Your day is going along nicely and then it happens - something to start the slippery slide into feeling unable, unworthy, useless, unlikeable, uneverything and a little tiny slug of a person.
Falling fast or slow? Eq
On that slippery slide down I have tried to grab onto anything to keep me away from the deep, dark, smelly bottom.
BUT recently I have started to do the opposite. I have let myself fall and once I have reached the bottom and feel just awful - I play some sad music and feel even worse. But then I have a good cry AND THIS IS WHERE THE EXCITING BIT HAPPENS.
After my cry I find I start to feel better and by the time my face has stopped being red & wet, I have made a cup of tea and had a pee. Then I realise that I have started to scrabble out of the deep dark pit and am feeling like I could smile 🙂
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Sometimes I think it’s life’s experiences - what it throws at us makes us feel like that occasionally, had my fair share I probably most of us have. What helped me over the years was the music I like. Jolly, punk rock ? I’m a massive Foo Fighters fan, that’s helped me. Other things I like doing in my life, exercise, cooking travel, I just throw myself into that for the feel good factor and it helps immensely. X
Crying really has a release for some people that's why it helps. Your running will really help with this as apart from the physical benefits the mental health benefits are amazing. Good luck 😊
It can be cathartic to cry. The important thing is to be able to see the light above, so long as we know which direction to move towards we're OK. 👍🏻
Wherever possible try to silence any negative thoughts directed towards yourself, ie, when we hear the "look you're so stupid" then defend yourself, everyone makes mistakes, can be clumsy, can get it wrong. No human is infallible. Don't expect more of yourself than you would anyone else. Think what you would say to a friend if she felt like that.
Giving in to the misery from time to time is OK but don't let it become the comfort zone. 😉
Oh yes...i really do...fairly regularly at the minute again. Sliding down it at the minute to be honest . Interesting actually as I have had to cut back on amount of running I am doing due to kids and I was finding i was quicker to climb out of the pit when I was running more often.
When you feel like this - would it help to talk to someone? If so you could try ringing the Samaritans on 116123. It's not just for people who are actively suicidal. Sometimes, just to tell someone how awful you're feeling, and all they do is listen to you and empathise is a good release.
It's good to see you have found a way of coping on your own, but this is just to let you know you don't have to do it on your own.
I have been there so many times in the past 30 years that I've lost count. I completely agree with you on the crying thing. Sometimes the only way to stop falling is to reach the bottom.
Only thing I do differently is coffee, never been a tea drinker.
Have you spoken to a doctor? Sounds like you could do with some meds like sertraline or similar. Only know because I’m the same. Running helps massively. I’m really struggling at the moment too ☹️
The smiths/Morrisy followed by a dollop of Leonard Cohen and then a list of 3 things I have to be thankful for helps me pull on my trainers and get out there and run. Pounding the road makes me feel alive.... talking out my thoughts to people who don’t know me (Samaritans) also has helped me out of the absolute bottom of the pit... thoughts and prayers (even if you don’t believe) are sent x
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do you run in the dark?
Well, they say you're not a runner till you fall! (B210K complete)
Back on it! And if you can, do it! 
How do you know when to repeat a week or power on? 
Do you run in the rain? 
