moving on

Lost my big brother today... its 04.30 and I can't sleep. He had copd for many years now, and at the age of 82 it was wearing him down.

I, my big brother, and my sister all have this desease, but he was the oldest, so was bound to go first... it had effected all his internal organs in one way or another, and I think the thought of having another go at the face mask/carbon monoxide treatment ( I don't exactly know what this treatment is called, but it sucks the monoxide out of your bloodstream I think) was just too much to bear. I think he had had enough.

He was "old school". East End raised, by a loving mum and dad, went thru the war as an evacuee( brought back promtly to the blitz when mum and dad found him and my sister being badly treated by the family they were posted to) but survived and flourished.

Married in the 50s and moved out to Basildon, where he raised a loving family, who spoilt him rotten... He had love by the bucketfull.. never too much money, aand always had to work hard for what he had, but his family was everything to him... and we will all miss him so much.

To all the people out there who suffer alone, for one reason or another, wether it be a long past slight, or some other silly reason, get in touch with YOUR family. When you have "moved on" it will be too late.

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  • My sincere condolences sparkster..my prayers are with you and your family.

  • A thank you for that ,I supose nothing is more important than family,make effort if it's hard to get on ,this disease brought you all closer as you all have the understanding of each other ,I live near my family but have to stand my ground to what I need,whether they understand why I don't do some things or not.,as its me I have to look out for.very single minded. Anyway sorry to hear sad news,keep fighting.

  • Morning Sparkster, So very, very sorry to read your post and dreadful that you all suffer from the same condition, your darling brother was obviously loved to bits, No one can ask for anything more, Try to take comfort in the wonderful memories you all have. How I agree, the Pap Mask is like an ancient torture device, My darling husband dreaded having to have it after he had it the first time, Sadly tho they are a vital for many people who have to use them to stay alive, Take care, Prayers and thoughts are with you and your family Bulpit

  • I am so sorry about your brothers passing, he had as you say love by the bucketful, you can't get better than that. Love and blessings to you, love LeeLee.

  • I too am so sad to read of your brothers passing...But what a lovely tribute you paid to him with your post.

    It was so lovely to read of your brothers life, and the warmth and love that he generated. I feel that you gave us a 'sense' of your brother with your words.

    I too was born in London and lived through the war years there ( although I was only a baby) but the picture you painted rang very close to my heart

    They say that you never die when you live on in the hearts of those that loved you, your brother will live on in many hearts.

    Thanks so much for your post

    Love Sohara

  • What a great post and lovely tribute to your brother.

    Wonderful to hear that he was cherished.

    All good wishes to you and your loving family. P xxxxx

  • Hello Sparky, so sorry to hear of your brother's death; clearly he was loved by all & he will be missed.

    My condolences to you. Love Margaret x

  • With deepest condolences Sparkster to you and your family, at least your brother is at peace now no more suffering. You will be in my thoughts at this sad time x

  • I am very sorry to hear of your brother's death. I am thinking of you in your loss. x

  • Hi Sparky, I send my condolences to your and your family at this very sad time, you will always remember those good times you had together and will still hold the love in your heart.

    polly xx

  • Sparky, I am very sorry to hear that your big brother has passed away. You sound a very loving family and I am sure his personality and bravery will still influence the generations coming after him Love KatieJJ.

  • Hello Sparkster, so sorry to hear about your brother but glad to hear that he as loved so much. My thoughts are with your family and may you brother Rest in Peace . :( x

  • So Sorry Sparkster. He has left some lovely memories behind.

  • I'm very sorry for your loss, he sounds like he had a wonderful family who cared about him very much. May he now rest in peace.

    Kim xxxxx

  • What a trooper Sparkster, what a loss but what wonderful memories you and your sister must have of him. Your plea for those who have become separated from their families to reconnect and make up is moving too.

    Thinking of you and hoping knowing your brother is free of his struggle is some comfort to you.

  • Sorry to hear of your loss. 82 is a ripe age for most and it seems he had a good life.

  • So sorry for your loss.

  • Hi, Sparkster, so sorry to hear of your loss, I'm sure you have many happy memories to give you strength over the coming weeks. It sounds like your brother was well loved, and I'm sure he had lots of love and support during his final days.

    love and best wishes to you and your family.

    xxxx

  • Thank you all so much for the kind wishes and love you have all shown in your posts.

    Was just checking my emails when I originaly wrote about my Brothers passing. trying to fill time, and calm my racing brain.

    Was'nt till I checked into the Healthunlocked site that I thought I'd post my feelings. Just to write something down.

    I felt better for it, and and overwhelmed by all your kind responses I saw today.

    Thank you .

  • Thank you all so much for the kind wishes and love you have all shown in your posts.

    Was just checking my emails when I originaly wrote about my Brothers passing. trying to fill time, and calm my racing brain.

    Was'nt till I checked into the Healthunlocked site that I thought I'd post my feelings. Just to write something down.

    I felt better for it, and and overwhelmed by all your kind responses I saw today.

    Thank you .

  • Wonderful words for your brother - he was obviously a much loved man and so his passing must have caused a lot of sadness for you all. My deepest condolences.

  • So sorry to hear of your loss.

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