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mickyjoan4
mickyjoan4

Hello all, I wondered if you could give some advice. I am going to a funeral on the 28th and there will be a lot of people there that I haven't seen for a few years. They are all very kissy huggy people (as I was once!) and I wonder how I can stop them doing this. I know I am getting a bit paranoid about all this but have already had a copd flare up this year and really really don't want another. I don't want to be rude and obviously they will be upset (it was their mum who died) but don't know what to do. help .

I wish you all a lovely day tomorrow and a wonderful, happy healthy new year love micky xxx

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You could turn it around and pretend you’re getting over a nasty cold you don’t want to pass on, so you won’t be getting too close!

hypercat54
hypercat54
in reply to beech

What a great idea! x

Caspiana
Caspiana
in reply to beech

Wonderful suggestion beech ! Bring a HUGE hanky and every time someone zeros in put it over your mouth and say you really wouldn't want them to get your sore throat! Oh , and don't forget to bring anti-bacterial wipes or gel.

Sorry for your loss.

Cas xx 🌹

SquirrelsHolt
SquirrelsHolt
in reply to beech

Excellent idea there beech - saves all the possible awkwardness.

Ergendl
Ergendl
in reply to beech

My thoughts precisely. Does not offend.

That’s it!

mickyjoan4
mickyjoan4
in reply to beech

Thankyou Beech will deffo take a big hanky and my buff x

I would be honest and get in touch to let them know before the date. Much better than trying to avoid on the day.

I really feel your delema. It’s a tough one but if you wear a hospital mask nobody will TOUCH you. If that doesn’t work for ya I’d say avoid eye contact, could you wear pretty gloves, scarf and whatever you can think of to give yourself a bigger area of “personal space”? Or if all else fails go with honesty. “ I’ve missed you all, love you much but I’ve been ill last several years an one more cold or flu could kill me.” I’m guessing that’d work or my old personal favorite-get your beverage of choice and go hide in the bathroom til it’s all over. Make sure people see you from a distance so they all know you’re there just don’t be readily available to them. Hope you got something out of that , best of luck & Merry Christmas

On This Sad Occasion I would wear a Mask. I am used to wearing them, to avoid contamination more so at this time of year. Please do not be Embarrassed by telling them you have COPD and cannot afford catching a Cold. Happy Christmas Day Hun. xxxx

I dont have your problem as nobody comes close because of my nasal specs!

The big hankie sounds like a great idea x

Soul01
Soul01
in reply to ScouseTaffy

I think Beech and Caspiana have the right idea! They will want to avoid colds, etc!

Hidden
Hidden

I don’t see why you have to turn it around and put the blame on yourself. People need to be aware of your issues with other people’s germs whatever the occasion. Personally I am a goid kiss dodger and swift on my feet!

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Hidden

You do make me laugh lol.......😀

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Hidden

😂

Merry Christmas to you and its a terrible time to say goodbye to our loved ones. I would tend to go with Caspiana and beech whose hankie over the nose/mouth area,so they dont catch your cold,will save any further discussions on the matter. Dont forget to wrap yourself up nice and warm and I hope everything goes as well as can be expected.

Having had two flare ups this year plus several chest infections I have a word of advice (literally from my GP's mouth). Stay away from crowds and close contact with other people. You don't have to treat them like lepers but, as Beech says, be polite and explain that you don't want to pass on any infections. Good luck and have a nice Christmas.

Get yourself some Vicks First Defence, an anti viral. I use it when flying and being in crowds. Is excellent as avoiding people's bugs. Good luck

That’s a tricky predicament.

Something similar happened to me a few weeks ago and I was unable to attend the funeral of a very dear friend due to a chest infection. It was the hardest decision not to attend and I felt very sad. Please do whatever it takes to care primarily for yourself.

Just tell the truth - hugging and kissing is not mandatory. Can’t understand it tbh - twenty or more years ago we respected each other’s personal space. It was much better.

Hidden
Hidden

Try living in France, it is impolite not to give a double cheek kiss, if it's good friends 4 !!!!!! I am now very rude and ask before I go into a room of people, if any one has a cold etc and yes I wear Vicks, my family and people that know me well no longer even hug and keep away if they have an infection, do rather feel like a leper though.

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