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Dads Decline

well after my previous post guys it breaks my heart to say that dad lost his battle yesterday in fighting the infection caught after chemo. He declined by the hour and we didnt know until yesterday that the lung tumour was covering part of the heart. I dont know how to deal with the death of dad as its my first experience my heart is broken my best friend gone and way too soon. the only thing I take from it is that dad is no longer suffering and no more connected to all those horrible tubes and machines. a good man taken way too soon unfortunately. thank you all for your kind wishes throughout dads diagnosis 9 weeks to the day since diagnosis - very short to deal and accept all this. xx

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I am so sad to read your post. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I would imagine that you will find it very difficult to deal with. You need time and slowly you will be able to remember the fantastic times you have had with your Dad and how lucky you have been to have had him in your life. The pain will slowly become bearable. You will always miss him but you will be able to smile again. Take each each day slowly, with lots and lots of love TAD xxx

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Hi Tad, I lost my dad in 2010 and my Mom last year, so, I feel your present mental situation by my heart. God, the almighty will obviously take care of him in the heaven. Take care.

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Sorry Tad. It was my mistake. It should be Dcryan.

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My sincere condolences. So sorry to hear your sad news. The passing of a loved one, especially to experience it for the fast time, must be devastating. You WILL get through it. Just remember the good times that you had with your Dad. Together with your step-mum..be strong. Regards-Dave.

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Very sorry to read your sad news, my condolences to you and your family.

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so sorry to hear of your sad loss ,i know your in bits at the moment but time will ease the pain , i lost my mother when she was 57 so know how you feel at min , but its very true words tadaw has said to you , take care

Malcolm

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I am so sorry to hear ur news, condolences to u and all ur family, we're all here if we can help in any way. Thoughts are with u. God bless xx sonia xx

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So sorry. A great loss to you all. Love and hugs

K x

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Oh my love, my heart goes out to you, I know how you are suffering, and it seems like no words can take away the pain and you will never get over it. I lost my Dad a long time ago, it was very unexpected and he was only 64, younger than me. I can assure you, the pain does lessen, I still think about him most days, and often relive the good times and memories I am left with.

You can take comfort in that your Dad is no longer suffering, and, if you are a believer, that he has gone to a better place.

My thoughts, love and best wishes for you and your family,

Take care,

Christine. XXXX

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Sending heart felt sympathy to you and so very sad for your loss. Your dad is resting in peace now. x

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Very sorry to read of your sad news today my condolences to you and all your family

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So very sad to hear this and I know you must be totally devastated. Praying for you to have strength, to help you through this ordeal. Losing a parent is terribly difficult at any age.

As time goes by, I hope you will be able to look back on the happy times.

You did your very best for your beloved Dad, he was able to leave this world, knowing he was truly loved.

Love and best wishes

Azure Sky xxx

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Sincere condolences to you & your family.Thinking of you,at this very sad time.

Thankyou,for letting us know,& do pop in at any time,if you need to vent.

Take comfort in each other,& remember the happy times,& remind yourself that he is at peace now,

All best wishes,

Wendells xx

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I am so sorry for your loss I lost my mum 3 years ago from cancer you just have to take it one day at a time xx

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So sad to hear this.

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My deepest sympathy for you. I lost my mother last year but it is important to remember all the good things and put the bad memories away. It never brings them back but leave a place in your heart for them always.

Be well

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Hi I am so sorry for your loss love. I have lost both my parents and know how you feel. He is in a better place now where he won't be suffering any more. I believe we meet our loved ones again some day and hope you do as this is a comfort. Lots of hugs Cal xx

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Bless you all thinking of you at this very sad time

XxSally

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So sorry to hear your very sad news. It will take you a long time to find some kind of 'normal' after such a tragedy. I can't think of anything worthwhile to say to you at the moment, just to hope that eventually you will be able to come to terms with your father's death. xx

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I am so sorry to read your sad news...my condolences to you and your family.

Time is a great healer and you will find..in time.. great comfort remembering all the happy times you had with your dad.

Thinking of you at this very sad time in your life

Velvet xx

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My sincere condolences to you & your family. What a sad time this is for you all. My thoughts & prayers are with you 🙏🌺

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So sorry to hear of you losing your dad I know how heartbreaking this is take care of yourself x

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I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of your dear Dad. Please accept my sincere condolences to you and your family. No wonder your heart is broken. You must have had a wonderful relationship with your very precious Dad, describing him as your best friend. It must be so hard.

