I am on a few posts and I don't know what to do. My mum is 93 and now needs urgent emergency care but my doc today said he can't get any as they have no capacity.
My husband and I can't cope with her due to our own physical and mental illness. I was abused by her yesterday and the other day and sorry I have severe depression and anxiety. I am not going around there to be abused. I don't care if it sounds selfish. I am in too much pain anyway and now having to find care myself for her, which is impossible with her rambling like a stuck tape recorder.
I have not been able to have my medication for three days at night as falling asleep so am on edge now in the morning. I need to take a break.
Mum has general weakness because the silly woman doesn't eat properly. She is basically skin and bone and has plenty of food in the house and she will eat if someone is about. She ate my casserole the other day and was fine. This collapse started the next day. She was found sat on the loo, awake, ready for bed, but no sign of going to bed. Ambulance came said she may have blacked out. Then couldn't reach her walker to get up and her strength has now gone. Doc said has mental cognitive but is not making much sense and that's a reaction to the incident. No sign of a fall. No infection. Its the brain cannot make the body go. Her grip is strong. Like a guerilla. But no strength in legs and general weakness. She can't stand up and down or walk and needs help night and day to make sure she is safe. He tried to get emergency support but can't.
So now I have to arrange it via careline and the silly woman last time told them she didn't need it. To be honest she wasn't this bad. She started as soon as the doctor went, abused me and refused to accept care. To be honest I just wish she would go to sleep and that's it. That's how I feel after years of abuse by her since I was a child. Now I am meant to act the dutiful carer. I am not able to, end of story. Physically I can't do it and mentally I can't and emotionally I won't. I don't care if I sound selfish, I am not a hypocritical martyr. She needs professional care and I need help to get it. I would appreciate any suggestions you may have.
If you want to come on and tell me its my duty don't bother. I won't read the posts.
I am just looking for information to find professional support.