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Morning all.

Some of you may have read that my MIL was seriously ill. This morning around 2am she succumbed to her ailments and passed away peacefully. This woman was as much a second Mother to me and major force in the family that we are all devastated, despite knowing it was a certainty.

It's times like these where things are really tough going (family bereavement, dodgy car, returning to work after illness and general stresses) where I would easily be able to justify having a drink to celebrate a life and to calm the soul to let me deal with everything else.

In the past, knowing that by doing so will probably at the very least put me back in hospital and at worst kill me didn't matter; somehow I just got through it and dealt with the consequences.

But this time it's different, knowing FOR SURE drinking might very well kill me is enough of a deterrent not to do it, and that being strong and on the ball for my daughter, my wife and her family is what is important.

What happens next scares me. I have carried more coffins to crematoriums and gravesides than I care to recall but this is different.

Such a powerful woman, a fighter who let nothing stand in her way, someone that controlled a room the moment she walked into it but had the respect to be humble and have the humility to make sure others were spot on before herself.

A mother, grandmother, sister, mother in law and one of the most resilient human beings I've had the privilege of knowing.

Sleep easy maw in law; I love and miss you dearly.

Peace!

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Countrywalks

So very sorry for your loss x

Sincere condolences from us all at the Trust.

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fizzy42

So sorry for your loss, it never gets easier xx

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alfredthegreat

So sorry to hear this. A lady that was so obviously very much loved and admired . Thinking of you and your family. Alf

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Bootandall

Sorry for your loss, you're in my prayers. 💙

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Smyally

So sorry for your loss. She sounds like a very courageous lady. Thinking of you and your family. X

Sorry to hear Xenom ☹️

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Huggy7614

Sincere condolences to you and your family. And yet you manage to give inspirational words. Keep strong Xen.

Andy

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davianne

Oh Xeno, I'm so so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time.🙏🙏🙏🙏

David

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X19Dave

very sorry for your loss sounds like a great woman but you have to try and look back at her life and how good it was for her and others I just hope she was a good age and did not pass early

Dave

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JaSerene

So sorry for your loss xxx

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LorraineLouise

So sorry for your loss. Sounds like an amazing person in every way. She will always be with you.

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kyia

Sorry for your loss. What a lovely tribute!

So sorry for my late condolences Xen as your message only appeared a few moments ago!

Thinking of you and your family

Trish

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lyn3

Awe really sorry for your loss,, sounds like you have great memories of an amazing lady....Take comfort in the memories, take comfort in the support you recieve from here and take comfort from your loved ones your close to..thank you for letting us know and share in your grief..hugssssssss.

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