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Sad day..

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Hello BLF friends,

Thank you for your messages of support.

It is freezing here, you can’t feel the sun but at least there was sunlight.

It was a sad day. I thought Dad’s urn was beautiful there with the flowers. There were a few people attending apart from the family. Not many friends left when you die at 88.

So they opened the tomb, put his urn next to his wife’s and my brother said you speak first, so I said a few words about the final meeting of two soul mates who had missed each other over the last four years and Dad finally finding peace, thanked everyone and we threw a white rose in, that was the hardest for me, being the final goodbye.

I am going to stay a few days I think. I need some time to recover. Walk in my home town, see my family.

Take good care everybody xx

Fran

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knitter

A sad occasion for you and the family , but he is at peace and reunited with his other loved ones now.

I remember doing the same for my late father, only my mother and I were there, apart from the helpers , on a Welsh hillside in the pouring rain. But there is a beautiful view across the valley on a good day.

Your father is there amongst the trees, at peace.

Take time to look after yourself now. Thinking of you.

in reply to knitter

What a lovely picture 😊 I can now picture Dad among those trees 🌳 thank you 💕

I did go to Wales a couple of times at least, to Brecon on a caravan trip with school children. We stayed by a lake but I don’t remember the name. We did walk!! Another time I went on a pastoral care course at Swansea’s University and had a week’s holiday on the Gower Peninsula..

You live in a beautiful part of the world xx

Fran

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Shancock

My dads funeral was emotional too, but it's also a helpful part of the process I think. Stay warm x

in reply to Shancock

Sorry you also had an emotional time. Thank you so much x

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Caspiana

*Hug* Thinking of you Fran. xx 🌱

in reply to Caspiana

Thanks Cas xx

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sassy59

Bless you and your family Fran. Take time to think and be with those close to you.

The flowers look beautiful and I wish you all the best. Be kind to yourself.

Lots of love xxxxx

in reply to sassy59

Thank you so much Carole 💓

I did absolutely nothing today. Saw some big snowflakes but it didn’t settle. Hopefully that Siberian weather goes back where it came from!!

Take care too xx

Fran

Thoughts are with you. I totally understand the feeling you must have. Take care. Stay strong.

in reply to

Thank you so much 😊 I’m trying x

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2greys

Yes, that has to be a sad moment for you, but t least you got to say goodbye. I never had the chance to say goodbye to either of my parents.

in reply to 2greys

Sorry 2greys you never got a chance to say goodbye to your parents 😢Well my Mum is still alive, she was 90 this year. My stepbrother said I’m an orphan now, poor thing, both his parents in that tomb. Thank you for sharing x

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breatheeasy1

Hi Fran well done for staying strong and being there to the end with him. I imagine it was very hard but you did the right thing all the way along. Stay a couple of days and recoup...we're all thinking of you...hugs and love xx Anne xx

in reply to breatheeasy1

Hi Anne thank you so much for your kind words xx

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Yatzy

Hi Fran 🌹 You describe a beautiful final goodbye to your Dad. May he rest in peace. He was very much loved, nurtured a very loving and thoughtful daughter as well as other successful children, and he lived to a ripe old age, which adds up to a very good life. Life is never everlasting but it’s sometimes very hard to say Goodbye. At least it’s you bearing the burden of parting now, no longer him. Perhaps that’s some comfort. Let your stay in Paris be a comfort, stay warm, and come home when you’re ready. Lots of love 💕🌹☀️🌷🌸 Penny xx Speak soon x

in reply to Yatzy

Hi Penny

Very kind of you, thank you 💕

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Corin1950

Thinking of you, Fran.

Take good care of yourself

Corin

in reply to Corin1950

Thank you Corin 😊

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cofdrop-UK

Thinking of you Fran.

Cx

in reply to cofdrop-UK

Thanks a lot x

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Carnival567

A very sad occasion, thinking of you xx

in reply to Carnival567

Thank you 😊 xx

Thinking of you Fran take care. Majt 🌷Xx

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Thanks Majt 🌸

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Damon1864Volunteer

Thinking of you Fran. God bless your father.xxx

in reply to Damon1864

Thank you so much Bernadette xx

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pegbl

My thoughts and prayers are with you, it's a very hard to say goodbye to those we love xxxx

in reply to pegbl

Thank you Peg 🌺 xx

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O2Trees

Hard times Fran, how sad. But lovely to unite them. Grieving is so hard, thinking of you xx jean

in reply to O2Trees

Very kind of you Jean xx

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Kitten-kat23

My thoughts are with you. Hugs xoxoxo

in reply to Kitten-kat23

Thank you Kitten 🐱

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hypercat54

What a sad task you had to perform Fran. I hope it helps you and your other family members find closure and some peace. Look after yourself and a big hug for you. Bev xx

in reply to hypercat54

Thanks Bev, you are very kind xx

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skischool

Happy.you honoured dad in the best possible way just as you cared for him likewise when he was alive,as you say two 'soul mates' resting together is a joyous thought at a time of sadness for those left behind...Rest and recover at your own pace my sad but happy friend....Skis and Scruffinetta xx

in reply to skischool

Thanks for those kind words Skis my friend and give a cuddle to Scruffynounette for me xx

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SquirrelsHolt

That was so beautifully written - your love for both Mum and Dad shone through! They are together and at peace,keep this image in your head when times get tough and I'm sure it'll help.

Thinking of you.

in reply to SquirrelsHolt

Thank you so much 😊

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Stumpy55

Hello Fran, thinking of you at this sad time, my prayers are with you. God Bless you and your Family 🙏🌹

in reply to Stumpy55

Thank you very much Stumpy 😊

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Stumpy55 in reply to

Your welcome, look after yourself and keep warm 🌹😉

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mas7656

Losing a parent is very emotional and sad time.

I an thinking of you.

in reply to mas7656

Thank you very much 😊

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Tugun

So sorry for you Happylondon

in reply to Tugun

Thank you for your kind thought 🌸

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katieoxo60

The Urn and flowers look beautiful Fran, you deserve a fewdays rest and walk down memory lane. Glad to here all went well, take care speak again soon . Thinking of you XXX

in reply to katieoxo60

Thank you Kate 💕

Yes I am on my way to my cousin’s..family tour. Then we will see my aunt who is 92. Traffic is horrendous.

Take care x

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katieoxo60 in reply to

Take care yourself too Fran x

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Dedalus

Sad but beautiful at the same time for the soul mates. Thinking of you. Hugs xx

in reply to Dedalus

Thank you 😊

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watergazer

Though a sad time for you all it sounds like a perfect memorial service for a dearly loved one. Stay strong and think of all your happy times . Take care. x

in reply to watergazer

Thank you so much 😊

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Izb1

Hi happylondon, thank you for sharing your day with us. I am so glad you felt well enough to make the trip. The day will stay in your memories and it all looks lovely. Just take one day at a time and let all your emotions out. Will be thinking of you. X

in reply to Izb1

Thank you very much 🌸

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Shirleyj

Thinking of you x x

in reply to Shirleyj

Thanks Shirley 🌺

You take care too. It’s such a sad occasion to have to go through. Thinking of you and sending hugs.

in reply to

Thank you 😊 Hugs back 🤗

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Ergendl

Blessings. Take time to let your emotions heal x x x

in reply to Ergendl

Thank you 😊 yes I need to xxx

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Nicholatracy

A sad occasion but wonderful memories 🌸

in reply to Nicholatracy

Thank you for your kind words 😊

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