Can't believe I'm actually so Lonely...

[crazycara]

Hello everyone,

I've actually been apart of this website for a while now, just hardly post anything, I still look at other people's posts and advice though. I guess I'm feeling really lonely tonight, and I just want to reach out to anyone who maybe feels the same.

I see a lot of caring people on here, who have made friends, but I'm too shy to really reach out to anyone, so if anyone wants a chat (like me) then give me a message I guess, if thats how it works? I always reply to people just too scared to start myself!

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[Suzie40]

Hey cara! If you've been reading posts, you've probably realised we're a nice bunch, and there's always someone to chat to here! Loneliness is horrible isn't it? Do you live alone?

What have you got planned for the weekend? My son is trying to persuade me to let him get a train to the next city with his friends tomorrow and I can't decide whether to let him (he's 14)

Hope to hear from you soon

Lucy x

[crazycara in reply to Suzie40]

Hiya Lucy, yeah it's horrible, all my friends have partners and mine is long distance, plus he's busy tonight with a du jitsu thing for the weekend, so I wont be able to speak to him much =[

I live with 2 other people both busy tonight with either partners or potential partners, so that's going to be for the whole weekend too =[

I have no plans for the weekend, do you?

Awww my sister is turning 14 in November, and she wants to get a train ride to Romford, which is about 15-20 minutes away, for her birthday to watch a film with her friends, think my mum is letting her go. I convinced her, saying I went to Romford before I was 14. Is your son's train journey longer then this?

Cara

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[Suzie40]

Similar journey. He wants to go to Cardiff. He's a sensible boy, I just worry! My plans only ever revolve around my children. Sometimes I have to remind myself that one day they will leave home and I'll need a contingency plan. That'll be the time loneliness will rally kick in

[Photogeek in reply to Suzie40]

Hi Lucy

How are you? It's hard to let your son make his journey, he sounds

Like a good lad. Trusting them helps in their development as

a teenager . But of course you will worry. You are a great Mum.

Lucy make sure and try and build a little Lucy time into your weekend.

I just said I would say Hello in case I don't get chance tomorrow. I want

To shoot some B & W Film tomorrow morning. Then I have invited

A friend over for supper, so I will be chasing around.

Hannah. Xx

[Suzie40 in reply to Photogeek]

Hey thanks Hannah, that's kind. Hope you're getting less rain for your photos than we are in Wales! X

[crazycara]

Ahhh yeah, I can't really compare, I don't have children, don't want any for a few more years at least! haha but my mum is going through the same thing atm. I'm sure he'll be fine, if you trust him and he's a good boy

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[Photogeek]

Hi Cara,

How are you. I live alone myself and yes I guess I do feel lonely sometimes. But

I think there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I have a few hobbies

Which keep me busy and a cat. I don't have family support and I do miss that.

It might be an idea to plan to do something when your boyfriend has things of his

Own lined up. Don't be shy here as most people are lovely and will try and help

If they can at all. Do you have things you like to do in your spare time? It's always

Good to have your own life and interests. Maybe invite a friend to go cinema, or

Even meet for a coffee or chat.

Ok Cara hope to talk to you again here. Have a good weekend.

Hannah

[crazycara in reply to Photogeek]

Hiya Hannah thanks for your reply,

Yeah I planned to have a girly night this Sunday but I've been let down. I know the feeling of having people around and yet you feel alone.

Oh I really want a kitten but my landlord said no =[ because of the furniture and it scratching, I love cats. Anyway I do have hobbies, but because of my depression it's difficult for me to have interest in them for very long. Like reading, I used to read all day everyday, and now I can only manage a chapter before feeling bored or disinterested.

Though I do have a pole dancing session planned for Sunday so, hopefully I have the courage and motivation to go through with that otherwise I'd be doing nothing interesting this weekend.

Hope you're having a good weekend so far?

x

[Photogeek in reply to crazycara]

Cara thanks for reply . It's terrible when things get cancelled.

Ah I know what you mean about maintaining the interest in

Things. It is hard for sure, I too used to read a lot more than I do

Now. It's hard to get motivated and the thing is that we need to

Do little things to help our happiness. Sometimes I do silly

Things that I quite enjoy. Like painting my nails and putting on

Face masks and pampering . I always feel better after that.

Cara try and go to the pole dancing class , don't chicken out as

That will give you a boost. It will be a bit of fun and you are only

Young once.

Message me here if you need a chat. Yea Cats do scratch things and later on when you get your own home you could get one.

You were wise to come on here , why suffer alone .?

Lot of people feel lonely sometimes .

Have a good weekend Cara

Hugs to you

Hannah

[crazycara in reply to Photogeek]

Yeah didn't make me feel any better when it got cancelled, made me feel worse, but hopefully my other friend will still want to hang out. Seems so sad doesn't it? Relying on other people to make your day, just sounds so childish ''my friend might hang out with me''...

I was thinking about doing my toenails but I'm awful at painting them tbh, I've just been watching a lot of tv series they usually cheer me up some. I will try a pole, I don't want to let my friend down. Yes the plan is to get a small little first house with the boyfriend and get a kitten and a puppy - me and the boyfriend have already discussed! But seeing as we're in University, that will be a long time to wait.

Yeah I don't usually suffer alone, think it's just this weekend and recently that I've really started to struggle again =[ When I was making progress, ah well just hope it goes away soon.

You have a good weekend too Hannah, and thank you

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