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The story of mellow1 and me

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I first met mellow1 at uni in 1995, for me it was love at first sight, I once asked mellow1 (Clare) if she wanted a drink, the respone was not what I was hoping for, I didn't realise at the time that Clare was in a long term relationship, feeling disappointed but being a very moral man I left it and had to be grateful for the odd passing glance in lectures. We met again at a job interview in 1999, I got the job but we made a connection of friendship. Our paths crossed again a few months later when Clare got a job at the same school as me. We used to go out together at lunch for a fag and a laugh but by this point Clare was married and again being moral I left it even though I knew she was the love of my life. I moved jobs and we lost touch for a while, in that time I got married settling for second as I thought me and Clare would never be together. Clare then got a job at the school I was at and I remember my sense of excitement. I used to come up with excuses to pop round Clare's house to see her. I'm a moral man but an affair with Clare, hell yeah!!!!..... But it never happened. I moved jobs and we lost touch again. During that time I split from my wife at the time and had ventured on a bachelor's life, not a very exciting one but I did get in touch with Clare again via Facebook, much to my delight Clare had split from her husband but to my dismay she was in a new relationship. I put on Facebook "ring me" I got the reply "no" (this was the humor that we have together). Time moved on and then one Friday night I had a text " are you in", I thought who is this? I replied and got the reply " Clare you tit". I have never tidied up so fast in my life!!! That Friday night was the completion, and after 16 years of waiting at last fate had placed me with the love of my life. This challenge of illness has been given to us but nothing will get in the way of destiny which is me and my wife, I love Clare more now than ever and will do for eternity.

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Tatjana profile image
Tatjana

Wonderful story. You were made for each other!

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SweetJaney

I do enjoy a good love story, and yours is so magical. Your love together was meant to be and in the end destiny made your paths cross once again. To share your life, both good times and more challenging times, is so wonderful when it is with the one you love.

Thank you for sharing this story with us, it has certainly cheered me up after a difficult day. Sitting here smiling :-) xx

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Life is a challenge but real love will conquer all, if it doesn't what is the point, keep smiling☺☺☺☺☺☺☺☺☺☺☺ and thank you for your kind words

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birty

Thanks for sharing that , wishing you many years of happiness 😊😊😊😊😊

What is this a gossip collum. Who is interested in your private life? Ok there are some moving and personal story's on here but in case You haden't noticed they are about liver diisease and the effect it has on the lives of suffers and carers.

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Boab11 😘😘😘 now now !!! That's not nice - if you had read some of mellow1 and hubby's posts previously then you would understand - if you don't want to read it then go to the next post ❤️❤️

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Well rob'swife your entitled to your opinion as I am entitled to mine. Or perhaps it's just a 'man thing'😈😬😈😈😈

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😂😂😘😘 definitely a man thing 😇😇😇

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RodeoJoe in reply to

I can't help but agree with you. It's rapidly becoming a cleaky gossip blog. Please keep this kind of material to the personal message's. I'm sure most of us really aren't interested.

I'm sorry but please don't dilute down the quality of the information on this forum.

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WendyMarie in reply to

Keep scrolling Boab11! You don't have to read it! No room for rudeness here either! Geesh!!!

in reply to WendyMarie

I respectfully refer you to my response to robswife below.

in reply to WendyMarie

Thank you

X x

in reply to WendyMarie

Thank you, Wendy Marie

X x

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Raksha1964

A lovely story, wishing you many more years together, what ever life throws at you am sure you will get through xx

Surely as this is a forum for helping carers/patients cope with there illnesses - if this is helping Mellow1 and husband deal with there situation then that's a good thing ??!! - you don't have to read every post !!! And yes - everyone is entitled to there own opinion but sometimes if it's not going to be of benefit to anyone but to 'upset' people - please keep it to yourself - think how mellow1 and hubby will feel reading your posts ???? There has never been any type of 'clique' on here as many 'come and go' - sharing feelings is also part of the group - like I said if you don't want to read it - you don't have to 😘😘😘😘 all said with the greatest respect to all ❤️❤️❤️

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RodeoJoe in reply to

No offence intended to anyone. Maybe clique (or cleak :)) is the wrong word, just a concern because this forum is a very useful resource for many with liver disease and I believe that has a lot do with keeping on subject.

If this sort of stuff helps more people that's great, but my concern would be that it doesn't and could be detrimental.

Enough said... I'll move on :)

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Thanks robswife.

Read that persons post on way for an endoscopy this morning. It wasn't what one would expect to read at all. Matt is gob snacked but has laughed it off in his own way. How are you both doing.

Thanks again 👭

X x

OK robswife I am not geting in to an online argument as far as I am concerned subject closed

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SAMBS

How lovely - I very moved by your story. s x

Thank you for your kind words x

I find your story a little harrowing, so many wasted years and now she is very ill.

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Harrowing in one way but due to her inner strength my wife is doing ok, never fully better but stable, wasted years yes, but that is my fault for never saying my feelings, but now I am here to look after and support the love of my life, so now is the important years, thank you for your kind words.

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I too am humbled by the love and support from my wife, the medics, people on this forum, and all our friends and neighbours.

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