May you have the strength to get through this, keeping in mind your Dad is no longer suffering in the way he was. You must have some wonderful memories of the wonderful times you have spent together.

Please come on here any time. We are all here to support you.

With love

cx

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thinking of you and your family, so sad. jan x

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I am sorry about your news. Your father will always be with you in your memories. Kaye

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I'm so sorry. I lost my Mum after a devastating diagnosis and very short illness. As well as the loss you have to cope with the shock. I am thinking of you and holding your hand through this horrible time.

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So sorry for your loss keep strong.

Patx

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I am so sorry to hear about your Dad, and can only add to all the wonderful sentiments by all in this forum. Husband passed on last December. It is only now that I am feeling a little easier. Memories are becoming more bearable. But there will always be sad moments. Loved him to bits. X

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So quick! But the blessing there is that your father did not suffer for a long period. You will always miss him, but the pain will fade eventually. I send my deepest sympathy, with love. xx

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So very sorry to hear your sad news, it must be very hard for you it all seemed to come in such a short time. I know it will be very painful right know for you but slowly time will help you heal a little, you will remember him with love and fondness. My thoughts and prayers go with you. Peg xxx

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My sincere sympathy on the death of your beloved father, it's a terrible

Shock and you will need time to grieve and come to terms with your loss.

It's good that your Dad is out of his pain and even though he is passed his

Spirit lives on and you can rest assured that he was very proud of you

And all you did.

Please take care of yourself at this difficult time, you will be in my

Prayers.

Hannah

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So sorry to hear of you loss. My sincere condolences to you & your family.

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Sorry to hear of your sad news, it will take time to come to terms with such a sudden loss of a close relative. My thoughts go with you and your family, take care and treasure the good times in your heart xx

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I'm so sorry for you and your family, I lost my brother to the same and its heart wrenching, he is at peace now and he knew he was loved. Bless you all x

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear dad, all love. Xxx

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Dcryan77, what a dreadful time for you and your family,really heart breaking to loose him, lovely to have had such a dad,I am sure he loved you just as much as you loved him, look after yourselves,regards Bulpit

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I am so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family at this very sad time. June xx

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So sorry for your sad loss Dcryan.. Thinking of you and the rest of your family and all your father's friends at this time.

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Such sad news - so sorry for your loss - my condolences to you and your family. Be strong for him, which is what he would have wanted. x

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Sad time Dcryan, you have my deepest sympathy. God bless.

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Sorry to hear of your dad's passing, Dcryan. But if you remember the good times together, he really hasn't gone too far. He'll always be there.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,

I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glint on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,

I am the swift, uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circling flight.

I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.

I am not there, I do not sleep.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.

I am not there, I did not die!

Dec

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So very sorry to hear that you`ve lost your dad. It`s a heartbreaking time for you but take comfort in the fact that he knew how loved he was. Deepest sympathy to you and your family, Sheila x

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My deepest sympathy to you and your family for your loss. Remember...time heals, the pain will grow less and you'll still have your beautiful memories. R.I.P

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Thinking of you at this very sad time

polly

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Such sad news, you have my deepest sympathy.

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so sorry for your loss xx

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I am so sorry to hear your sad news my thoughts are with you.

I lost Mom 2 years ago the first 6 months was hard sorting out her estate no time to turn around and I missed her so much, now life seems a little better I still miss her but somehow seems different.

It helped me to remember the good times and we are always hear for you take care xx

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I don't know what more I can say to you - I lost my husband ten weeks ago & things are still very fresh & raw but I hope, like me, you have good support from family,friends & neighbours. Thinking of you at this very sad time.Love, Helen.

"The life of one we love is never lost......It's influence goes on through all the lives it ever touched"

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So sorry to read your news and my thoughts go out to you during this very sad time.

Please try and remember those happy times, of which there will be many.

Hugs,

Catherine x

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please accept my belated condolences, i had been in hospital myself and just read this,

its always sad when we read posts like his, words are so hard to find.

be strong and try remember the good times ,

thinking of you at this time

jimmy

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My heart goes out to you

I pray you sleep, just hold all your good memories. Maybe create an album/scrapbook. It does help. God bless. M

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