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kathbrad3
kathbrad3
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My husband passed away this morning he's been in hospital a week and seemed to be improving then my son came round this morning with the terrible news don't know what I'll do without him

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Kirkysnan

So sorry for your loss. 💕

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2greys

You have my heartfelt condolences and so sorry for you. It is very cruel the way that people often appear to be doing better and improving, only to pass. You must both take time to grieve properly so you can move on with your lives.

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HungryHufflepuff

I am so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family 💐

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CDPO16

Sincere condolences to you and your family.

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Don-1931

That is devastating for you Kath, I'm so very sorry.

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astragal

Hello kathbrad

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Take care.

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powderpuff

So sorry for your loss, thinking of you & your family.

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mikeadams51

So sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace and you bare your grief with dignity with support from family and friends.

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Patsy164

So sorry sending condolences. Thinking of you at this sad time 😥

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Pam1952

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you at this sad time 🌺

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Burbagegran
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I'm very sorry for your loss and the sudden shock you have had, my thoughts are with you.

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Damon1864
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So sorry to hear about your beloved husband may he rest in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, remrember we are all here for you. 😥 Bernadette xx

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Georgiab123

So sorry for your loss take care 💐

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hypercat54

I am so sorry for your loss. Try not to think about the future and just concentrate on getting through day to day for the time being x

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skischool

Words are pointless at the moment Kathbrad so just sending deep felt sympathy to you and your family at this sad time. x

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Comino2

So sorry for your loss and wishing you the strength to help you through this difficult time xx

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Andy56

Sorry for your loss :(

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Caspiana

What a dreadful shock for you Kath. I am very sorry to read this. Words are not worth much, but they are all I have to give. Sending you strength for the coming days and weeks ahead.

Cas xx 🌹

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Blackbird6

I am so sorry for you and your families loss my thoughts are with you 💞💞💞

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jmsutt73

Sending heartfelt condolences to you and your family. There is no 'easy' to grieving. As Hypercat said, just take one day...get through one day at a time. J.

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judes

Sending my sympathy to you on this sad loss. Take each day as it comes and give yourself time to grieve.

Love and hugs

J

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sassy59

Deepest sympathies to you and your dear family, so sorry for your loss. Xxx

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Kittykat2

Sending you love ❤️💕X

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Carroll

I am so very very sorry, my condolences to you and your family x

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poemsgalore1

I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you have many joyful memories to sustain you.

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cofdrop-UK

Dear kathbrad, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your dear husband. This must have come as a dreadful shock for you this morning and you must be devastated. May you find the strength to get you through this most difficult times and may remembering the happy memories you have spent together be of comfort to you in time.

Sincere condolences kathbrad to you and to your family.

With love

Cx

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Chriskho

Very sad news. Hope you have some caring support around you for a while. So sorry.

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moogle

I'm so sorry Kath. Remembering and talking about memories will help a little. My deepest sympathy goes to you and your family.

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Lyd12

Sharing this sad news is a help, a trouble shared is a trouble halved, they say. Won't seem like it, of course. Do keep in touch and let us know how you are coping, there will be others reading about this in the same boat, love Iris x

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soul-123

So sorry for your loss take care X

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Corin1950

So sorry to read this Kath.

Thinking of you and your son at this very sad time

Take good care of yourselves

Love

Corin

X

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Hacienda

My Deepest Condolences to You & Your Son Kath. Such a Huge Loss. RIP your Hubby. X

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Anita_1960

So sorry, take care x

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Echoblue

So sorry to hear of your sad news kathbrad3, my thoughts with you and your family at this difficult time. Take care x

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christina1947

I am so very sorry thinking about you must be an awful feeling good job you have your son xxx

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Oshgosh

I’m really sorry for your loss.it must have been such a shock.

Please look after yourself

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Gladwyn

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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Magpuss

Very sorry for your loss, such a shock for you. My sincere condolences to you and your family on this sad day.xx💐

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SquirrelsHolt

Oh my,just how awful for you and your family,especially as it was quite unexpected. Sending you my condolences and strength to know your husband is no longer suffering. R.I.P. 💞

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alyvonne

So sorry for you loss. Take care. Thinking of you and your family xx

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ostiad

I'm so very sorry for your loss. The fact that your husband was taken so suddenly, when you thought he was recovering, must have been a huge shock for you and your family, but now he's at peace. Please accept my condolences and may he 'Rest in Peace' . June ❤️ xx

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Judith56

I am so sorry for your loss. Give yourself some time and grace during this most difficult time. My prayers are with you and your family.

