In recovery then shit happens..

[lizzyHZ]

Hi ladies

I hope you are all doing well wherever you are in your journey

6 months after my lumpectomy finished with radiotherpay and no major side effects from tamoxifen life is slowly getting back to normal

I returned back to work full time just over a month ago but i have to be aware i am still in recovery and trying to get my life in balance and be kind to myself

And then 2 weeks ago i get a phone call in the middle of the night that my youngest son has been attacked and beaten up in a premeditated attack from people he was acquainted with..his teeth kicked out and other injuries and now spending my time dealing with hospitals, police, courts as well as everything else...the stress is enormous and i have lost focus on me

It is sickening and heartbreaking and i need to be there for him and hope that justice prevails...i know it will but i have not to loose sight of my own needs but now i have to take a step back until all this is sorted

I just needed to get this out of my system

Life goes on but you don't anticipate this kind of thing it is unforeseeable but he will recover and it could have been so much worse!!!

Thanks for taking time to read this and allowing me to share

Behealthy and cherish those near to you

Liz xx

[haagr]

I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I pray he makes a full and quick recovery and that the courts punish the perpetrators.

I can't imagine the stress you are under. But you do need to take care of yourself too during this crisis. When I am stressed out, I've taken to meditating and find it very helpful. I use an 18 minute video that I found on the internet. I like to use it when I wake up and before I go to sleep for a sense of balance and peace. I have it saved on my cell phone so I can use it any time I need to during the day.

I suggest you give it a try. This is the link.

youtu.be/Jyy0ra2WcQQ(Not working as expected?)

Please keep us posted. Hugs to you and your son.

R from across the pond in NYC.

[Debs1962 in reply to haagr]

Love the link tried it very relaxing x

[haagr in reply to Debs1962]

So happy U tried and liked the link. Take care.

Hugs,

R

[Jennymary]

Hi Liz so sorry to read about your son, i hope he's taking the first steps on the road to recovery, during his recovery would your employers allow you to reduce your working hours or even work from home? Also try to give yourself some 'me' time, just a long soak in the bath or a local coffee shop with a friend for an hour, sending best wishes to you and your family x

[Lainey3615]

So sorry to hear about your son, I hope he is making steps towards a healthy recovery. I would say to remember and take some time out to yourself as you have been through a lot lately. Wishing you and your son a healthy, speedy recovery and lots of hugs being sent too.

Elaine

xxxxx

[Sandy108]

I'm so sorry to hear about your son, I hope he makes a full and quick recovery. I say remember you are still recovering and still need some time yourself but I know all this goes out the window somewhat when it's your children suffering.!

Take care and sending you lots of hugs

Best wishes

Sandy xx

[Jacbowden]

Hi Liz, what great news that you are now in recovery. Now you know your son will be okay, you must start again on yourself. I found it very helpful having a few consultations from a spiritual lady ( for the want of a better word) when my daughter caused my world to collapse. I'm sure that period of stress contributed to my sickness BC, so I urge you to de stress and soon as possible, then learn some invaluable coping strategies for future calamities. We can't protect ourselves from everything, but we can arm with knowledge and tools for what works for us as individuals. Good luck with everything. 🌺

[Aliensx2]

Omg 😲 I hope your son recovers And the hits who did this are well and truly punished ... do time 😡

You must take time for you to ... I sit with mediation 🎶 on to for as long as I can sometimes it's my lunch time with my coat hat and scarf in the bowling green or on the beach with a howling wind ... I look rather loopy but it's my time ... be kind to you for a few moments ... I'm still working and only half way through treatment due to the fact my employers can't cope with cancer and it's a health service ... if I go off I'm on half pay can't pay my bills like that ... not as awful as yours but we need time to be nice to our selfs ... keep positive and your sense of humour.... sending healing thoughts and huge hug 🤗 xxx

[Maggie18]

Take care and remember yo keep your immune system strong and keep the fight and flight in your life under control and allow time to soothe yourself xx

Much love and strength maggie

[Mandywilson]

I am so , so sorry , it must be horrendous for you , but you have to remember that you have needs .. You have and are going through a very stressful time ... You need to be well to be there for him ... Try and be strong and positive ... 💞 Like haage I use alternatives .. Mindfulness .. Give it a go , you never know xx

[Debs1962]

Sorry to hear your news of your son, it is such a worry, but try to look after yourself physically and mentally xx

[Lorraineam]

Sorry to hear about your son. Hope he recovers soon xxx

[mags4]

Hi life is so unpredictable,

But you have learned that already try to give your self a little time

Wishing you and your son all the best x

[anne-57]

Hi Liz, well done for getting your feelings out. That's a great way to reduce stress. I do hope your son recovers quickly and life settles down again soon. Focusing on the positives as you already are (the attack could have been worse, you feeling well enough to tackle the situation etc.) is a great strength too. No matter what is happening though always try to find some time for you even if that is just 10 mins in the bath. As the story goes "you can't pour from an empty cup". Keep strong you are doing great! x

[marthasperson]

What a horrific and senseless event! I am so sorry that this has happened to you and moreover, to your son. Be kind to yourself, take the time off that you need (if that is possible in your situation) and remember that it has to be health and family first. When you have come through the storm of the last few months, it leaves us with a sense that we can take whatever the world throws at us. Just remember that you need to take it one day, one hour, or one second at a time: Whatever works for you xxx

[brianna29]

Xx

[Jennyannk73]

So unfair things are sometimes.....and they always seem to pile on just like this! I do pray your son will be okay and things calm to a dull roar!

[Surviver]

So sorry to hear that big hugs to you and your family life is so cruel I hope those people are punished for hurting your son you stay well please rest if you can

Janet. Xx

[Kizzy66]

So sorry to hear this terrible news. Prayers and hugs to you all xx

[lizzyHZ]

From both myself and my son, thank you so much for reading, and taking the time to respond it means a lot

I have calmed down a lot, as my son is healing well and dealing with it in such a mature well, I can only have respect for him

We have since been informed that the perpetrators must appear before the courts on 18/05 and we are getting a lot of help from the Victim Support Agency

I managed to 'escape' to Vienna on a business trip and was asked to present at an International Conference, and met up with some friends there. It made me feel like 'me again' and the last time I was there was in August 2016, 3 days before my diagnosis - I could never have imagined I would be back again so soon

My partner joined me for the weekend and we had the most amazing if not exhausting time together - just what I/we needed

On Thursday we will welcome a puppy into our home (planned some months ago) so we will all get to focus on this bundle of joy

In between I will be doing some yoga and going for some well deserved Shiatsu treatments, it is so relaxing and she is respectful of massaging around the lymph node area - I would recommend it to any of you if you are looking for some complementary therapies

Ladies, and your loved ones I wish you all a very happy upcoming Easter - be healthy, be happy

Liz xx