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I'm 30 weeks pregnant with my first child. My midwife contacted social services due to my history of mental health issues. Heard from social services today and she said there's a possibility I could be given a social worker. I'm worried that they will judge me as unfit because of my past issues such as self harm and one suicide attempt. I don't want to lose my son, but I'm terrified that's what will happen. I am literally taking any bit of support I've been offered because I want to be the best mother I can be. I know it's a silly thought to have because they are there to support and try help but it's still there in my mind.

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Don't panic hun, social workers have a bad name but they are there first and foremost to help ensure you get any help you need, they wont just suddenly decide your are unfit they will help you try to change things first IF they do see a problem which there is no saying they will. Past history doesnt always mean its going to happen again. Please please dont stress or you could cause yourself to spiral

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Angel1802 in reply to Kate91

Thank you :) that's really reassuring, I know they have quite the bad rep which is why I was so worried. They will see I've got a support network in place already and stuff and will see when they come out that I've got everything for my son. It's why I'm taking all the help I can get so they see that I am being proactive in making sure I don't spiral as I'm high risk for PND as well.

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Kate91 in reply to Angel1802

As long as they can see you are making an effort they will simply advise and maybe offer to help access other services, they wont immediately take a child away

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Angel1802 in reply to Kate91

Thank you :) you've helped get rid of all that silly worrying I've had going on.

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