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Beulah84

So sorry for your loss

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DaftCat

I’m so sorry for your loss

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Toby14

My deepest sympathy to you.

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illawarra

What a huge shock. Feeling for you and your son in your loss. Hugs and prayers for comfort in your grief. x

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Spacecat1

So sorry. Will say a prayer for you

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Trishe

So very sorry to hear of you loss ♥️

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Schmu

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts. I am so sorry.

Sarah

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jackdup

So very sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences.

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Gingerboy1960

So sorry to hear this. Wishing you strength to get through this awful time x

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Annie04

I am so sorry to hear this my deepest condolences to you and your family. xx

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CozmoCreepers

I know saying sorry won’t take the pain away. But please know I’m thinking of you and sending love to you and your family.

Please be sure to look after yourself, even though you may feel there’s no point right now. Your husband would want you to make sure you’re ok I’m sure xx

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johnboy_10

Condolences to you and your family, good memories will see you through this sad time.

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Croydonia

So sorry Kath, I hope your family are looking after you.

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Ergendl

Oh, how awful for you. Remembering you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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Zerocmb

Deepest sympathies

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stamford1234

A Husband and a Dad may he rest in peace. So sorry Kath

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SparkySW123

My prayers are with you Kath

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Rayswife

I am so sorry to hear about your husband. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

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Alfiebax2

I'm so very sorry for your loss . Hugs to you and your family at this sad time .

Love Babs ♥️♥️♥️

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GintyFerguson

So, so sorry....that's such a shock for you. Hope you have support to lean on. It's going to take time to get through this. It's never easy. You will be in my prayers.

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Arch74

I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband, take comfort in knowing that he is not struggling or in pain any more. He is with the angels pain free. Lot's of love and hugs sent your way. ❤️😔

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Lemon7

So sorry to hear of your sad loss. Take care of yourself and the rest of your family.

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johnderby

So very sorry Kath. My prayers are with you and your family.

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HummingbirdM

So sorry for your loss,you are in my prayers x

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kathbrad3

Than you everyone for your kind words xx

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Tinker26

So sorry about your loss ,deepest sympathy to you all xx

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gingermusic

Hi Kath so sorry to hear of your husbands sudden parting. Sending much love and a big hug to you. I had a very similar thing happen to me a few years back and yes you think you will never manage without them. Take one day at a time and do not be afraid to ask for help if its needed. Slowly the hurt will get less I promise you. You take care

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Kakariki

Such sad news Kath Bless you my thoughts are with you and your family ,❤️

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Loopylorre

So sorry for your loss, sending condolences to you & your family 💕💐

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dickinson1954

Sending you hugs - so sorry for your loss x

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FlossyF

So sorry to hear your very sad news. Thinking of you. Xxx

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Jomo46

Lots of hugs, have a cry, it will get better

X jo

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Carnival567

So sorry to hear your sad news xx

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davecarol2

dear kath am so sad to read this you are in my thoughts today sweetie regards Davy boy 😢x

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Margaret_craft

So sorry for your loss Kath. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time. Loving thoughts being sent. 🌹 xx

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Response

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

We never have long enough with the ones we love. I hope that when time takes away the shock, your loving memories will give you some comfort, especially as I imagine that your husband would want you to be happy.

Thinking of you

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Titchykath

So sorry to here your sad news , look after yourself , he’s at rest and will always be by your side 👱🏻‍♀️

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labrucca3166

I'm so sorry for your loss

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Dedalus

So sorry for your loss. Sincerest condolences to you and your family and friends.

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Piperava

So sorry for your loss Kath, sending deepest condolences to you and your family. 🤗🤗🤗

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Bingo88

Thoughts are with you and the family. Take things steady each day. Remember all the years of Memories and good times you all had. In time hopefully you will move on in some way to start to smile and enjoy life a little more. Like i am sure your late husband would want you too. Love and thoughts to you all Brian

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Fircone

So very sorry to hear you have lost your dear husband. Thinking of you.xxx

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Pole

So sorry for your loss xxx

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Shirleyj

So sòrry for your loss x

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optim278

My condolences. That's tough.

