Hi everyone and welcome to the first Friday Free for All in September. Please post away on any topic of your choosing, so long as it falls within community guidelines. And of course especially pleased to read anything that happens to include our primary topic of Caring.
If you have newly landed here, a very warm welcome to you. Please do feel welcome to join in with your posts too. We’d love to hear from you.
Is anyone else feeling autumnal since the start of the new month? I’ve noticed the nights drawing in and there’s been a little chill in the air too for a day or two, far too early for my liking, but a reminder that summer’s waning and we have to get ready with determination to get through another winter. Let’s hope it’s less bleak than last year with all that covid19 brought us!
Today I'm posting about a care topic as I’ve had a sharp reminder of how becoming a carer can be suddenly thrust on us, unexpectedly. It’s just happened to someone I know really well.
Some of you may know (because I’ve been fond of boring you all with it), is that I was an enthusiastic Scottish country dancer but that sadly our group is no more, having foundered over difficulties caused by the pandemic. The other sort of dance I did is called Contra and might not be so well known to you.
It’s got a funny old history having been exported to the US from Europe several centuries ago, and is a mix of English, Scottish and French country dancing. It thrives in the US with a large following, and is very sociable. We reimported it to UK eventually, and groups meet to do it in many a village hall. It’s danced at a fast walk but is really fun and energetic. Our group was held once a month until the pandemic and I’d consoled myself that at least there would be some kind of dancing to return to which I could eventually enjoy again.
This week though, I was shocked to receive an email saying that, during the pandemic, its leader has been struck down with severe, sudden onset, hip and spine osteoarthritis and can scarcely walk. Holding the dance group will be quite impossible. Of course I rang to find out how things are.
Their lives have been turned upside down by this. From a couple who were able to be sociable, enjoy clubs and activities of all sorts, dancing and long walks, he is reduced to walking short distances with a walking frame and his wife has had to become his carer! That’s how quickly it happens for many people.
His wife said that the worst thing is that others just can’t understand the magnitude of the sudden change it has made to their lives. I think I was lucky in having time to get used to my situation with all three of the people I’ve previously supported.
I guess we should really all be prepared to find ourselves in this sort of situation. Any of us can become the carer or even the one being cared for, even at short notice, as we can’t avoid age or misfortune. So, as you can see, I’m in reflective mood again this week.
And how about all of you? How was your week? I hope that no matter what your situation you found some time for yourself, to be at peace and to do something you were able to enjoy. And wishing you a very good weekend.
Picture: Elena Mozhvil : Unsplash