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Sadly, my mum passed away on Sunday evening with me by her side.

Mum was admitted to hospital 4 weeks ago following a large bleed. She was admitted and stabilized in ICU, before deteriorating further several times over the course of her four week stay. ICU and High Dependency did a fantastic job of caring for her and again stabilized her so that she could move to the Gastro ward, where she was mobilized and there were some discussions around her being discharged. Sadly, on Saturday I received a call to say one of Mums lungs had collapsed and the area had filled with fluid. Attempts were made to drain the fluid, but it had little impact as the area just refilled. She died peacefully with me by her side the following day.

My mum was 58 when she died due to pulmonary odema and alcohol related liver disease. My mums drinking became a habit. One after work became a bottle, which became taking another bottle up to bed with her. I have no doubt that she drank to mask depression. In her final days, all she wanted was the opportunity to live her life differently, but unfortunately it was too late. I have the upmost respect for those of you who have managed to stop drinking and create a new life for yourselves. Unfortunately the pull of alcohol was too much for my mum and she was unable to make that change which has cost her her life.

I would just like to thank everyone on the forum who has supported me by answering questions and sending me inbox messages offering support over the last 18 months. The forum and the Nurse Led Helpline has been a fantastic resource for my throughout Mums illness and we have asked for all donations in her memory to be sent to the Liver Trust ❤️

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Oh Alex l am so so sorry to read this. Sending a big hug at such a sad time 💔 xx

Godbless ❤

So very sorry to hear this. Well done for being so supportive right to the very last moment. Your mum must have been so proud of you. Sending love and light to you 💙

Alex I’m so sorry, thinking of you and your family. 💔

I’m so very sorry for your loss.

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So sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences from us all at the British Liver Trust.

We are here for you if you need to talk things through.


I’m so sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself Xx

So very sorry to hear of your sad loss, Sending love and hugs, xx

⭐ Bless you, I am so sorry for your loss, sending love and light🕯to you 🙏 xXx ⭐ stay strong 💞

I'm so sad to hear your news. I was in a similar situation to your mum 4 years ago and told I had only months to live. I'm still here, fighting the battle.I hope you have help with understanding your mums illness. xxx

Sorry for your loss xx

Alex, wasn’t your mother blessed having you in her life. In all that darkness she had your light. You be good to yourself knowing your mother was so loved. Thinking of you. Xxx

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Beautiful answer 💖

So very sorry to hear about your loss!! Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏🙏🙏

Hi Alex, so sorry to read this, I hope you are okay, stay strong

Sending love and hugs to you and your family

I'm so sorry for your loss x

I am so sorry for your loss. How wonderful that you were there for your Mum through it all. Do take care of yourself, too. Hugs to you.

hi Alex I am so sorry for your loss! On a brighter note it was wonderful that you could be there for your mum. My dad has severe alcohol hepatitis, been sober for 6 months but his Health condition is not great. He lives in Romania I live in the UK and i am very concerned I might get a call from mum to say he’s gone :( . Sending lots of love and please do Take care of yourself 😘

I'm so sorry Alex. I'm sending you a big hug xx

I’m so sorry for the loss of your Mum , so very sad 😞 addiction is an awful thing and takes to many lives , I wish you and your family the best for the future. Xx

Condolences Alex. Thinking of you. Xx

Aww so sorry for the loss of your mum sending heartfelt love to you at this very sad time xx

So sorry to hear this Alex. I lost my husband 9 days ago from complications of alcoholic liver disease so know something of what you are going through. He too drank as a habit which got the better of him and he was desperate to carve out a new life for himself that was free of alcohol but he never managed it.

Sending hugs x

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Minuta in reply to Silverscale

So sorry to hear about your loss.

Alina 🤍 xx

The wife and I thoughts are very much with you 💕

So sorry for your loss, losing your mum is such a hard thing. Take care of yourself

My deepest condolences to you. Sending hugs

So sorry for your loss x

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you at this very sad time.

I'm so sadden and sorry to her about you mum. Sending my condolences, your are wonderful son in caring and helping in everyday you could evsn joining this group for support. So very sorry. Your mum always with you this I believe and she thanks you so much. 💗 🙏

I’m so sorry for your loss Alex xx

My sincerest condolences to you and your family god bless you and your mum. RIP x

Such terrible news , so sorry for your loss ❤️


Sorry for your loss ❤

God Rest her soul. I lost my wife 15 years ago. A good memory is one thing that death cannot take away from us. Godspeed to you .

So sorry for you and the family.Liver disease..... No other words...😞

May she rest in peace. Heartfelt condolences

Alex, my heart goes out to you and your family, my deepest sympathy to you and the rest of your family. 😔

So sorry to hear that, your poor mum is at peace now, though I am sure the loss is very hard to bear. Deepest sympathy to you and all who loved her x

So sorry for your loss! Try to take comfort in the fact that you were there for her in those moments! Alina 🤍

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