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Blackcat99

So sorry for you, kathbrad3. As 2greys says, it is so cruel when people appear to be improving, then suddenly pass.

Please accept the sympathy of everyone who has replied to you, and remember that it means that there are a lot of us thinking of you, and wishing you the strength to get through this. Come back onto the forum, and let us all know how you are getting on?

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Ragnar1606

So.sorry for your loss very sad 😔

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RAGurl1

Oh Kath - I am so sorry for this. I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling right now..

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Ronnie-

Deepest Sympathy at this time, my heart goes out to you and your family x

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Spring1

So sorry for your loss

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Peppy05

So sorry for your loss

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Aingeful

Sending love and hugs to you and your family.I am so sorry to hear your news.xx

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Karmaji

Death is part of our life....

Talk Talk Talk is healing process.....

Tears flow....

Loved one has shed his robe...

In mental space he is alive as ever....

All world around us is mental creation...

.in tragic shock like this..

..let us take time to soak in grief and switch to mental presence...

A shock like this is a strange

Experience....we get in contact with a deeper innerself.....a state beyond sorrow...

Activate our unconditionned mind...

.look at our own grief from look of mind beyond life and death...

Just look at your

grief, pain ,love, life lived all moments...

It is all there as long as I breathe...

Let it play...grief tears

helpless state...

that is part of being human..

BECOME A WITNESS TO ALL THIS....

Look at the very being shaken

Just look....a peace comes in

Let the life force fill your inner self with love and joyful moments lived......

Walk along paths travelled together he is always there

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vittorio

SO SORRY TO HEAR THIS KATHBRAD3 , MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU AT THIS DIFFICULT TIME . I WILL REMEMBER YOU IN MY PRAYERS . YOU WILL FIND A WAY THROUGH THIS I PROMISE , I HAVE = TWICE , AND I KNOW ITS OFTEN BEEN SAID , AS TIME GOES BY , AFTER THE INTIAL SHOCK AND GRIEVEING , THINGS DO GET EASIER AND YOUR LEFT WITH LOVELY MEMORIES , = I PROMISE YOU …... STRANGE , - I WAS ONLY LISTENING LAST NIGHT TO A RECORDING OF MY SECOND PARTNER'S VOICE ON TAPE, TAKEN FROM A PHONE CONVERSATION RECORDED ON MY MACHINE AS IT HAPPENED , LASTING ABOUT HALF AN HOUR WHICH I TREASURE . AND ONE LAST THOUGHT, AND ITS VERY TRUE ALSO ……….. TEARS ARE BUT A PRELUDE TO JOY …. PLEASE BELIEVE ME …. AND AS A CHRISTIAN , I FIRMLY BELIEVE - YOU WILL SEE HIM AGAIN , IN A BETTER PLACE , THAN YOU COULD POSSIBLY IMAGINE …...GOD BLESS AND HELP YOU THROUGH THIS - IF YOU ASK ……..

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Gingerapple

I am so sorry, if you need to talk, please get in touch with me....Love and hugs, Bev xxx

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kathbrad3

Thanks it's nice to know there's someone there

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Gingerapple

Good morning Kath💐❤🌠

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kathbrad3

Good morning x

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PurpleAlf

I am so sorry for your loss 💔

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Neville33

I'm so sorry for your loss🙏💖

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jsdrjohnsamuel

my heart condolence to you and your family,rest in peace.

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Louiss

So sorry for your sad loss. Take care.xx.

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LAXNana

Thoughts and prayers are with you. 🤗

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hallentine47

Sorry to hear this news and our thoughts are with you and family.

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Finita1228

My deepest condolences to you and your son. I also lost my husband almost 3 years ago after a long COPD battle at 79 so I do understand your suffering at this moment. May God give you and your dear son strength and courage to carry on. 🙏

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Motherhubberd

So sorry to hear of your loss thinking of you xxx

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Lyubov

So sorry for your devastating loss.

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Izb1

So sorry for your loss, deepest condolences x

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kelseytwo

SO VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS....

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Matilda_1922

I’m really sorry to hear of your sad loss

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Tenter-boss

I’m sorry for you loss, I have been there, you just have to take one day at a time, family and friends will be there for you, make sure you look after yourself, big hugs xx

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Georgiab123

Stay strong you’ve got your son behind you, the memories you have will never disappear

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Shambles10944

So so sorry Kath to hear of your loss

ColinD

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Bumley

Sorry for your loss. condolences.

