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stvalentine-33
stvalentine-33

First I would like to thank everyone who has commented on my posts . Over the weekend my husband was exhausted and really listless, so I booked a home visit Dr suggested anti biotics for chest infection . When he did the oxygen saturation test it was 61% so we ended up in rhesus. They stated my husband was very ill and had pneumonia, we had antibiotics oxygen ,and fluid etc, intensive care said they weren't needed as he seemed stable. We were moved to another dept and waited hours for a Dr to see him , he seemed exhausted . The Dr came in and said can you answer the questions quickly as it was an urgent situation, then called me outside to tell me he could quite easily die. I felt sick , it seems really bizarre a dr came in and turned his oxygen . About 10 minutes later a nurse asked who had turned it off , said a dr had, she said it needed at all times. He really struggled to reach sat levels , and passed away. To say I am devastated is an understatement , I had loved him from the minute I saw him , and will love him until we meet again xxx Take great care everyone xx

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Dear stvalentine-33 I’m so dreadfully sorry to read your post. My heart goes out to you, how totally devastating.

Please accept my condolences on your sad loss.

I’m thinking of you and sending gentle hugs. Xxx

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My heart goes out to you, you must be utterly devastated. May your lovely husband rest in peace. You have all those wonderful memories and remember we are here for you. Take care of yourself 😥 Bernadette xx

So sorry to hear this stvalentine-33 💕

Please accept my condolences & thoughts for you. Take good care & be gentle & kind to yourself.

Yes, really sad news. A doctor turning off his oxygen, seems on the face of it, rather strange. I hope you can get through this very difficult time and have my sympathy.

So sorry for you very sad loss. You have my sympathy. xx

I am so so sorry for your loss xxx

So very sorry to read this. It is huge loss for you, and you have had such a beautiful life together. Love and all sympathy

Kate xxx

My heart goes out to you xx

So sorry to hear of the passing of your dear Husband stvalentine. No wonder you are absolutely devastated and totally in shock I would imagine. Please accept my sincere condolences to you and your family. May you find strength to get you through this very difficult time. Remember we are here for you.

With love

Cx

That is terrible for you, I am so sorry.

So So Sorry to Read your very sad Post Hun. Of Course your Devastated & will be for a long time . My Condolences to you & Your Family. Much Love. XX

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you 💐

Such a sad loss, I can understand your heartbreak. Condolences to you and your family.

So sorry for your loss xx

How very sad and distressing for you. I’m sorry for your loss.

Sending hugs to you and your family , sorry for your loss x

My deepest sympathy it must be an awful feeling to lose the love of your life in this way thinking of you xxx

Dear Stvalentine,please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your hubby,my dear wife passed in similar circumstances and it is devastating i know,i am sure you will have time to question the hospitals actions with regard to hubbys passing and i would strongly advise you to do so but now is not the time for that but for you to take comfort with your family in your loss.

With deepest sympathy

Ski's and Scruff's x

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So sorry for your loss.

Oh no. This is absolutely devastating news. I'm so very sorry stvalentine-33 . What an awful loss and shock for you. You looked after him so very well.

I hope you have support in the coming difficult days. Sending you love and a hug.

Cas xx 🌹

Oh that is a sad post but your love for him shone through. Please accept my deepest condolences xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

So so sorry for your loss stvalentine-33

Luv n hugs x

So very sorry for your loss my thoughts are with you. Xx🌹

I am so sorry. Am thinking of you xx

So very sad reading this. Sending sincere condolences to you. Hope all the happy memories of the time you have had together comfort you.

So sorry for your loss.xx

So very terribly sorry to hear this sad news!

Sending you lots of love and hugs at this sad time xxx

I'm so very sorry. Please accept my sincerest condolences . Very sad.

I’m so sad to hear this, sending you and your family love and hugs at this difficult time . You’ve my sympathy.

You have my sympathy.

Very Sad news, my prayers are with you, I pray you have patience & strength to endure this painful time, Time will certainly heal, Heaven was waiting for your dear husband... May his soul rest in peace. Ameen.

