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HI, my husband came out hospital on Monday, he had a heart attack on Wednesday.

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His diagnosis is ant-lat stemi, thrombolysed, prox and mid LAD disease (no PCI) and mod-sev LVSD We havent had any more contact from the doctor or hospital yet but my husband is worried as he gets out of breath just walking to the kitchen.

We are also booked to go on a coach trip 30/12/2012 to Germany for New Year, he really wants to go and thinks he will be fine as he will be sittng on a coach most of the time.

Any thoughts or info would be gratefully recieved, I feel like Im on my own at the moment and desperate for info.

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Very sorry to hear your news, and hope that things will turn out ok. I don't have much knowledge of your husband's condition, but if you are planning to go away, please make sure you inform your insurance company of his condition. They may not even cover him. If it was me, I wouldn't even contemplate travelling.

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He is very stubborn, I know he wants to go really badly Im just getting the run around with all the medical people at the moment I want a yes or no answer but getting nowhere.

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maisie_dazy

Hello flower100...so sorry to hear about your husband. Like hansi said I wouldn't even contemplate travelling, it's far too soon plus your insurance would'nt cover him. I had a terrible time trying to get travel insurance earlier this year as I'd had cancer 2 years ago and have had the all clear but once I'd put on the form the word "cancer" the premium went through the roof!! My explanation of "but I haven't got it now" cut no ice. I think once you inform them of your husbands condition they will withdraw cover.

As to what your husband thinks about just sitting on a coach most of the time, after doing a similar trip with my first husband who had just come out of hospital after a serious operation and against doctors advice he was adamant he wanted to carry on with the coach tour abroad so we went, but he paid the price later and was totally, totally exhausted. We didn't do much walking in all honesty and were very careful but not only did it affect him but I couldn't enjoy myself as I was worried about him all the time we were away. Also sitting in one position for hours is not good for circulation and heart problems, especially so soon after him having a heart attack. I'm sure his doctors would say the same. Has he mentioned the trip to them by the way?

Would it be possible to postpone the trip, I know it's not the same as celebrating new year at the time but by waiting for your husband to recover more fully you would both enjoy it more.

Maisie

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Hi, my thoughts are the same as you about the worry, the insurance is fine he would be covered for everything except his heart and he has a european travel card.

We have done this trip before and to be fair they do stop quite a lot I think he is also worried about letting others down as we are going with my 17 yr old son and his aunt and uncle.

Why are men so stubborn.

Thanks for your reply,

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mags3003

Hi, understand that he has a European travel card, but that only covers him for hospital care,

it won't cover you or your son to stay with him, nor will it cover costs if he is discharged but not fit enough to return to the uk. Due to his illness the insurance you have will refund the cost of your holiday, and if it were my husband I would refuse to go so that he couldn,t and take the decision from him. Surely his health is more important than a holiday?? Isn't it ???

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latimer

Sorry to be so blunt but my advice is very simple - PLEASE DON'T DO IT!! Previous posters have all given excellent advice - please take it. Despite having a stubborn and foolish husband, I hope he recovers soon. Best of luck.

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aberystwyth

It will take you husband months to feel really well again and the first few months after a heart attack is a critical time. This holiday must be cancelled.

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CultureVulture25

I don't have experience of anti sat whatever you mentioned, but I have definite experience of having a heart attack. Mine was nearly 7 years ago. All I can say is, it does get better, the pains and shortness of breath does go away. It is definitely a matter of time healing things. I have a blog which I've kept for the last three years and I've recorded my experiences there. It isn't all related to my heart attack, but you may find my experiences useful. It's at bosworth99.blogspot.com. Hope if you read the earlier posts it's of some use to you.

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spats

Flower, It is not only Your holiday at risk of ruin!! IF your husband took ill abroad ALL of the

other folk will be upset and their holiday can be disrupted. We were on an overseas holiday with a guest who was obviously ill and in the end she had a rotten holiday and ended up using all the oxygen on flight home, and was met by the ambulance at the airport...Much better for the whole family to support you and either the other 3 go alone or you all cancel without any moaning. AS others have said holiday cancellation is covered for sickness - probably to try and stave off illness travel that you husband wishes to try. This does not sound like a once only trip, so could be repeated once husband is fit and enjoyed by you all. Surely there are LOCAL hotels that could give you a restfull holiday, without the dread of 'something might happen'!!. Our NHS does spoil us rotten and makes us a bit blasé about health costs

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patch14

Before you even contemplate packing a suitcase go back to the GP. If you can't get any joy at the hospital the GP is the only port of call you can make at such a late date!! Only he/she has your husbands's full medical history at their disposal and can advise you. I am in agreement with those above who think going on holiday is not a good idea. It is far too soon!!!!! What ifs will plague you until the 30th!!!! Take this time to encourage your husband to recover from his heart attack. Get all the advice you can from your GP and just enjoy this festive season with friends and family and forget the trip. Wait until you are both feeling in a better place then rebook. So what if you do lose money!! Better that than something worse!! All the very best to your husband and best wishes

