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Hi everyone I just thought I'd let you know my mum who had ipf passed away on Wednesday. She had spent a lovely week over easter at her caravan with my step dad. On the way back she told him to take her to the pier one last time as she wasn't coming back. When she was 10 minutes away from her home she passed away in their car. It was very distressing for us has the police had to come as it was classed as a sudden death. We are now waiting to see if she needs a post mortem and we will know this on Monday.

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Sorry for loss, sincere condolences to you and your family. I guess she new wit( the last trip to the pier, wonderful memories.

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I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Thinking of you πŸ’

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So sorry to hear your very sad news. Sending love and hugs to you x

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Heartfelt sympathies to you all on your sad loss. Very sudden but your dear mum is at peace now. Xxxx

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I'm so sorry to hear of your families loss

Thinking of you πŸ’žπŸ’ž

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So sorry to hear about your mum πŸ™

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I’m so sorry for your loss yodalass - bless you all. Hugs!

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So sorry to hear of your Mums passing Yodalass and even though it sounds like she knew she was about to start another journey in time it will not lessen the sorrow that you and your family will be feeling,please accept our sincere condolences.

Ski's and Scruffy x

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I am so sorry to hear about your dear mum, bless her she must have known, at least she was happy and contented and with those she loved. Thinking about you all at this sad time God bless and keep her, RIP to your mum.πŸ˜ͺ Bernadette xx xx

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So sorry to hear about your Mum. You must be feeling shock and a huge sense of loss. Sending you my very best wishes for you and your family.

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I am sorry to hear that. I hope she did not suffer. I hope the police make's the right decision. Again I am sorry for your loss

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So Sorry to hear your lovely Mum has gone, I do hope she didn't suffer. Your poor step dad must have been so distraught. I send you my Condolences and Love at this very sad Time. xx

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So sorry for your loss, hope you can remember she had a lovely week being somewhere she loved and was given her last wish.

Sending love to you ,Step Dad and family xx

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So sorry to hear of your loss thinking of you and your family x

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I am really sorry to hear of your sad loss. You are all in my thoughts. x

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How very sad, so sorry. ☹️

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Thinking of you β€οΈπŸ™ x

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Oh my yodalass .

I am so terribly sorry. I am though, relieved she spent Easter in a place she loved with someone she loved. Her final wish to see the pier is so very touching and thank goodness she got to do that. I hope very much for comfort for you in the coming days. She must have been one remarkable woman.

With love,

Cas xx 🌹

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So sorry for your loss Please accept my condolences to you and your family. Majt xx🌹

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My thoughts are with you ,so sorry to hear this sad news x

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I'm so sorry for you yodalass, it's so sad that your mum has died. It sounds as though she has a loving family and you'll pull together in your love for her. Such a cruel disease. Thinking of you xxx

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So sorry to hear about your Mum, yodalass πŸ’• My heart goes out to you. It sounds in lots of ways, though, like a lovely end for her, after a lovely sunny weekend away with your step-dad. But death is never easy for the family and friends left bereaved. Thinking of you 🌷🌿 xx

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My sincere condolences. I know that it is no consolation at the moment but it sounds like a good way to go, having spent a nice weekend and been somewhere special for one last time. It is a terrible shock when someone dies suddenly but from my experience, it is much better than a long drawn out gradual decline. I hope that when my time comes that I go in a similar way to your mum.

Sending love and hugs. xxx

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I am so sorry to hear this news, condolences to you and your family xx

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An awful experience for your family. Your mum must have known,so she got to go the pier for the last time.

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So sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is so heart breaking.

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What a traumatic experience. I pray your mum was peaceful after seeing her beloved pier one last time.

Sincere condolences to you, your father and your loved ones.

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So sorry my deepest sympathies, to you and the family. Xxx

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So sorry to hear of your loss yodalass, my condolences to you and your family x

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Sorry to hear about yr mum. Sounds like she had a super week in the caravan and able to enjoy the lovely weather. Take care x

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My sincere condolences.

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Im sorry for your loss. My heartfelt condolences to you and your bereaved family. Praying that the family pulls through this trying time.

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So sorry for your loss. I have no words. I feel your pain. Take care!

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I am so sorry. My condolences to you and your family.

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So sorry for your loss. Let’s hope a PM is not necessary.Bless her she got what she wanted in the end . RIP

Love to you and your family.x

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Such a sad loss for you, please accept my sincere condolences. That is the way I would choose to leave this world though - a lovely week and a last look at a favourite view, I hope that fact will bring you and the family some comfort and help you stay strong.