Oh my lord that is just awful. To say I know how you feel would be a false statement but it is my worst nightmare. Do you have kids or anybody to be with you at this most trying of times? I do hope so but if not please use us we all want to be here for you. You are in my thoughts please take care of yourself find peace somewhere

Deepest sympathy to you and your family at this devastating time.

So sorry to hear your news, sending virtual hugs. Xx

Sending so much love your way hun xxxxxx

Oh, I'm so sorry, you must feel devastated, my heart goes out to you. I lost my husband 3 yrs ago today & know it is very hard but you will get the strength to cope. God bless you x

Oh how devastating for you. Sending love and condolences to you and your family. Your last sentence is just SO touching and beautiful. God be with you and comfort you

stvalentine-33 xx

What a terrible shock for you! Along with everyone else I send my deepest sympathy and love, hoping that you have family to support you at this awful time. Xx

So sorry to hear off your very sad loss

So very sorry to hear the sad news its awful that your husband's oxygen was turned off that really wouldnt be good i hope you have family to help you through this very sad time x

So sorry for your loss my heart goes out to you. Love and Hugs. Carole xxx

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May the Lord Jesus comfort you and care for you as only he can.

So sorry to hear your bad news Hugs 🤗 and kisses with all my heart

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I’m so sorry for your loss I’ve been married to my rock for 51yrs and the loss would be unbearable The care he didn’t receive at the end of his life was sad but not unusual My thoughts will be with you x

Such a sad but truly heartfelt post ,condolences to you at this sad time x

This so very sad I’m sorry for your loss and how it happened, sending love

Hi stvalentine-33 so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you

I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. . What a awful shock. You know we are all here if you want to talk any time. Please accept my condolences. Sincerely. Xx

I am so sorry for your loss, sending sincere condolences to you and your family 💔 . I know exactly what you are going through as I lost my husband of nearly 50 years on the 29th December so it is very raw for me. Cry when you want/need to, don't suppress it, I even cry in front of complete strangers.

Look after yourself, sending you hugs 🤗🤗🤗

So very, very sorry to hear about this. You must be in a state of shock over the confusing way he was treated at the hospital, too. He was lucky to have you caring about him and looking after him to the end. Lots of love and light to you - you are in my thoughts and prayers at this horrendous time. Xx

So sorry to hear this has happened. I will keep you in my thoughts. My condolences to you and your family.

Hello stvalentine,

I am so very sad to read your news. I cannot imagine how you are feeling. I send you my love and if you need to talk or call, please do so. I am here. Love Bev❤

stvalentine-33 my heart goes out to you. To loose the person you love is dreadful, but to have been lucky enough to have loved and been loved by him is wonderful too.

The circumstances of his death must be a dreadful shock which will take time for you to fully understand I would think. I hope you have family around you to help and support you.

Remember we are here and care ((()))

Love

Toni xx

So sad! Love to you and your family! xx

Bless you both 💕💕💕

So sorry for your loss. Will say a pray for you x

So sorry to hear this, devastating for you, my condolences & thoughts are with u & your family xx

So sorry to read this and what a terrible shock for you when you’ve been together so long. I can’t imagine the depth of your sorrow today.

Passing on my most heart felt condolences.

Thinking of you

Love

Corin

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So very sad for your loss....thinking of you xx

Hugs from new Zealand to yourself and family

May God give you all the strength to get you through this very sad time

So sorry and sad to hear that you've lost your husband. We all know that in these curcumstances words are difficult to find. Hope you have plenty of support and find the strength to get through this sad time.

My sincere condolences and wishing you strength as you face the loss of your loved one, xxx

I'm so very sorry for your sad loss . We are all here for you .

Warmest wishes big hugs and love to you .

Heartfelt thoughts are with you .Babs xxxx💔💔💔

I’m so sorry for your loss stvalentine, such a terrible shock.

So sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you. ❤️

So sorry to hear of your loss. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

So sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved husband. I do hope you have support through this dreadful time. My thoughts are with you and your family. Take care. 🌹

So sorry you have had to endure this. Sincere condolences. Look after yourself.

