I found this forum not too long ago through a search about being treated differently because of a deformity. I didn’t always have this but I got a plastic surgery procedure in 2011 and since then my life has been hell. I used to be an attractive person and was treated normally by people. The surgery I had on my face has destroyed some of the fat on it, and now my face is asymmetrical and it looks odd. I could tell something was wrong when I was going back to work after I healed. I looked in the mirror to do my usual makeup routine and something looked off about me, and not in a good way. I didn’t know if it was in my head or not.. But as soon as I went outside i realized it wasn’t just me that saw it. People were behaving oddly around me. People seemed to avoid me and seemed to try to get away from me. If I parked next to someone at a park, they would leave. I was at a store one night and I looked at someone and they looked away as fast as possible. This was odd behavior to me because this wasn’t the norm for me before my surgery. Well, it’s the norm for me now. I can’t go outside without being laughed at, or completely avoided. People always have an attitude towards me, including cashiers, waiters/waitresses or anyone who has to deal with me. Children laugh at me. I’ve never felt so horrible in all my life. In the first two years after my surgery i considered suicide every day. I couldn’t go to my job, so I got fired. I couldn’t get out of bed and I ended up in a mental facility three different times for depression and suicdal feelings.
It’s now been 4 and a half years since the surgery and although I can get out of bed in the morning and i’m getting more used to leaving the house, I’m still having trouble dealing with society. I find it difficult to go back to local stores where i have been treated badly by their workers...i’m not sure if i should tell management or not..i have in some occasions but not every time...i am running out of places to go and now have to go far away to get stuff including groceries. Even delivery drivers treat me bad.
Again, before this surgery I had a nice life. I had a full tie job, a boyfriend, i went out to eat a lot, went to all types of events etc and enjoyed many interests and hobbies.
Is there any way to deal with this or any thing I can say to these people? It's one thing to have someone on the street belittle me but for someone at their job, where I am paying money to buy something from them I just can't deal with that.. sometimes it's even the manager that gives me problems and if I ask for the manager they just smirk and say "I am the manager" its frustrating...