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So awful for you, my mum had emphysema and died last Saturday unexpectedly also police and now shes with the coroners office, its a difficult time. I sympathise with what you are going through. Best wishes for resoloution soon

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My thoughts are with you, too. Shame that bureaucracy has to make such a sad time for you so clinical but they have to do their jobs, I suppose.

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So true it can take 4weeks for closure

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Aw I am very sorry to read that. You take care too πŸ’”πŸ˜ͺ xxx

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Thank you

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I am so sorry❀️

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So sorry for you loss deepest condolences to you and your family x

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So sorry to read this xx sending hugs to you all

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So very sorry for your sad loss. I am so pleased that your mum had her last wish to see the pier. All my love and prayers are with you and your family at this tragic time.

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Really sorry for your loss....my heart goes out to you xx

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So sorry to hear of your loss 🐞

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Your Mum's struggle is over, she is at peace. She would want you to understand that she needed her rest. When the shock has passed you will remember the good times in the past and be thankful for the time you had together. Wishing you strength to get through these early days and find consolation in the fact that she found some enjoyment even at the last. Love Iris x

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So sorry for your loss please try and remember the special memories you have of her xx

Lina

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Truly sorry to hear about your Mum and the trauma for your step father and all the family. Take a little consolation from her happy final memories. Xx

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So sorry for your loss Wonderful for your Mum to go like that Sending love and Strength πŸ’πŸ’

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So very sorry for your loss she's at peace now xxx

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The loss of a mother is hard and I send my sincerest condolences to you and all your family.

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I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of your mother. My sympathies to you and your family.

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Such a shock for you , your dad and the rest of the family must be a comfort knowing she didn't suffer

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Such sad news. I am so sorry for your loss. Take care 😘 πŸ’”

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Heartfelt sympathies to you and your family

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I'm so sorry about your dear Mum, but it seems that she went doing something she loved .Take heart sweetheart she didn't suffer and it was quick .Love and hugs to you and the family .😒😒😒β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️

Love Babs ❀️

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Hello yodalass, I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. Sincere condolences to you and your family. Thinking of you. HugsπŸ’πŸŒΈ

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So very sorry to hear of your sad loss, hugs to you and your family x

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Sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences.

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So sorry for your loss

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So, so sorry to hear of your sad loss. Thinking of you. X

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Soo sorry for you and your family. The pain is incredibly hard to bear but try to remember the love and laughs as well as the huge gap left. Eventually the good memories will be comforting, but for now, just sending you hugs. πŸ’•πŸ˜’xxxxx

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That’s such a shame on thinking your mum had an idea she was not long to go. She was obviously loved

By you all . Wishing you all my condolences. Brian Coombs

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So sorry for your loss, heartfelt condolences to you & your family πŸ’•πŸ’•

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Hi so sorry for your loss, my husband had IPF and passed in December 2017, the nice thing is your mum had got to go away. Dave my husband was bed bound for the last year, enjoy the good memories and look after yourself xx

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So sorry, sincere condolences. She got her last wish .

That's a very tough experience. Look after yourself .

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Sorry for your loss. I hope she doesn't need the necropsy.

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So very sorry to hear of your loss thinking of you all x

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She is with our Lord now and at peace. It sounds like she knew it was coming and wanted to see that place one more time. I am so glad she was blessed with a loving family and went to her peace in a happy and loving atmosphere.

My sincerest condolences for your loss. Know that you will meet again in time and cherish the memories you shared together. Much love and the Lord’s blessings for you and your family. πŸ’œ

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My sincere condolences to you and the family. Sudden death is so shocking but it sounds as if she didn't suffer. I don't know if she'd been ill but if not then it's the way to go. My mam died in a nursing home after 8 years with Alzheimer's, I managed the sheltered housing scheme where we lived, my dad had a flat right opposite us and I thought he had his life sorted but he died after just 6 weeks, he gave up, my husband could see it coming I didn't. He stopped eating threw his dinner down the toilet etc. My lovely husband started going in to see my dad every morning and found him lying dead across the bed one morning when I'd had to go to H.O. for a meeting. Unfortunately, there was a post mortem. I was so angry with dad at first, he didn't need to die, I thought I would have him for a long time, longevity was the thing on his side of the family but he missed mam so much. The funny thing was he wouldn't go to the nursing home, he seemed embarrassed but he once told me he was just waiting for a call to say mam had gone. I told him that would never happen as they didn't have his number, he was happy for me to make any decision about mam's care etc but he obviously loved her dearly. Sorry, I've gone on sometimes it's cathartic to get things off your chest. God Bless you all.