I do feel worried about that doctor switching off the oxygen though though and hope you will raise that with the Health Board in due course.

So really sorry to hear of your loss, stvalentine-33. You really need to ask for your own piece of mind. Why was the Oxygen turned off by the doctor. With firstly talking through the situation with you. I really hope you get answers. And hope you have family support to help you through this difficult time. Love and Thoughts ate with you xx Brian

What a shock to read your post. I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. I do hope you have support to see you through this and am sure in time your questions regarding the doctors actions will have to be answered. For the moment you have to deal with your loss. My heart goes out to you x

So sorry for your loss x

Thinking of you at this sad time. God bless you

Oh what a shock for you . Sending you hugs. Stay strong and take comfort in your beautiful memories stvalentine -33. Anita xx

So sorry for your loss, you must be devistated. Thinking of you x

RIP sir

So so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you, your family and friends. Big hugs x

So sorry for your loss please accept my condolences & thoughts for you

So sorry for your loss xxx

There aren't any words.....Sending you and your family loving hugs. xxx

Oh Bless you, so very sad. Big love and hugs to you.

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So very sorry for your love Hun , your lovely husband will be beside you ,even though you can't see him,your love for each other is so strong XXX bless you sweetheart xxxx

My heart really goes out to you and although I can only offer my condolences truly hope some lovely treasured memories that you’ve shared can now become your strength.

May he rest in peace and you take care of yourself too.

Xx

So sorry for your loss x

What a shock for you. Lots of hugs

Xxx

So sad, thinking of you Barbs x

That is very sad news and such a shock for you. Sending you my deepest sympathy and a big hug for the loss of your dear husband.

So sorry for you, hope you have close friends & family to help you through this dreadful time x

So so sorry for your loss. You take care of yourself xxxx

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you have someone to support you and help you through the coming days.please take care of yourself

I am so sad to hear what has happened. Sending love.

So sorry for your loss.

My heart goes out to you x

So sorry to hear your sad news. ((((Hugs))))

I can understand what you are going through. No words can help.

My sincere condolences

May your dearest one rest in peace.

Jo.

So very sorry to hear your sad news. 😢💐

I'M so very sorry for your loss .

No words. Just a virtual hug! xx Moy

So sad... I'm really sorry for your loss.....please take care xxx

Dear dear stvalentine-33. My deepest condolences.

I totally understand how you felt sick at the shock. Plus the "if only" scenario that must be torturing you.

I wish you the strength to bear the unbearable.

With time I hope you will find some comfort in knowing that such a lovely sounding husband would not want you to be unhappy for a single moment.

Awe my word i am so sorry to hear of your loss..sending loads of hugs...First of all they say he isnt sick enough for intensive care, make you wait for hours and then the dr turning the oxygen off? and then he passes away, makes no sense at all other than neglect and thats disgusting. He should have had the oxygen left on until his sats settled. Ive heard of way to many neglected cases in hospitals lately. So very sorry again to hear this..We are here to support you in anyway we can..love always..

Indeed, this is such sad news and a terrible shock to you I am sure. I pray that you find strength and comfort from all those that have posted you their condolences via this forum.

My deepest sympathy and condolences are sent to you and your family

My sincere to condolences to you at this very sad time. Keep strong. Love John

I am so sorry to read of your sad news thoughts and prayers go out to you God bless

On another note it seems that the hospital are at fault they did a similar thing with my mom I did go and see a solicitor but he told me I would gave to put my house up for sale to fight the NHS he did write a letter to them that I had to pay for and the hospital said if I would like to ho in they would explain to me !!!!Basicslly they were admitting there guilt

Then a few years ago I went to my GP with a chest infection he wanted me to sign a DNR form I was horrified I said am I going to die he said no but to be honest I think that's just an easy way out for them I never signed it

Anyway please except my deepest sympathy and remember your husband is only a whisper away god bless

Sending love and hugs and this most distressing time.

J

So very sad to hear your devastating news. Your love will continue until you meet again.

