair like same amount of money being spent etc so am sure the thought of me not buying him anything was tough for him because hes a bit tight like that - i wouldnt of even of thought of that!!
My mum said "why should you get him one?!" because she doesnt think i should bother and he doesnt deserve one. But that just doesnt sit right with me.
It might get his back up if he thinks im not bothered even though hes not spoke to me since last week. and really i dont no if hes still angry or what. Im not doing it to get a responce, im not bothered if i dont and i dont expect to actually but i feel like maybe im being the bigger person by acknowledging his birthday?
anyway im just thinking out loud trying to sort it out in my own head because i cant exactly put my finger on why i actually want too! - sorry its so long!!
So what do people think the best thing to do is? what would you do?