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And I think God Bless you too. You have been through the wars , losing both parents in a short space of time - how utterly devastating πŸ’”. Take care xxx

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I hope things are a bit easier for you now. I lost my Mum about 18 months ago. I miss her so much every day, the pain has softened a bit but I don't think it will ever go away. It must have been a real shock for you. I am thinking of you today while a decision is made about the PM. Her spirit is with you

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So sorry for your loss hun 😒

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So sorry to hear your Mum has passed. It sounds as though she knew the end was near hence asking to see the pier one last time. She spent the last days here on earth making memories for those left behind. Sending you love and hugs and hope the days, weeks and months ahead are filled with beautiful memories of your lovely Mum. Take care and stay strong. πŸ™πŸ’–β€οΈπŸ™

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Hi Yodalass, I was sad to read of your loss. When we lose people suddenly it makes it very hard for those of us left behind.

It sounds as though your dear mum had a lovely break over Easter plus she got to visit the pier one last time. Those are some really good memories to hold onto.

Look after each other at this sad time, I'm sure you'll all be able to focus on good memories in the future.

Deepest sympathy, Scousetaff

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So very sorry to hear your sad news.

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So sorry for your loss Thinking if you and your family x

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So sorry

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I am so very sorry. No matter how much we prepare ourselves for the inevitable it is always a shock and very distressing. I wish you all my sympathies and pray that knowing she is at peace will help you all to come to terms with losing her.

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I am so so sorry. My dad passed away from IPF aged 66 in September 2005. He had a grim prolonged death but he died at home surrounded by his family & we took comfort from that & the fact that he was no longer suffering. I had to remind myself daily , for a long time , that he was no longer suffering & that made it semi bearable. I hope you can try to think of your mums passing in this way. I talk to my dad (and my younger brother who died suddenly when he was abroad with us in 2014). I know I’m going round the hills here but I have this belief that , however harsh on those left behind, people pass where they are at peace in many circumstances. Your mum must have known she had little time & she wanted to see the pier. You must take comfort in that she got to see the pier & therefore when she passed she was in a place of happiness. I tell myself this about my brother very often when my heart hurts. I hope you can see it that way. Back to IPF - it is a devastating diagnosis & illness. You try to talk to your mum & also look after yourself & your family πŸ’”πŸ˜ͺ xxx

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My condolences to you and your family for your "sudden" loss. It seems that your mum knew that this was her time to leave you, especially with those lovely memories of her last wishes fulfilled and without all the machinery which comes with a hospital admission.

I understand your distress; grief and sense of dreadful emptiness will follow. Support your step-dad: he will need you and he will help you too. Don't try to be strong! Weep for her passing but celebrate her life, lived right to the last moment.

Catnip

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So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

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My sincere condolences, thank you for sharing this private memory with us.

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So sorry for your loss ,memories are forever xx

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So sorry to read this, sending you sincere condolences at this difficult time xxx

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I’m very sorry to hear of the loss of your mum. You can be assured she was happy that Easter Day, and content to sit next to her husband after a lovely holiday. My best wishes to you.

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Yodalass tears came as I read your message. Love and hugs to you at this very sad time. My thoughts and prayers are with you in your grief. It is such a shock when a loved one dies suddenly. I feel for you and your step dad having to wait for an autopsy. That is tough.

I wonder as I type why that pier may have spent so much to her. So poignant and special. How beautiful she got to be there moments before her death.

Thank you for sharing about your dear mum's death. God bless and comfort you and your family.

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It’s a tough time for you. Keep strong, lots of love

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So sorry for the loss of your precious Mum, thoughts and prayers are with you all xxx

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So sorry to hear of your Mum passing. My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time. Much love is being sent to you all. God Bless your Mum, and all the family. Xx

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So sorry for your loss. πŸ’πŸ™πŸ½x

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I am so sorry! It is good she got to go to the pier. Prayers for your family.

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My heart goes out to you on your sad loss. Sincerest condolences to all of her family and friends. So lovely that she got to spend that last week enjoying the trip to the caravan and saw the pier for one last time. May she rest in peace x

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I’m so sorry! It is so terrible losing a parent, but what a wonderful send off! Wonderful Easter weekend and a trip to the pier. She died doing what she wanted! God bless you and your family and my prayers are with you!

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So sorry for your loss x

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So sorry xx

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My darling Yodalass, you did absolutely the best for her. Thank you for sharing her last hours with us

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So sorry you lost your beloved mum yodalass. Take comfort in your memories. Sending hugs x

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Well yodalass,

What can you say in a time like this! It is not MY moment!

I wish you and your family the best, sincerely, having been there myself, many times, I know what you have to go through.

