Depressed

[Topbananamac]

So depressed today and generally ,i cant get out,i cant eat,i cant even be bothered to write this,everythings a waste of time,dont see any point being here,really dont

[WarriorPrincess88]

Stop it! You have done this before, you can do it now,you know you can get through it. Fight it as always. We've got each other and we know how you feel.

[Gazzathomas]

Hi Joe Mac , it's hard to care when your about to give up... Going thru the same at the moment.. trying to make it thru each day gets more difficult.. sometime I just stay in sleep or watch mindless TV whilst not really watching , I guess it gives me some background noise ...

Each day step by step is all we can do...

[Topbananamac in reply to Gazzathomas]

You know exactly what im talkin about,,ive been bit better the last few days,,but wot u said about sleeping and back ground noise is so true..I hope u battle it and then look back and see its a baastrd illness,but when we feel good we feel great,,and dont know about you but to me thats like winning the lottery everyday,,just havin peace of mind and being happy in self,,nice to hear from you good luck,sorry for late reply im terrible at picking up emails,,tc

[Gazzathomas in reply to Topbananamac]

Hey joe, that's ok there's no rush in our worlds! Glad to hear your feeling a bit better. It's a rollercoaster ride for us all the ups and the many downs. I have stopped looking back as I cannnot change that , the going forward I try hard to tackle, some days it's positive some days it's dark and lonely ... keep the background noise alive !

[Goldfish_]

This is negative thinking which will make you feel worse. How about looking for a few positives?

[Topbananamac in reply to Goldfish_]

Arh great in theory but positive thinkin only gets us so far,,in my experience,ive had horrendous periods with depression and agrophobia,,i completey understand pos thinking but some times a depressive can go far past even being self conscious about their own thoughts and consumed by a kind of self destruction as in the cliche ISM like in Alcohol-ism..I sabotage myself.

[Satsuma]

I know how u feel .. It is so hard to see that there could be a way out of this

[Topbananamac in reply to Satsuma]

Its terrible,,im bit better now,,i hope u can find peace in your thoughts and be at 1,,im always here for a chat,tc

[Lizbett]

Joe, I know that you have had a major losss not too long ago, but you MUST start to get active and LIVING again.

What you're currently doing is not helping you. In fact, it will only make things worse in the long-term. So then, do not think. Just DO. It takes about two weeks' for an act to become a habit I believe. Just get up and let your feet lead the way. Do something you used to enjoy.

✌

[Topbananamac in reply to Lizbett]

Just like the book "stop thinking start livin" I really like your to the point advice and i am bad at over thinking,,every miniscule thing in life i naturally take on board and re-hash but youve got my thinking and have added aperspective to my daily process im gonna do..I cant walk far as got serious back problem,with plates in my spine and on morphine,but i love photography so i might even just go into the garden to snap away,,thank u for ur time and advice,,i hope u r well,sorry i was self indulgent in writing but pleased with your idea,,feet do the walking,not the brain..

[Lizbett in reply to Topbananamac]

Thank you Joe ... I have major back problems as well with anxiety, depression and high blood pressure to boot. Yes, do the photography and if your mind wanders bring it gently back each and every time.

I wish you well!

[Constancy]

I know exactly how you feel joemac. Two weeks ago I couldn't even brush my teeth. It was not possible for me to change my thinking or to do anything I enjoyed because it's like my ability to enjoy has been surgically removed. All I wanted to do was sleep through days that were so loooong.

One of the things I find hardest when depressive bouts hit is making decisions about anything. It helps me if I can force myself eat something, anything and to get out for a walk, ideally somewhere green. I can't change the depression by thinking positive instead I'm trying to work on accepting it and taking it one day at a time. You can cope with really awful things if you think well it's just this day, this moment I have to get through. Because it does come to an end, you won't always feel this bad. When I'm really bad I also just want life to be over but I need to cling on the fact that when I'm not ill that is not how I feel. When I'm not ill there are things I want to do, people I want to be with. So I'm trying to accept my limitations when I'm ill with depression in the same way I do when I have the flu. When I have the flu I know I can't go for a run but I never think I'll never be able to run again!

Hang on in there- it will pass...

[Topbananamac in reply to Constancy]

thank you,,love the advice and your approach,,ODAAT,,one day at a time ,they use that in AA meetings,which i go to occassionally,and so right in its not going to last forever,,really important that one,coz if we really believed it was wewould have no reason to continue' and ive been there so many times and it wears u/me/us down..But i really am the same with not eating for days,people telling me that i have to ..and foecing it down even though u really cant be bothered,nothing has flavour when u feel like that ,or brushing my teeth,waking up ,going to the toilet is a big inconveinneence . I hope ur good at the moment ,im on the up,but jan/feb are not good for me.Like u say its an illness and should be treated the same and wont last,but having that insight into self when drowning in dispair is so hard,i thank you for the message ,sorry i replied so late,,im really disorganised with mail,,i hope x-mas goes well for u and peace and contentment is with u..tc