Lost dad 2week ago

Hi I'm Paul, we lost my dad 2 weeks ago through lung disease.

He was diagnosed 13/12/2016 and lost his fight 11/02/2017 due to Squamous cell cancer, he also had ipf, asbestosis and emphysema!

At his diagnosis in December his scan showed he had about 25% of his lungs healthy, the rest was diseased, the cancer was minuscule on the scan compared to the other diseased areas but it was also in his lymph system

Don't know why I feel the need to share this, but I would like to do something to help others suffering

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  • Hello this site is not just for people with lung disease, it's for everyone who has to live with it in their lives. It's so nice to hear someone wants to help, please keep posting . So sorry about your dad,but he would be so proud of you. Take care and please stay in touch xxx Bernadette 😊

  • Mum and I nursed dad at home and found some ways of getting fluids and a little sustenance into him towards the end which could help others going through the same

  • I think if you have been thru things like this with family you are much more knowledgeable than you realise. Keep reading and commenting You might make someone's day and be able to help. X

  • Daft as it sounds, ice pops, ice cream were our saviours when dad's mouth was full of ulcers

  • Wee things like that are useful if someone is at a loss on how to help family It's amazing how a little chat can make all the difference. X

  • So very sorry too hear your news it's a sad time for you and your family

    Take care

    Dorothy

  • Hi PaulSEvans "Welcome" to our friendly and informative community. The forum isn't just for sufferers of lung disease it is also for carers as well.

    I am sorry to hear that you have lost your dad Paul. He certainly had more than his fair share of illnesses to contend with. You don't say if your dad was a member of our forum but had he been he would have received a lot of support from people similar to himself.

    Possibly you feel the need to share with us as part of your grieving process and that's alright, that's what we are here for. Often it helps just to talk with someone other than your family and friends. Please feel free to come on here and let your feelings out if it helps you, no one will mind.

    Regards.

    John

  • I think he was a member as mum insisted on no flowers but a donation box for the lung foundation

  • Thanks for your reply Paul. I hope it helps coming on here.

    John

  • Not sure at the moment John but if I can help anyone I will

  • Hi Paul and welcome. I'm sorry to hear you lost your Dad to Lung disease.

    My strong and healthy, lifelong partner, died within 2 weeks of diagnosis of lung cancer. It took 4 weeks of deep, agonising, 24/7 itching, for them t give him an chest Xray.

    It was a terrible, terrible time, the feelings of fear and helplessness were overwhelming.

    My son's and I, took some comfort from the fact he died 2 days before the start of the gruelling Chemo that would have only given him a few extra months because, we all knew he wouldn't have coped with it at all.

    There are many more on here who have lost someone dear from lung disease, so you have come to the right place for help and comfort to help you through your grief.

    I feel for you xx

  • Thanks for this, we too were pleased that dad wasn't offered chemo, from what I've seen with my mother-in law, it would have made his final weeks terrible, not that they weren't, but it could have been worse

  • I'm glad you and your family felt the same way as we did.

    The consultant's nurse told me after he died that she had seen hundreds of patients and she could tell which type of people, would handle the treatment and she said Jack, would not have coped with the being poorly.

    It's been five years now, and he's missed terribly but, we can now laugh about the good times we had with him.

    Whenever, I feel really low because he's not here, I remind myself of this and it helps immensely xx

  • Strange as it may seem, my mum, sister and myself have spent the last 2 week solidly together, something we haven't done for years, we have laughed, cried and reminisced! But we felt so guilty for laughing!

  • Sincere condolences Paul. Think of you and your family x

  • I'm so sorry to hear about your dad but never feel guilty for laughing, your dad would want you remember the good times and not dwell on the bad. It's so lovely that you and your family managed to spend some time together I'm sure your dad's spirit was with you too. What a lovely caring family you are.

    Take care x

  • Thinking of you and your family x

  • Don't feel guilty,you did everything to mmake him comfortable and let him know he will always be loved xxx

  • So sorry to hear of your loss, my heart goes out to you.

    Take Care

    X

  • Hello Paul, how lovely your dad had/has a son like you, must have been such a comfort to him, the laughter is just an expression of love for your dad and an acknowledgment of his personality, no need for guilt, although it's human to feel guilty when someone we love dies. Sounds like dad had a rough time of it, poor love. There are all sorts of ways you can help Paul, there might come a time when you might want to step back, then there's fund raising volunteering, I'm sure a lot more. I send my condolences to you, sister, mum and rest of family, take good care of yourself, and keep comeing on here xxx

  • So sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you xx

  • Sorry for your loss Paul

    In GOD's care

    Will & Susan

  • How sad for you and your family, Paul, you have my sincere sympathy. Stay strong, and I hope that in helping others you will help yourself to overcome your loss. God Bless you, Albert.

  • Dear Paul,

    Thank you so much for your thoughtful and informative post. my dear Dad ,Ted, died 14 years ago from squamous cell carcinoma of the lung.

    It is very brave of you to inform others of this terrible disease.

    Please take very good care of yourself .

    Bridget

  • Sorry to read of your loss Paul, but thank you for sharing and reaching out to others, take care, at least your dad is at peace now no more suffering. My thoughts go with you at this sad time x

  • Sorry for the loss of your Dad.x

  • Sorry for your loss

  • So sorry for your loss Paul - hopefully your dad didn't suffer too much - May he rest in peace. Condolences to all his family and friends.

  • Sorry to hear your sad news Paul. It is probably no consolation but at least your dad is free of pain now.

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