Beautiful words. Hope your friend stays have a good night and take care of yourself 😊 Bernadette xx

Why do you think we are about to lose someone Cas?

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Confused .com of Manchester backs this warm hearted appeal to the lady mentioned and hopes when others also do she will take heed of her own advice and hang on in here ,don't go the party has just begun and if necessary we will employ a bouncer to keep the guests happy. x

Ah the penny has dropped after your reply to Cof and now i am the all knowing one and refuse to let this bird flee the nest. x

I don't know who you are referring to and respect you not saying so publicly.

Can I just say I totally support your appeal to this lady - clearly lovely to have inspired your admiration - to stay. The world and especially this forum needs kind, caring and knowledgeable people. PLEASE don't go!

I think I know who this is and will be messaging her very soon. We cannot lose such a lovely lady who is a fountain of knowledge. I trust she will stay and not allow anything or anyone to drive her away.

Cas you are right not to mention any names as that’s not allowed.

Thank you for your very kind and caring post. Your a star. Xxx 😘💖💝

Your postings are always considered and well thought out. So to whom ever this was dedicated to ..... I thank them.

I thank also all of those, who post, read, whether contributing or not.

It's ok I'm not leaving but I often do take a break, good to come back to a freshstart.

Well I could say “Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn!” But it wouldn’t be true because if it’s who I think it is the loss would be too great and no reason could possibly justify taking that action.

I feel for her & Understand. After Years of Consoling everyone. The forum is a Great Place and sometimes, very sad. Have a Rest Sweetie & later maybe come back refreshed, We all, in our own way help contribute with our Words of comfort to each other.( Like me, My words are not Articulate). We need to rest sometimes. Love n Hugs. C. XXX

If it is who I think it is then I must just say this, please reconsider because when I first came on this site you gave me such good information which really helped, I thought at last someone who really understands my disease and how to deal with it. If you leave who will inform the next person who comes on here with no info, how to deal with it and what to do in certain situations.

I do understand your reasoning and all I ask is go away for a while and see what you think in a couple of months. If you decide to stick to your guns and leave then I wish you all the best and thank you so much for the help you gave me in such a worrying time. Xx 😥

Hello Cas. Sadly being only with this wonderful group 6 months. I do not know who you are referring to. But i do hope this person Stays with the group so that if they ever need a listening hear or words of wisdom we will be there to repay all the help they have given to others. We need to be there for each other Brian

Cas you are so thoughtful of others. You really are. I think I've a certain person in mind but not 100% sure. In any event when you post an item like this, we know that this is a member we will sorely miss and hopefully she'll hang on and stay or maybe just have some time off?

Sending hugs to our unknown member!!! 🐿💕

Well, this truth had to surface at some point....Cas, I am a bit (more than a bit, really) dense. IOW: I don't have a clue who this could be, but I sure hope they will stay. J

I do apologize for having no clue as to whom you are speaking of but I do hope there’s not a lot of physical pain for your person as well as I do feel care and concern and if in some far off way I can help somehow please just ask. Thank you for sharing- kiss Chom for me😘

Don’t go, please, we need you and your support and your encyclopaedic knowledge.

Kate and a very sad Zebra xxx

Hi, think I know who you are referring to, her advice is (to my mind) more knowledgeable than most GP's or even most Consultants. She knows what we are going through & can almost get into our mind to see the problem through our eyes. I hope she will stay but if not, just have a break & maybe a nice relaxing holiday & come back & kick some more ass. Take care & pass on my thoughts & wishes & hugs. Missing you already

Yes . Amen to all the above. I hope it's just a break for our dear friend Take care xx

I have had so much help and support from this forum and I'm sure that I'll need loads more. I have no idea of your friends name but we need members like her.Sending love to you both.xx

I too don't know who you are talking about Cad, but I support your comments and feelings. I hate it when people are 'drummed out' by others. Each and every one of us has a right to be here and give our views (apart from trolls) so I do hope the individual concerned will overcome any negativity she has been subjected to and stay to give her wonderful insight that we have obviously all benefitted from x

Well, I hope our friend isnt leaving and just taking a break, we need people like her on this site, if she is reading then she will know just how we feel x

Caspiana , whatever it is that has caused this dear member to want to leave. I am so sorry that has happened to her. I hope that she will be encouraged by the supportive comments of so many and continue to be a part of this forum. Our love and thanks for all the support she has given to so many.

This lady is for me, someone who has given me the strength to be quietly strong while trying to work out the things I need to do to make myself "better". Her advice, which has been both polite and accurate, and her encouragement, have been a turning point for me and I would like to say thank you more than you can know. I only hope that maybe from these messages she will see that she is making a difference to people, even if she may not realise it at the time. Hoping it's just a small break and not a permanent one but understanding too. Thank you Caspiana for raising it and please pass on my thanks to this lovely lady for giving me the strength I needed.

I also am in the dark concerning your lady friend. I hope it wasn't me as i can be a bit of a bore at times. Do stay, whoever you are. This community is a great support system. Thanks Caspiana for alerting us to this sad event.

Reading the answers to this post I am confused. From one answer I got the impression this person was forced out.

Shakespeare may have said "The antagonist should have been forced from this forum, not your friend. I say "confused" because why??

I hope you have managed to persuade your friend of the value they are to this site. We need more people like them not less. I hope they can see the good they do on hear,and not listen to the few people who are not considerate enough to see the help they are.

I have absolutely no idea who you might be talking about. Sorry they are so down, this site surely depends on all contributions provided they stick to the guidelines. It would be a shame to lose a contributor, especially one that has built up an excellent reputation for being helpful and caring

I think I know as a fellow Bronch. Even though I used to be a nurse on respiratory ward I valued her advise when diagnosed with B'ectasis as it's very different when it's your own health. Such a knowledgeable lady an advocate indeed x

Hopefully this person will stay. 🐞

I hope she stays, such a knowledgeable kind and helpful lady. You are also a kind knowledgeable lady Caspiana and I admire your loyalty and your stamina replying to these posts all day.

I don't really understand what has happened here and I am not comfortable with not having some clarity of the situation. There have been many replies Cas. which show the concern of our members.

I, personally don't remember anyone posting something unpleasant or replying in an inappropriate manner. However, if something like that has happened and has upset a member, surely the best thing to do is to get to the bottom of what may well be a misunderstanding on both parts.

Of course we don't want a member to leave under such a cloud It needs airing and rectifying so that both parties and the rest of us can move on as before. We all make mistakes but sometimes need the opportunity to put right any misunderstandings we may have made. As in this particular case.

I have only been a member since last June and have gradually over time learnt a bit about many of you. In fact you are all like family to me. The Forum is quite unique and provides a lifeline to many of us. We share our worries, our illnesses, anger, frustrations, surprise. All of these and more. Each one of you contribute to making it what it is. By losing just one member will be like losing a member of the family. This cannot be allowed to happen. So..........

What on earth has happened ? I, for one feel so very, very sad that a member has been hurt enough that she feels she has to leave us! How can this be? We are all under a cloud and things have to be put right.

We all make mistakes and a simple apology could well be the simple answer to this uncomfortable problem. An apology costs nothing and will mean so much to everyone. Let's not forget, life is short, so, be kind to one another and lets try to make our time here as pleasant as we can.

Sent with the best of intentions. Chrys x

Dear Cas,if you have further contact with our hidden friend please pass on our best wishes and desire for her to return,Scruff's has lost that twinkle in her eye for the time being. xx