We are only able to connect with the words we enter on this site, we are here for you sweetie, night or day! Ok?

Love (genuinely)

NickπŸ’“πŸ‡³πŸ‡ΏπŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’₯

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Dear Yodalass,

I'm very sorry for the loss of your Mum, it will be very hard for you. I'm glad she got to go to the pier, it would have meant a lot to her. My condolences to you at this time. Joan

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So sorry for the loss of your mum, my thoughts are with you. xx

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So sorry for your loss.

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So very sad to read this...

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I'm so sorry to hear of your sad loss, my condolences to you and your family x

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I'm sorry your mum passed. My mum will have passed 2 years ago this August. She fought the good fight as I'm sure your mum did, too. Our Father never leaves us comfortless.

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So sorry for your lossπŸ™πŸ»β€οΈ

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My sincere condolences to you and your family. May God give you strength for the difficult days ahead.

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Condolences to you and your family on the death of your Mum. Hope the police admin gets sorted out quickly and thoughtfully.

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So very sorry for your loss xx

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So sorry to hear this, your mum is at peace now x x

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Hi yodalass.

I’m so sorry to hear about your Mum. I lost my Husband to the same disease so can sympathise with you. My thoughts are with you. Xxx

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I'm so very sorry for your loss. πŸ’

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...SO SORRY TO HEAR THIS " YODALASS "- "SUDDEN DEATH " IS ALWAYS A VERY DISTRESSING PROBLEM TO DEAL WITH ..., A CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE PASSED AWAY IN BED , BUT UNFORTUNATELY HAD LEFT HIS FRONT DOOR KEY - IN THE INSIDE OF THE FRONT DOOR LOCK BEFORE GOING TO BED ..., SO WHEN I CALLED ROUND TO SEE HOW HE WAS - I, NOR ANYONE ELSE COULD GAIN ENTRY INTO HIS HOUSE BECAUSE THE KEY WAS STILL IN THE LOCK - ON THE INSIDE ........... AND THE POLICE ( I HAD CALLED ) HAD TO SMASH A DOWNSTAIRS WINDOW TO ENTER THE HOUSE , ONLY TO FIND MY FRIEND DEAD IN BED UPSTAIRS ....WITH ALL THE DRAMA AND SHOCK THAT FOLLOWED AS A CONSEQUENCE ...AND AS YOU MAY KNOW , IF YOU ARE IN THE CLOSE VICINITY OF A " SUDDEN DEATH " - YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED BY LAW, TO LEAVE THE SCENE OF THE DEATH UNTIL A POLICE DOCTOR AND THE POLICE IN GENERAL ARE SATISFIED AS TO THE CAUSE .......I WAS THERE FOR OVER THREE HOURS ....- MY SINCERE CONDOLENCES TO YOU WITH YOUR MUM ....

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My Husband like your Mum had a wish. He wanted to go to the seaside. I took him only four or five days before he left us to Weymouth and he rode his scooter up to the seafront. I’m so glad I took him. He had his last wish as did your Mum. It’s a lovely thought that a wish can be fulfilled. Xxx

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I am deeply sorry for your loss, reading your post brought me back to when my dear Mum passed away, my Mum had emphysema and it was sudden too, my Mum also had a post mortem which confirmed that it was Emphysema that had taken her. It's so sad when it's your Mum, I love my Mum dearly as I am sure you do, with me as I am sure with you there is a hole in your heart that nothing can fill. I will remember you in my prayers and I am sending you a plethora of Angels to wrap their wings around you in your grief πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

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Rest in peace your Mum. I lost my Mum at the end of March this year and it still affects me so I can understand your grief. Such terrible circumstances for yourself and family to be put through,so I hope the necessary procedures are done soon for you.

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So sorry for your loss

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I am so sorry for your loss. She will forever be in your heart and your thoughts. I hope as time goes on that you take solace that she had enjoyed the final trip, and was happy, and now is at peace. I also hope when my time comes that it is a similar experience to your mums. Sending a mega hug and condolences to you and your family Karen x

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So sorry to hear that.. May the departed soul rest in peace and the almighty give the family to strength to cope with this loss.. heartfelt condolences

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Very sad for you all. I’m glad she had a lovely holiday though.

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I am very sorry to hear this news. It must have been an awful shock for you. I send my love and prayers.

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So sorry for your loss, take comfort in the knowledge that your mum spent her last days enjoying something she loved doing xx

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Sorry for your loss my condolences to you and your family

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god bless you both

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So sorry an awful time for you all this can be such a cruel world sometimes but your mum enjoyed her holiday that’s nice for you to know she didn’t spend a long time on a sick bed thinking of you xxx

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