After caring for my partner almost full time for more than 5 years who suffers vascular dementia and is totally bedbound,cannot walk or stand.
A week ago he was struggling to breath and his breathing was very laboured,so as advised by our GP I phoned the ambulance service and they duly arrived and took David into WSM hospital,and he was indeed in a very poor state,not eating or drinking and not talking and could barely open his eyes.
After a few days the physio woman saw me and said 'David is fit to come home' so you will need to collect him,and I said,'how on earth could I get him into a car let alone get him out the other end' ? She said,in that case we will get an ambulance ,which you must pay for.
On the day he was being discharged I phoned the hospital and said they could not send him home as he was so ill,and after a few hours an administrator phoned and told me he will be out today and if you dont have him home we will put him into another facility (a self funded care home)
David has now been home 3 days and I would say he is in a critical condition,and i'm not even sure he recognises me and to add insult to injury the Stand Hoist is not working and I phoned Mediquip and they said someone will come out ,I popped out yesterday to collect a prescription and just my luck they called while I was away,but they did leave another charger and that not working either,i have contacted them,but being a weekend I doubt they will come.
Today it was impossible to clean and change David properly,in fact,for the first time I broke down in tears,but I did my best.
I've had enough ,and I will not phone for an ambulance or a doctor again,life will take its course and thankfully David is not in pain,and the care lady who helps me 4 times a week says she cannot see how David can survive but for a few weeks at most.
Enjoy your life as best you can for non of us know how long we have.