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Lynd
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Not a good week. My dear uncle had a stroke. At 95 years old he was never going to recover well. Managed to get to the hospital last Sunday and I knew I was saying goodbye. He passed away on Wednesday.

Now my 86 year old Mum has been taken into hospital.

Sometimes it never rains but it pours.

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Hellebelle

So sorry Lynd. I hope your mum is ok. It's so hard at times isn't it. Good luck with everything. Helen x

Hi Lynd, my condolences on your sad loss, and commiserations that your mum has had to go into hospital. The older we get, the tougher we have to try to be, but I know it’s not always possible to be tough enough to handle all the troubles that sometimes come our way. I hope that after all your rain will come a little sun. Take care of yourself too.

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sassy59

That’s very sad Lynd and you’re right, sometimes life’s not great. I just want to send best wishes for your dear mum and condolences on your sad loss.

Thinking of you xxxxx

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Orleans1011

Hello I’m sorry about your uncle. I hope you can mom will be ok. Remember one minute at a time.

Wishing you peace and love

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MAS_Nurse

Hi Lynd,

I'm so sorry all this sadness has come at once. Hope your mum will be ok and have a speedy recovery. Do look after yourself and try to get some rest. Be gentle with yourself.

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse and Moderator

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Lynd

Thanks for your kind remarks. They help a lot. Mum seemed a bit better yesterday. Her health has not been great lately and I suspect the loss of her brother took away some of her fighting spirit. Mum has always been someone who copes really well and indeed when my husband had his BI she would say to me that I could either sink or swim. She was telling me to get on with it 😁 It was great advice because she was telling me I was capable of doing lots of things even if I couldn't see it at the time. She was evacuated during the war and she has told me hair raising stories of how she and her family were treated. You read a lot of people's stories about evacuation who were treated wonderfully but my mother had a bad time. I think that experience put a rod of steel up her back and she has coped with such a lot over the years and I am very proud of her.

Thanks again x

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SquirrelsHolt

So sorry to read about your Uncle and now your dear Mum is also in hospital. From your post,she seems a woman of such strength and determination - as you recalled her experiences during WW2. She will need care at the moment so being in hospital is most certainly the best place,where she can be monitored etc. I wish your Mum a speedy recovery and will you keep in touch with us here,as to her progress. Love & gentle hugs.x

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jimbrophy

sorry to hear about your troubles but if I got to that age without chronic pain I think it would be great I was told at 23 pain will only get worse never work again for the past 40 years have to use a mobility scooter to get around can't climb stairs ect sorry if you think i harsh i know it hard

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Lynd

Hi Jim

I am so sorry about your troubles..

My uncle lived a long life but he had had some severe illness during his time and also lived to see the death of his much loved daughter. Long life does not mean a trouble free life.

I wish you well and hope you are receiving support.

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