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canucklady

Hello flower and I too am very sorry to hear this news. My husband had a heart attack in October and I couldn't imagine travelling anywhere far even now, never mind right after coming home from the hospital - and he's recovering well (two stents). I think you've been given some very good advice - especially the suggestion to talk to your GP. I would ring up, make an appointment and take your husband with you so he hears it straight for himself. You could be financially ruined if your insurance doesn't cover every aspect of what could happen - and if you don't tell them the full story and something happens (which I truly hope doesn't, but it is a possibility), coverage is automatically denied. These things are bad enough when they happen at home. I feel strongly that it's folly to just carry on as if nothing's happened. Something has! and it cannot sensibly be ignored.

How are YOU through all of this? It's a very stressful time and this can't be helping your peace of mind. Who do you have for support? (no need to answer, just something to think about as I've been asked that many times, and I think it's important)

Best of luck to you both. Please let us know how things unfold?

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hugh_m

Hi again flower100, sounds like your husband is still in denial about his condition. I still want to be able to do everything (and more!) that I did before my heart attack, even though I know that I need to be kind to myself and patient!! I still get tired very easily (even doing nothing!). It's time to "let others down for once", they'll not only unerstand but they'll get over it quickly!

Whereas nothing terrible may happen (other than fear) to your husband; YOU most certainly WON'T have a holiday! It's time to ask him how selfish he wants to be this holiday season, and you need to tell him how you feel, you've had just as much of as a shock as he has and you too need time to heal. Unless of course, you've agreed to resign as his wife in order to become his carer rather than his partner.

I know the above is harsh, but it's time for a reality check; it's obvious that you love and care for him deeply; he needs to do the same for himself AND you. A quiet holiday time this year can lead to many more festive holidays to come; otherwise think about the memories you'll have, fear, dread, worry etc. what's festive about that?

Please, please put yourself first for once otherwise you'll end up a wreck! A wreck doesn't make for a good wife or carer!!

Please take care, things will get better for you both, slowly!

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flower100

Hi thanks for all your replies, my husband has finally seen sense much to my relief, I think he is just having problems coming to terms with his heart attack, he has never really been ill before and never had to go to hospital so a massive shock for him.

I passed my driving test 5 days after he had the attack so I have bought a car and have told him we can maybe go to a hotel or something if he wants to get away. Not sure about his stress levels though with me driving him.

He has been good and followed all the advice with diet change and excercise but the biggest change is stopping smoking since he has smoked since he was 16 38 years ago it must be dificult for him.

Just waiting for a mri scan and echo test done now to see what damage has been done then Docs will decide what further treatment he will need.

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eastridingbigden

HI FLOWER 100 GLAD TO HEAR YOUR HUSBAND AS SEEN SENSE BUT i WAS LIKE HIM AFTER MY HERT ATTACK AND WIFE PUT FOOT DOWN AND GLA D I TOOK HER ADVICE I AM ALSO TAKING STRAUSS HEART DROPS 3 TIMES A DAY AND THEY REALY HELP THE HEART TO RECOVER ALTHOUGH IT IS NEVER QUITE THE SAME BUT i AM FINE NOW SO GO ON AND ENJOY LIFE HAPPY CHRISTMAS TO EVERYBODY ON THIS SITE

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patch14

Hello flower100, delighted that your husband is now following the medical advice. Of course, the shock scared him and he was probably in denial for a while!! However, now that you are, on the road again, so to speak!! (Congratulations on passing your test by the way) you can look forward to getting out and about again. Leave the foreign holidays for a while and just enjoy the great outdoors as and when you both feel like it!! Lots of best wishes for 2013

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flower100

Hi just a quick update hubby a bit dow as we should be getting ready to travel but he has recieved appts for a mri scan on the 3rd jan and an echo test on the 17th, hopefully we will find out whats going to happen next when he has had these tests. He is doing really well not smoking gone 16 days now the low fat diet is ok not brilliant due to xmas but a big improvement, and I am picking my new car up on the 2nd so things are moving along, just wish we knew a bit more he came out of hospital on 17th dec and only contact he has had with any medical staff is a visit from a nurse this thurs.

Thanks again for all your comments they have all helped.

All the best for 2013

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8191

i know this message call - ?????, it's taught by a Taiwan Chinese traditional doctor. You may watch his teaching in You Tube or his website free of charge. If he still has shortness of breath, need to massage muscle at beside his spinal cord, upper chest, back part of body. Avoid drinking/ eating cold foods. Need to avoid some foods like banana.

Just copy ?????, and paste it in you tube to know more. Even though his teaching is in Mandarin, you just watch him how to massage and then you may apply in instantly.

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8191

i am sorry, chinese wording can't be seen in this website, u may learn more for the website : C.C.H. MEDICAL FOUNDATION. Thanks.

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