Richard is adamant that he should move into the back bedroom. It's neare r the bathroom, smaller and warmer. he says its so that I can get some proper nights sleep too, with his wedges and pillows sitting up he takes most of our double bed and i hang out, but I'm not bothered. After 40 years separate beds would be bad enough, but separate bedrooms? I like to be near him so I can hear him breathing in case he goes off. I stay downstairs till really late so he can get off to sleep properly but he still coughs all night. Should I let him go, should I feel guilty, I could get a baby monitor so I can hear him, but I really feel torn with this.