With prayers

Catnip

So sorry to hear about your sad news

So sorry to hear your sad newsxx

I can certainly understand why you are beyond devastated, I feel so bad for you.. My condolences.

I Don't 'Know You', have never contacted you before...... But I have Shed A tear and said a Prayer, for you, Babe.

I Know that, All Our Love, is with you

AndrewT

I am so sorry to hear this , you must be devastated to loose your soulmate .. please accept my condolences my heart goes out to you and your family xxx

So very sorry for your loss. Extremely hard to lose the love of your life. Marlene.

I am just so sad for you. In time you will be able to think how wonderful it was that the two of you had such a special love. Not everyone finds that. Take care, sending love and hugs xxxx

My deepest condolences. You must feel so devastated and numb.... There are never any good words that anyone can say to make it better, but maybe all the nice posts on here will let you feel that people really care.

I personally would start an investigation regarding turning off the oxygen by that doctor. This is negligence. Don't let them sweep it under the carpet. Don't let them say he would have died anyway, because that would have to be proven...which they can't. All this happens too often.

I understand your head might not be in the right place at this very moment, but don't wait till the dust is settled and records of who did what get forgotten, misplaced or altered.

You can sue the NHS. Find a “no win, no fee” solicitor.

My daughter successfully sued the NHS after the death of her little baby girl.

It is not about the money. It is about not letting them get away with it.

I wish you all the best and hope you have plenty of support around you.

Very Very sad stvalentine-33. Please accept my condolences on your loss. Your post reminds me of how my mother died in the 1980s - I wish you well and hope you get peace soon.

Sincere condolences stvalentine-33. Such very sad news.

I'm so sorry. My sympathy to you and your family. I'm so sorry.

Awful news, so sorry.

So, so sorry to hear this.

Later on, it might help to ask to talk to someone at the hospital, to see if they can explain why things happened as they did please but, in the meantime, please try to focus on all the happy memories, of which you obviously have many.

You have our love and sympathy, please keep talking to us all through the forum, and let us know how you are coping?

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So very very sorry to read of your sad news, you must be totally devastated, try and be strong and take each day one by one, Hugs xxx

You love him with all the height , depth and breath your soul could reach.

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Oh stvalentine I am so sorry. I do hope you have family around to help you

So very sorry for your loss stvalentine a very sad time for you. Much Love xx

So sorry for your sad loss ✨

My thoughts are with you on this sad, sad news. x

May be rest now & breathe easy x

OMG How awful 😱Dear St Valentine I’m so sorry,I wish I could be there to give you a much needed hug 💕You are in my thoughts and prayers🙏💕Deepest condolences X

So very sorry 🐞

I am so sorry for your loss and feel your pain as I lost my husband in similar circumstances last May, you are in my thoughts and prayers God Bless xxx

I am so sorry for your loss prayers to you sweetheart during this difficult time 🙏🙏💗💜 may your husband Rest In Peace

My heart goes out to you and I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ x

"Sorry" isn't much, but it comes from deep in my heart. Loss is quite enough to cope with; I can only imagine the uncertainty that you must be feeling concerning the questions about the doctor turning down his oxygen. God's peace be with you. J

I’m really sad for you.. Later on you will need answers, but for now just give yourself time to grieve

God bless x

I am so sorry for your loss. I am in awe of such enduring love. May God be with you.

How very very hard for you. Heartfelt sympathy

so sad to hear of such a horrible experience. Turning off oxygen sounds so wrong. Hope you keep strong RIP.

So so sorry to hear of your sad loss . Ilost my husband in similar circumstances from an exacerbation a few years ago, my heart goes out to you . Be kind to yourself, you will get through this, one step at a time. Big hugs xx

So so sorry :'( I know no words can comfort you at this time, but you are in my thoughts xx

Hello stvalentine-33 so very sorry for you loss. Love and cwtches to you and your family xxx

So sorry to hear your sad news.

So sad about your loss of the love of your life and am disappointed

in the care he recvd it surely sounds substandard perhaps negligent I hope you find the answers to this horrible encounter.

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