Just sounding off. Am in court tomorrow to face ex husband who traded me in for 30 year younger model when I had cancer, and has now asked me to prove to court I have copd, think he is hoping I won't try and get some of his pension pot and will die soon...news for him, I don't plan on going anywhere soon and will hopefully enjoy spending his funds xx. Thank you for listening
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The same thing happened to my daughter in law’s mother. When she became ill with cancer her husband (not dil’s father) was awful and tried to get all her money at divorce. Fortunately the judge took a dislike to him because he kept interrupting the female barrister and being rude to judge, so was threatened with contempt of court and wife got a very fair settlement. I hope everything goes the way it should. Good luck xx
Get you case across that he left you when you had no income coming in because of your illness to support his spending, so he looked elsewhere and left you with no means to support yourself. How can someone ever trust a man that can do that to his wife, but then again she'll only know his side of the story.
Wipe that smile right off his face, and take comfort in it. Will be thinking about you tomorrow. Good Luck.xx
I’ve posted a couple times that 80% of mates leave when the other one gets sick. It really shows their true rotten character. Good luck to you!
He must have been a very weak man , his trophy gf will soon dump him ,that 30yr age gap will soon become unbearable for her ,just wait until he gets traded in ,im surprised hes not embarresed because everywhere they go together believe me hes being judged by other guys ,im glad your still positive hope court works out well for you
Remember that although you might appear fit and healthy in court, that COPD is an invisible disease, for a lot of the time. All of that can change at the drop of a hat and you could end up hospitalised. It is a bit late to get a doctor's letter, I hope you have some consultant's letters and perhaps a collection of your prescription counterfoils. Good luck and good riddance to a heel.
25 years ago I had to have a report from a doctor who did not know me for court because my husband claimed that he had never seen any sign of my bronchiectasis in 22 years of marriage.
The doctor wrote ‘ Before I get to the future prognosis for this lady’s long term bronchiectasis I question most strongly the morality of my being asked this question in the first place!’
This move had done my husband and his very expensive team no good at all and the judge blew them out of the water. I got all that I had gone for plus ALL costs, which is the most important.
Go for it girl, stick to your guns. Go for absolutely everything that you are entitled too plus extra because your condition limits your working capabilities!
You are going to be far better off with your own independant life and it will be the young version who finds herself tied to nursing him in his old age.
Omg....I can't believe the response I have got!! But may I take this opportunity to thank each and everyone of you for your support, I am truly touched. At the moment I am about to get suited and booted and glammed up for my big day and don't have the time to respond to you individually, but you have all helped me keep strong and knowing what you have all said will help me keep going today xxxxxx
There's a term used for what is coming his way. "Comeuppance" i.e You shall reap what you sow. As Soulboy mentioned, it wont be long before his "newer model" trades him in and takes him for a ride . When people get married they take an oath and part of that mentions "In sickness or in health". Best of luck to you.
wishing you all the luck today skater girl my ex left me after a very sad experience in our lives and she knew I was going down hill with my copd and she said no way am I spending my later years stuck in nursing someone !!! yes I’m in a bad way but never been happier bieng single and taking care of myself best I can . sending positive outcome you can do this xx
Good on you Skatergirl1.
Hit him for as much as you can and go to court looking pretty done in. No fancy looking clothes, no makeup and just a tidy hair comb. Plead the years you stood by him knowing he was playing around.
Best of luck. I am New Zealand 77 yrs old. Quite fit now, copd eased off a lot since gave up the smpkes 7 months ago.
Oh dear Skatergirl,you can well do without this? Go for the jugular...!!! My marriage broke up in very traumatic circumstances 16 years ago. I was the innocent party.Then the B* sued me for divorce on the grounds of MY unreasonable behaviour!! This was money orientated too,he wanted a bigger share of our assets .I did have a good solicitor who listed everything I had brought into the marriage. His solicitors were also informed of his wrongdoings.The settlement went in my favour and our divorce was made absolute there and then.Sixteen years on, I am happy and am managing.I have grown up children (they have nothing to do with him).Being single has so many advantages,far better than being with a shallow waste of space like him! Sending good luck vibes!
Hi all, well I have had my day or rather 5 mins in court!! He showed up with his new wife in tow....the case has been adjourned for two weeks, so that I can provide him with the evidence and answers he requested me to answer on Sat.... Judge said 60k pension not a lot, and because I am skint, can I afford to Persue a pension sharing order which can cost thousands, damm cheak of the man, judge that is. Well that has made me even more determined to fight my cas e and borrow said money to persue....now the waiting game continues until next round in court. Just poured a glass of wine!! And breath xxx
Good luck to you Skatergirl 1. Not being able to stand by a partner when they are ill and cheating on them is low indeed.
I hope that all your medical info brings forth a massive share of what he has. There is a formula for divorce based on years married and value of all the assets, but the judge on the day can also make a difference. I hope you have a lawyer, otherwise the CAB can provide free legal advice.
Best wishes xx
Hello, hellodolly , I was ill will cancer 9 years ago and had just finished have my 5th surgery when I discovered he was having an affair with a local barmaid...I kicked him out then, he wanted half my house and half my business, he had never paid a mortgage payment in the 18 years we were together, however he got nothing, because I closed my business and trashed my house and devalued it by over a 100k and the little money he did get from said house he had to pay of creditor because he was made bankrupt. I was adamant he wasn't getting a penny to set up a new life with his girlfriend from me, he was bragging he would be set for life once he got half of everything I had. I cut my nose to spite my face but Am happier with having nothing myself than give to him. He wouldn't sign my divorce papers years ago, but divorced me 2 years ago via the internet without my knowledge, I had to get the police involved, long story. I just found out last year that he had not settled the finances and left it open that if I came into money in the future he could stake a claim, so mowing going to court to close that down, but remembered he had a pension. When we were married so now going for half of it and he is going mad lol xxx. End of saga lol.. And breath