UP ALL NIGHT Listening To My DAD saying He’s NOT Happy As He Believe’s He’s Not Home 🏠

Talk about feeling like throwing towel in ... can’t reason with Alzheimer’s Dementia.

Ad NOT mind if dad was not as bushed as he is BUT he can’t see out he’s bed bound AND can’t sit in chair with out blood surply effecting legs badly.

I try taking him out HE can’t stand with out going dizzy then he needs to lay down PUT him in wheel chair and legs go like a corpse CLEARLY not good.

Some days just feel like washing your hands of loot of it.

So decided going to get social worker to arrange day center outing for him.

Sure I understand how shit is for dad BUT what can one do if can’t see can’t sit in chair GOSH Dementia Alzheimer’s as got a lot to answer for

Picture is off my dad’s dreeded legs guess he’s lucky to have given survived Multi Organ Failure

[sassy59]

How awful for you JAS, having to see your dad in such a bad way. It’s horrible for him too of course. Dementia is a terrible disease.

It may be nice to see if dad can be taken out for a day as it will be good for him and you.

I wish you well. Xxxx

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Hi sassy he don’t know what he wants HE should of seen some places Hospital wanted to park him

Even discharge manager was shocked at some hospital daft ideas 💡

He really doesn’t no how lucky he is or would not say some of daft things dose.

You try not to take stuff to heart BUT it’s not easy really AND guess that’s half battle

Surprise best get Is legs back in bed and listen to a load

[sassy59 in reply to Hidden]

Yes I understand completely. My late mother in law would say things she didn’t really mean. It’s so hard but you can’t take it personally. Thinking of you all. Xxxx

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Have noticed Alzheimer’s Dementia dose not rob them of ability OF things to say that can be quite hurtful.

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Very true JAS but it’s the disease talking, not your dad. Xxxxx

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Hi JeffAjaxSmith,

I can hear from your post that you are feeling quite down about everything this morning, and I can absolutely understand why. If we look after someone with a purely physical illness, we usually eventually get to see them recovering and feeling better.

But there's no feel-good factor with Alzheimers or any kind of dementia. In fact the reverse is true, and when it's a close loved one, as your dad is to you, it must strike a terrible blow to your heart.

I wish there was something I could say that would make you feel better, but, to be honest, there is a special kind of hell in watching a loved one become someone far different to the one you first knew. Even worse, when that person is a parent, who was once so strong for you and helped you with your decision making, and made you into the person you are today.

But once again, I think you should think about yourself for a moment. You are doing a fantastic job, through love and caring for your dad. It's as tough as anything in life can be, but overridingly, you are doing the right thing and you can be proud of the care that you continuously give him. Not every parent is as lucky to have someone like you in their hour of need.

So all I can do really is to wish you courage and fortitude. There's no happy ending, except that, one day, when looking back, you'll know you did all that you could have done. And more.

Blessings to you both.

[SquirrelsHolt]

Morning JAS! Sad times and I understand as I've written on this forum about my mum who had severe dementia,several hospital admissions due to her falling and breaking her pelvis,femur .....list goes on. Then when the operations had been and gone the dementia I believe,was the cause of a colossal stroke from which she was

left paralysed on her left side,blind and unable to swallow so had to be fed by tube. It was like being in a sadistic horror film so I only prey that my dear mum was unable to comprehend any of this. The Doctors have her a few days to live but bless her she didn't let go for a further couple of weeks.

My point being, dementia is cruel beyond words and not just for the patient but for their nearest and dearest. Hang on in there JAS. You can do nothing other than try to make dad's life less painful and a short trip out organised by social services could well prove to be a good move. Keep your chin up!