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Feeling very low this morning. The weather is windy & rainy and the May days of sitting in the garden seem so long ago. The mental health of people is another factor of this Virus. I know I must be grateful as I only have mild Bronchiectasis but still feel vulnerable physically as well as mentally. Should have been going to a festival this weekend so perhaps that's what's triggered the sadness this morning. Thank you all for being here & letting me air my feelings

Stay well Stay safe

Hattie

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sassy59

It’s understandable to feel sad and down Hattie. Things are changing all the time and mental health is very important. We’re all happy to listen and chat so do remember that. Do you have others you can talk to and maybe video call?

Don’t despair, we will get through this. Xxxx

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shouty in reply to sassy59

Thank you for your kind reply Sassy it's good to hear encouraging words xx

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sassy59 in reply to shouty

You’re very welcome. Wishing you well. Xxx😘

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Hacienda

Hi Hun, Just been there myself. I am ok now after all the wonderful Replies from our Loving Lung Buddies here on the Forum. What a Good Lift they gave. I'm sure you will be lifted also. Stay Well Hattie, Stay Positive and you will go to a Festival when we are all out of lock Down. Something to Look forward to. Love n Hugs. XXX C.

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shouty in reply to Hacienda

Thank you, just read your post from yesterday. Glad you are feeling better today. On a positive note at least I won't have to pay for next yrs festival ticket as rolling the payment over for 2021 😁

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Gladwyn in reply to shouty

See lol there is always a bright side! Next year you'll enjoy it even more. I hope you will soon feel much better. The sun will come out again. 🍀🌻

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shouty in reply to Gladwyn

Thanks Gladwyn xx appreciate you replying 😊

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CDPO16

I think many of us are experiencing low mood at times for a variety of reasons and it is often difficult to shake off. I hope that it is the thought of missing the festival that has triggered it for you and that, if so, that your mood soon lightens.

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shouty

Thank you 😊

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Bkin

All things come to pass shouty.

Glad to see a smiley face from you above

For future perhaps the links on this post may be of help to you:

healthunlocked.com/blf/post...

You tube has a tonne of live concerts to watch as well. Fact is the Festival is not going ahead because of the virus helping to keep people safe and avoid the spread, also even if it was going ahead, would you risk it, all those people and bodies with the virus still active as it is.

Accepting what is and finding other things to entertain us helps us cope with disappointments and sadness. We are only sad because we believe what our internal dialogue is saying to us, we actually don't have to believe everything the inner voice says! What a revelation that is

Best wishes

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shouty in reply to Bkin

Wise words thank you Bkin Oh yes that inner voice doesn't half talk rubbish.... The Itty Bitty Shitty Committee in your head. Being a bit prone to depression I should know isolation would be hard. Pleased to say Download festival is doing online stuff so I'll be headbanging along 😊 appreciate you taking time to reply really helps so thanks again, Hattie

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Bkin in reply to shouty

Ha ha - I like that description, precisely so :D

That's great, enjoy the on-line version :)

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Patk1

Xxx

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RoadRunner44

I know how you are feeling as I'm also a bit down today. I know the weather affects me and it is a windy, blustery day today and it helps if I can go in the garden. So far the weather has helped many of us through these strange times. I just want to sit and do very little today but I've decided it would help if I do something. So, Im going to make cake!

There will be many of us feeling bored and fed up as our lives are so different now. Each of has these sort of days from time to and we have to learn to accept things as they are at the moment as theres little else we can do.

Try to find something to interest you. Some members are painting or writing poetry. Others are sorting their drawers and cupboards. Why not try some on line learning? Im really enjoying learning about social history and also learning another language. It certainly fills time. Inn the end we have to look to ourselves during this time. Try to find something to do that interests you and it will help lift your spirits, and remember, tomorrow could well be a much better day.

Always here to chat. Take care and I hope you feel better tomorrow.

😊xxx

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shouty in reply to RoadRunner44

Oops replied to you in next comment x

in reply to RoadRunner44

I have enjoyed the online learning as its doing something constructive.

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RoadRunner44 in reply to

Hi, What are you learning about on line at the moment? I'm learning conversational Welsh. Iventried different courses before but none as good or enjoyable as this one. If your interested I'll send youna link.

😀

in reply to RoadRunner44

Im doing psychology courses online at present which I am really enjoying.

I did Welsh at night school before all this kicked off which I enjoyed.

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RoadRunner44 in reply to

Good for you. Im really enjoying my online learning too. No pressure znd so much choice. Just thinking.... Have you got any more interviews lined up?

😊

in reply to RoadRunner44

Not for now I haven't but I'm not upset over it as I could do with a break from them but we will see if anything turns up

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shouty

Thank you so much for your kind reply Roadrunner Have been out into the garden to talk to the plants despite being blown about. Yep so easy to just not be bothered but got to battle on. Do hope your cake is as lovely as your kind words & tomorrow is a gentler day xx

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watergazer

Hi Hattie I certainly know how you are feeling along with maybe the majority on this forum. I was depressed when I should have been on holiday even though the weather here was gorgeous!! These are certainly tough times and though I’m a mild asthmatic and Bronchiectasis sufferer I’ve been shielding until the last week now I just have to get out for a walk to save my sanity. Enjoy your head banging festival on line. Take care. X Anita😁

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shouty in reply to watergazer

Thank you Anita it's so good not to feel alone in this. I know other folks have it so much worse and got to be grateful esp the kind folks on here. Stay well xx

in reply to shouty

Perhaps they do but you don't have to be terminally ill to have a right to complain though.

in reply to watergazer

Of course you were depressed over your cancelled holiday as you were looking forward to it and it's a right blow getting told something you are really looking forward to is cancelled.

