Lonliness

[Molyfar2]

Being partially deaf, I often feel very lonely, even with a group of friends or family. I often feel that I do not belong - either in the Hearing world or the Deaf world. It is not surprising that I also suffer bouts of depression. Discuss?

[Abu78]

I totally understand, I love my friends and seeing them but always come back from a big group outing feeling more alone than if I'd never gone in the first place!

[ChrissieMT]

I too often feel lonely and a bit down after being with a group, but it is better than sitting at home alone, stagnating and getting more depressed. Maybe find out about any group for the hard of hearing in your area. Youmcould then discuss these fedlings with people who are in the same situation. Your local library or council should be able to help.

[Melita17]

Dear Molyfar2

I think most people who are hard of hearing, including myself, know just what you mean. I was sitting at a table full of people in a fairly quiet room and the person opposite me was talking to me and for the life of me I didn't know what he was saying. The look on his face said it all (I think he was expecting a reply). I, like you, feel very left out. I don't know if there are hearing aids that zoom in on someone's voice if you look directly at them but if there was it probably will cost an awful lot of money which many of us cannot afford. I personally don't want to join hearing groups but it might help you. Ask your local doctor's surgery if there's one in your area. Good luck.

[Daffi]

I know just how you feel.

I help run a bereavement group at our chapel and most are elderly and have this trouble as I do. As Christians we try and understand each other, but sadly those who aren't deaf, after speaking louder when asked to, quickly forget and soon drop their voice.

The only way I can tell ( most) not all, of what is said, is to lip read.

I tell them I need to see their face to see their lips.

I hope this helps, I don't know how old you are, but try and join a group that are considerate and caring. Have you a caring church near you?

[Steverino]

Two attractive ladies approached me in a noisy bar made conversation couldn't hear what the feck they were going on about, whipped out my hearing aid. Yep works every time haha! x

[Riley_008 in reply to Steverino]

Ha ha!! Unfortunately for me I either get ignored by men or they think im an easy pull by joking with fruity sign language!! Groan!!!

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It is isolating and frustrating, even with my hearing aids I'm still struggling in groups, feel left out and it's starting to make me not want to go out. As for dating, well I'm not even attempting that.

[Lenocker68]

In a way you don't fit in, your life and mine are different. It's hard to relate to others as we face a challenging life being hearing impaired. May I suggest joining a deaf support group in your country. You wouldn't feel so lonely with others who walk in our shoes.

[sakinah111]

Your not the only one in this situation even amongst family I still feel totally alone. Of course we get depressed it natural. We feel so alienated!!

But we need to stay strong and focussed even tho I myself can find it hard to keep to my own words at times!!

Stay strong x

Sakinah 🌹