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My aunt passed away last night

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Thank you for everyone here with their words of understanding and encouragement. She was in hospice barely a week. Now come the funeral preparations. My daughter turns 9 tomorrow and my other turns 5 next week. Planning two birthdays and a funeral. I’ll probably have to probate the account. My husband is being incredibly selfish so a divorce may be coming too. I appreciate this forum. Thanks for listening and advice.

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sassy59

Bless you dear fallen_leaf, sympathy on the loss of your dear aunt. She had been poorly for a long time and is now at peace.

Please celebrate her life along with your lovely girls birthdays, hard though that may be.

Things are difficult for you at the moment so please take care. Your aunts estate will have to go through probate and as for your husband?......

Love and hugs. Xxxx

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MAS_Nurse

Hello Fallen_leaf,

So sorry to hear of your loss from all the nurses here at the MAS team. I am sure that you will find lots of support from the members on this helpful and kind community.

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse and Moderator

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Hellebelle

First of all, my sincere condolences to you for the death of your aunt. She was a lucky lady to have you watching out for her and working hard to do the right thing. It sounds as if you have so much to contend with. I wish you lots of strength in the coming months.

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FredaE

Sorry to hear your news . she is at peace now. She was lucky to have you

Remember that there is no need to rush with a funeral. My daughter was unable to come to her father's funeral for a week and the celebrant he particularly wanted to take the service was not available for a fortnight after that. It gave us more time to prepare physically and mentally and was actually easier than rushing . It may be better for your daughters to celebrate their birthdays first and say good bye after that

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that fallen_leaf. My deepest condolences to you and all who knew and loved your aunt. Along with your sadness I'm sure you'll also be celebrating your girls' birthdays, and I hope you will feel able to celebrate the life of your just departed aunt too.

Her suffering is now over and you can be glad and proud of all that you did to make her as comfortable as she could be in her last days. And there will be many things to celebrate about your aunt's life. But I know this will be an extremely sad and tiring time for you too.

I'm so sorry you have other life challenges to continue to deal with at the same time as this bereavement. I hope you'll continue to see us as a source of support and that you'll come back and help others out with your knowledge of some of the difficulties encountered when caring for someone who is nearing the end of their life.

Once again sincerest condolences and I am so sorry for your loss.

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Jennymary

So sorry for your loss, thinking of you and your family over the coming weeks x

Sorry to read about your loss ... truly trying times AND young kids

Have nothing but my sympathy and admiration.

As to relationships can be trying times for any relationship AND most people in highly stressful situations forget how to sit down and talk to each other.

Thinking of you and your family

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XSitch38

Thinking of you and sorry to hear your sad news. I agree with JeffAjaxSmith that sometimes when we are coping with stress we forget about our other relationships, and sometimes other halves don't appreciate just how much we are affected by our caring roles. Perhaps some family time and celebrating your daughters' birthdays will help you put everything in perspective, and restore harmony at home. All good wishes x

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klr31

So sorry, thinking of you at this sad and difficult time.

Karen

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Jacki66

Really, really sorry for you during this very trying time.

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