I had lots of events cancelled myself and was really disappointed as well as its normal to feel that way when you look forward to something and then get told it's off at the last minute without warning.

Of course you are grateful for your blessings but it doesn't mean you have no right to feel sad over what isn't to be over the things that have been cancelled though you were looking forward to.

What I found was of help to me was I looked at things that haven't been cancelled say like reading, yard work, baking, listening to music and watching films and went from there although I have had episodes of being angry and fed up with the situation as well and I had felt angry on the ve day bank holiday weekend and also on Easter and on those days any little thing would set me off!

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shouty in reply to

Thank you so much for that and for saying am allowed to feel sadness. Have been listening to lots of old music this afternoon that haven't heard in ages ( old rocker/ metal head ) Am always grateful for books. Hope your day has been a happy one x

in reply to shouty

Yes I have had a great day today thanks for asking and been on future learn and listening to music and met my friend in the park and had ice cream there which we haven't done since this kicked off back in March.

In March when we heard the whispers about cancelled exams and schools shutting down and that the over 70s supposedly were going to be staying home for 4 months and my events were getting cancelled hand over fist we had gone for Sunday lunch at the Marriott and had decided seeing as things were getting cancelled hand over fist this would be our last Sunday lunch out for a while and felt it was sensible to save ourselves the upset and not bother and that was the right decision.

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HungryHufflepuff

Thinking of you and sending you lots of good wishes. Hoping you have better days ahead 🌈

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shouty in reply to HungryHufflepuff

Thank you for replying helps a lot

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teenieleek

We all understand. The weekend when everyone (except the shielded) was allowed to have family in the garden was my worst time. All the gardens around me were full of visiting children, parents, grandchildren etc and I was sitting in the garden on my own. I felt lonely and forgotten then got over it. Hacienda had a bad day and got over it......really, as they say up here....there’s nuthin else fur it but to get on wi’ it. You will too. Good luck.

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shouty in reply to teenieleek

Thank you from another Northern (Yorkshire) lass. This too shall pass

in reply to teenieleek

It's not nice is it when you feel left out and excluded from things and it's natural to feel jealous as you think why not me?

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Gladwyn in reply to teenieleek

💐

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Hellodolly

Hi there

I hope you are feeling a bit better. The real problem about all this pandemic stuff is that no one knows when or how it ends, so we all feel confused, out of control and even afraid. The small things that would lift spirits, like people watching in a cafe, not to mention bigger things like connecting with others, have been removed.

I think most people are going up and down with moods at the moment, and the low moods can be very low.

Distraction, as others have said, can be really helpful. Also there are free meditations on apps such as insight timer which can help one to relax and potentially lift the mood.

We have probably all been there ( apart from those very fortunate emotionally detached people).

Keep going and virtual hugs to you (((()))).

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shouty in reply to Hellodolly

Thank you am trying some meditation 😊x

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mikeadams51

I know this is hard for some but what works for me is having a positive mental attitude and always looking on the bright side. Easy said than done but I believe the effects are tremendous. Good luck and try to stay happy

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shouty in reply to mikeadams51

Thank you have tried to do that this morning and resisted the temptation to stay in bed

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Caspiana

Hello Hattie, 🌿🌼

I have been thinking lately, the toll on human life during this pandemic is catastrophic and to be honest we may never know the true number of deaths throughout the world. People especially those that run our countries focus much on that not so much in the mental illness and stress Covid has brought into our lives. Mainly because it is invisible, unseen and often unheard. I am not ashamed to admit feeling very much at the end of my tether by late April. Apart from Covid I had other issues so that plus the fact I had to stay home and even if I did venture out it became such a brouhaha with hand washing, sanitizing and not touching things, masks and such. So in the end, encouraged by people who love me, I went back to my psychiatrist after an eleven month hiatus. 😕

Feeling vulnerable as you say, is very stressful. This time of year normally we'd be enjoying the weather and going out to spring events. So it's no wonder you feel down. Unfortunately there is no easy cure, but I would say please try and talk to those you trust as much as you can. It does help, although sometimes the last thing one feels like doing is talking. 😒 I hope things get better for you soon. 😐Hope is something sadness is able to consume / destroy. So let's try and hold on to hope. 🍀

Sending you gentle hugs.

Cas xx🌈🌿🌼🌞

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shouty

Oh thank you for your lovely reply. As you say it's the invisible side that folks don't see but sharing about it helps so much. We can be tough with ourselves and feel guilty when others seem to have it much worse but what we go through mentally is just as awful sometimes. I guess all the uncertainty exacerbates it too.

We need to give ourselves some credit for battling on too

Wishing you a peaceful day,

Hattie xx 🕊

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