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energy1

Kathbrad3 sending you lots of thoughts going your way to you and your family xx

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Fruitbat2

So sorry for your loss,what a terrible shock for you, thinking of you

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goat-lady

Dreadfu, dreadful - but it sounds as if he passed peacefully-which is a blessing. Grief is awful., nothing I can say will make it less so. Wishing you all the strength and support you need in the months ahead. Condolences. M

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Funkydog

My deepest sympathy to you and your family, my prayers are with you all at this very sad time, God bless you all🙏🏻

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Cassib27

So sorry for your loss our hearts and thoughts are with you

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pepparuby1

Oh I’m so sorry for your loss. No one knows what it’s like unlike they experienced similar and we all grieve differently. You will feel a void and won’t know what to do. Please reach out for emotional support and help. My thoughts are with you.

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Newpost

My heart goes out to you Kath and I’m so sorry for your loss even though we have not met I understand how devastated you and your family must feel.

Bless you and I hope you find comfort in your memories.

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Cazlewick53

My most sincerest condolences at this painfully sad time for you and your family. May you find the peace you all need to be able to continue onward as your husband would probably hope you will. Take all the time you need to grieve and to remember all the wonderful times you had together. Love and prayers for you all. xxxx

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ljkd2

😢😢😢 I have just logged on and this is the 1st post ... awwww I am So So Sorry for your loss ... 😢😢😢 My sincere condolences to You and ALL Your fam ... xxxx ❤

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Osha

My thoughts and prayers are with you just remember your dear husband is at peace now

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Jessie8ruff

Nothing a stranger such as I can say at such a shock but keep strong & take care! My sympathies to you & your family x

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Azure_Sky

Dear Kath, my heart goes out to you. I know only too well how lost and alone you are feeling. I lost my dear husband too. For now I hope you have help with all the practicalities. Form filling and funeral plans. I wish you well. Please know that I along with the rest of our community are thinking of you and sending loving thoughts 💙

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mauschen

My heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your husband. Death of a loved one is never easy and worse when you least expect it.

The next few weeks will keep you busy with organising the funeral with your family. However, when your husband is laid to rest and the busyness is over, it’s then you will need support the most. Drop us a message day or night, there is always someone around to listen and offer some comfort and support.

Take care

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Tilly2402

I am so very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family at this awful time.

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Ksb6420

I am so sorry for you loss. Condolences to you and your family. Positive and happy thoughts coming your way.

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NuttyNan9

So very sorry to hear of your sad loss. My sympathy to you and your family x

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Sharp5Flat13

So sorry. A lot of support here!

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Sandyeggo

I’m so sorry for your heartache. I do hope that you trust his pain is now gone and whatever you think or feel happens next I hope you find comfort there. Be strong and do whatever you gotta do to process and get through. Peace be with you

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Vvalerie

So very sorry to hear this .

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emmo

so very sorry for your loss, kind regards.

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Rebecca6

I'm so sorry for your loss. God Bess xx

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Elephantstraw

So sorry to hear of your loss, sending love and sympathy to you and your son.xx

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Susan1200

So very sorry for your loss 🥺 God bless 🙏 you and your family.

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JR1951

Sorry for your loss prayers be with you and your family at this sad time.

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Dragonmum

What a dreadful shock for you, my heart goes out to you and your family at this sad time.

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Tosh1960

So sorry for your loss kath.

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MrsBumble2512

So sorry for your loss ... sincere condolences to you and your family x

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Gran1

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband two and a half years ago to Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis. He was on 100% oxygen. We’d been together 48 years. You must be absolutely devastated. I can imagine what you’re going through as I went through it. Grief is a very personal experience. I miss my husband and always will but I’m trying now to have some sort of normal life. It’s difficult on your own and I hope you find the courage and strength to come to terms with your sad loss. You can have a life again. Take however long you need to grieve. There is no time limit. I know that too well. Take care xx

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kathbrad3

It's been a week now and we still don't know the cause of death it's been passed to the coroner I really thought I would be the first to go it is me that has copd

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kathbrad3

I am overwhelmed with all your kind messages it's lovely to know so many people care x

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